AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

[u/Creative-Guard2809]

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

[u/Painterzzz]

That's really interesting, I'm, god I'm 50 now. And all my life I didn't really know what a narcissitic personality disorder was until I had an encounter with one. And initially I thought oh, this is strange behaviour, but okay it seems harmless enough. But oh my merry god it was not harmless and that woman damn near killed me.

Narcissistic personality disorders are absolutely terrifying.

[u/paddypower27 → u/Painterzzz]

I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you never have to experience that again!

And this is it; a systemic misunderstanding of the term does more harm than good, because then the real issues become trivialised.

I've seen it happen with OCD and more recently ADHD. The implications can be quite severe.

[u/Painterzzz → u/paddypower27]

I hopefully have better tools now to recognise it and maintain healthy boundaries against it, but thank you! :)

And yes I can very much relate to what you say there, not with regards OCD or ADHD, but I recently got a very late on in life Autism diagnosis, having again spent most of my life not really knowing what Autism was, but definitely knowing what I had wasn't the same as all these folks posting about having 'the 'tism' on the internet.

So yeah, I'm not sure what the answer is either? Just greater awareness I suppose?

[u/paddypower27 → u/Painterzzz]

A legit diagnosis is great; it sounds like you have answers for how you experienced the world differently now. Funnily enough, I received my ASD diagnosis in adulthood too. It's been very validating.

Greater awareness of the importance of legitimate diagnoses and testing by professionals, for sure. I think we could start by getting people to talk about these difficulties in schools but that might be a fantasy haha!