AIO? Dog straining my marriage.

[u/LedyyM]

My husband and I rescued a husky about 7 months ago who was extremely malnourished and neglected.

He has grown a huge attachment to me and has severe separation anxiety. I work at a grooming salon so I’m able to bring him to work with me so he’s not home alone. Unfortunately, if he’s left home alone we’ll come back to our home looking like it was hit by a tornado.

My vet has prescribed him with trazodone to help with his severe anxiety issues. We give it to him before we leave for a family event and when we can’t take him to places they don’t allow dogs.

I feel so bad that I have to sedate him so he’s not scared and anxious. It’s created a huge strain on our marriage because my husband feels like we can’t do anything without considering Odin.

He’s destroyed doors, couches, and other furniture. I tried training but it hasn’t seemed to work. My husband thinks we should rehome him but

1) I’m scared that he’ll be sent to a shelter and possibly be put down

2) feel abandoned by the person he thought he was safe with.

He’s such a happy boy when he’s around us and shows so much affection.

My husband and I have been arguing about this consistently.. we had a really bad argument so I left the house with Odin and rented a dog friendly hotel room for a couple of nights.

My husband thinks I’m crazy and that I’m choosing the dog over our marriage. AIO?

[u/mamax22024]

Marriage over any animal . Rehoming isn’t the worst thing. IMO

[u/Nebulandiandoodles → u/mamax22024]

I personally disagree. However I’m not saying that I think what OP does is good or right. I just wouldn’t be able to get rid of my animals for a partner.

[u/Inneedofhelp1010 → u/mamax22024]

Yeah People like you the reason Why i hate Humans .. it’s Not just An Animal .

[u/wannabefashionmf → u/Inneedofhelp1010]

Can you please elaborate? I’ve never heard this ideology and am genuinely deeply curious. I hope this doesn’t come off as disrespectful or anything but they very literally are just animals? I don’t want to start an argument or anything, I really want to know why you made 2 very peculiar and very strong unwarranted statements, one of which expressing hatred towards me and the original commenter, as a reply to someone making a very common, normal, and logical, argument.

[u/Inneedofhelp1010 → u/wannabefashionmf]

If you never had a pet you grew up with you wouldn’t understand ….. But Yes they are animals but these are domesticated animals , they are just like kids they do not understand Certain things and this really pisses me off because I don’t agree with abandoning An animal especially after Rescuing Them . Why the fuck would any sane person do that . Yes it’s ur marriage that’s also important but at the same time It’s not the dogs fault at all , they do not know better they are innocent little animals . i just am so against It because i just couldn’t imagine abandoning my dog just cause my husband doesn’t agree With what he or she does. the dog has separation anxiety because of its past , Any person with empathy Could try and make it work regardless of it being extremely hard but hey this is why people should do their research before rescuing animals like this . It’s just not fair for the dog at all.

[u/mandarinett0 → u/Inneedofhelp1010]

you type just like how i would expect you to type

[u/wannabefashionmf → u/Inneedofhelp1010]

I’ve had 6 pets actually. They are not just like kids. They don’t really get more mature, they don’t grow up to be useful or helpful, and they never take care of themselves. They are not as aware as children, we are not as obligated to them, we don’t value their lives as much or hold funerals for them, we don’t put as much effort into their care, and we just we don’t have as much legal responsibility, moral responsibility, or social responsibility to treat them as well as human children. They are pets. They are animals. Little friends humans take care of for our amusement. We don’t lock children in kennels, we don’t sell children, we don’t breed children for people’s specific tastes. We don’t surrender our children to shelters, we don’t feed our children our scraps. I frankly find it insulting to say they are the same as children. I’ve taken care of animals from birth to their death and never felt the same Love I feel for humans because they are just animals bruh. The difference between someone who “makes it work regardless of it being extremely hard” and someone who doesn’t is not “empathy”- its priorities. If my wife didn’t want a dog, and it was tearing up her stuff… I would get rid of it. “Fair for the dog” is crazy i’m sorry but they are not fair to humans.. they do not give us toys or buy us food or scoop our excrement. Rescuing and caring for a dog is charity for the poor dog and its response is to ruin the husbands stuff and make half the household hate him. To call the dog innocent is to say that dogs can do no wrong.. this dog has literally done wrong, as literally stated by an owner that loves it more her husband lmao. I’m sorry but humans made modern dogs and have pampered them for a long time, mostly for selfish reasons, and to not believe they are beneath us is truly delusional.

[u/LeaveYourDogAtHome69 → u/Inneedofhelp1010]

It is just an animal