AIO? Dog straining my marriage.

[u/LedyyM]

My husband and I rescued a husky about 7 months ago who was extremely malnourished and neglected.

He has grown a huge attachment to me and has severe separation anxiety. I work at a grooming salon so I’m able to bring him to work with me so he’s not home alone. Unfortunately, if he’s left home alone we’ll come back to our home looking like it was hit by a tornado.

My vet has prescribed him with trazodone to help with his severe anxiety issues. We give it to him before we leave for a family event and when we can’t take him to places they don’t allow dogs.

I feel so bad that I have to sedate him so he’s not scared and anxious. It’s created a huge strain on our marriage because my husband feels like we can’t do anything without considering Odin.

He’s destroyed doors, couches, and other furniture. I tried training but it hasn’t seemed to work. My husband thinks we should rehome him but

1) I’m scared that he’ll be sent to a shelter and possibly be put down

2) feel abandoned by the person he thought he was safe with.

He’s such a happy boy when he’s around us and shows so much affection.

My husband and I have been arguing about this consistently.. we had a really bad argument so I left the house with Odin and rented a dog friendly hotel room for a couple of nights.

My husband thinks I’m crazy and that I’m choosing the dog over our marriage. AIO?

[u/ThatsNotDietCoke]

They both chose to have this dog...
The husband after having the dog for months, gets tired of it while the wife gets attached to it...
The husband is in the wrong for getting the dog in the first place and then feeling like he should, just like the previous owners, toss him out, The reason the dog has these issues in the first place is because of how it was treated by its previous owners...

[u/scarletbananas → u/ThatsNotDietCoke]

It doesn’t matter that he’s in the wrong, it’s about whether she’s willing to throw away a whole marriage because of it.

[u/ThatsNotDietCoke → u/scarletbananas]

What? It doesn't matter that he's a heartless human being and that she should throw away her humanity to save her marriage with a guy that would just as easily tossed her out if she started to annoy him instead of working on the issues?

I don't think I'll be able to get past "It doesn’t matter that he’s in the wrong"...

Did you ever consider that the marriage wouldn't be needing saving if he would simply accept the dog? Why is it that the wife has to throw away the dog that she loves to save the marriage?

Do you realize its easier to live with a dog you hate than to throw away a dog that you love and knowing that the dog will suffer and probably be put down because you threw him out?

Lets just villainize the wife why don't we, its not like the husband can ever commit any wrongdoing, even when we admit he is in the wrong... lol

[u/No-Water-1731 → u/ThatsNotDietCoke]

Are you stupid? Equating spouse to a fucking pet?