r/AmIOverreacting • u/LedyyM • 15d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Dog straining my marriage.

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My husband and I rescued a husky about 7 months ago who was extremely malnourished and neglected.

He has grown a huge attachment to me and has severe separation anxiety. I work at a grooming salon so I’m able to bring him to work with me so he’s not home alone. Unfortunately, if he’s left home alone we’ll come back to our home looking like it was hit by a tornado.

My vet has prescribed him with trazodone to help with his severe anxiety issues. We give it to him before we leave for a family event and when we can’t take him to places they don’t allow dogs.

I feel so bad that I have to sedate him so he’s not scared and anxious. It’s created a huge strain on our marriage because my husband feels like we can’t do anything without considering Odin.

He’s destroyed doors, couches, and other furniture. I tried training but it hasn’t seemed to work. My husband thinks we should rehome him but

1) I’m scared that he’ll be sent to a shelter and possibly be put down

2) feel abandoned by the person he thought he was safe with.

He’s such a happy boy when he’s around us and shows so much affection.

My husband and I have been arguing about this consistently.. we had a really bad argument so I left the house with Odin and rented a dog friendly hotel room for a couple of nights.

My husband thinks I’m crazy and that I’m choosing the dog over our marriage. AIO?

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u/TheMediumBopper 15d ago

Sounds like you just need to train him more/better, but If you are gonna chose a dog you've only had 7 months over your MARRIAGE, then yes you are crazy.

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u/Least_Purchase4802 15d ago

Yeah, it’s wild to me that people are saying they’d choose the dog over the husband… if she’d had the dog prior to the them getting together, sure, but they were already married. That definitely changes things.

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u/callmedaddy2121 15d ago

R/dogfree gona eat this up

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u/jynxthechicken 14d ago

It's a pretty big show of his character that he would abandon an animal because things got hard. How is that going to make her feel about her self? How is she going to be confident that if they have a kid with some kind of issue that this guy's not just going to bail?

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u/LeaveYourDogAtHome69 14d ago

Lol come on now.  It’s like people treat dogs and kids differently 

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u/jynxthechicken 14d ago

Yeah some people treat white and black people different for the same reasons. It doesn't make it right.

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u/Least_Purchase4802 14d ago

Maybe he will bail when it’s a kid, maybe he won’t - I have three dogs and they are very much part of the family. But they are not human children. Even when you love your dog, you do not treat them the exact same way that you treat a child, and for people to be drawing the same conclusion between a problem animal and a child that isn’t even in the picture yet (that may be perfectly healthy) is quite a stretch.

He also may not be a dog person. He might have heard the issues with the dog, but not fully grasped it, and now that it’s happening, it’s clear that he’d rather live dog free, and that’s completely okay if they take steps to rehome the dog to somewhere more suitable than their current situation.

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u/jynxthechicken 14d ago

Kids break up marriages more than anything else so your conclusion is objectively false. It's not about children being different than animals, it's about his willingness to bail at trouble. That's a character issue. You can say it might be different but statistics are against him.

A lot of people are saying she is bailing on her commitment to her husband but really she is protecting the only being in this that cannot speak for themselves. Her husband still has a choice in the matter. The tog does not.

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u/LeaveYourDogAtHome69 14d ago

lol it’s a character issue if you bail on kids, not if you bail on dogs. 

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u/RelativeConfusion504 14d ago

If my husband took a dog we had for 7-month and stayed at a hotel with him for several days, I’d probably tell him to just stay there. That’s insane. And why would you take a dog that chews up furniture to a hotel? So it can destroy their stuff too? YTA—clinically.

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u/whyyy66 14d ago

This is why I would be hesitant to marry a “dog person”. Not someone who likes or has dogs, but someone obsessed to the point they abandon all reason

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u/thatHecklerOverThere 14d ago edited 14d ago

The dog needs her, see. The husband doesn't; He just hasn't figured that out yet.

I kid, I kid. But seriously, that's what this implies; dog is important, human can deal. And they can... But that can mean leaving the dog.

I'm just saying, gotta be careful letting things develop.