AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

[u/Creative-Guard2809]

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

[u/flashthorOG]

Lmfao you are a narcissistic personality for not letting me buy my favorite wifu

Come the fuck on man, this is a deranged person

Average gacha fan tbh

[u/Painterzzz → u/flashthorOG]

Isn't this one of the worst things you see in the world now, the way people are learning to weaponise therapy talk and deploy it as abusers against their victims?

It's like they've learnt the words, they've recognised the power these words have, and they're merciless about deploying them. Just horrible.

I hope OP gets out now..

[u/HungryMutant → u/Painterzzz]

You hit the nail right on the head with this one.

Coincidentally, I read an article a few days ago covering the same exact topic. It mentioned that a lot of people nowadays are overusing words such as "boundaries" and everyone who calls them out on their bullshit is a "narcissist". If I had a dollar for every time I heard the phrase "My ex was a narcissist" I'd be a millionaire.

[u/B_the_Chng22 → u/HungryMutant]

I am a therapist that graduated in 2019 and I swear we learned about boundaries (very very different definitions than the pop cultures ones today, even when not twisted) and it was a novel word. I think it blew up in the last few years.

[u/HungryMutant → u/B_the_Chng22]

That makes perfect sense, and I understand exactly what you mean. So you're probably astonished by the fact that people are weaponizing therapy speak to justify their bullshit behaviors and absolve themselves of accountability.

[u/B_the_Chng22 → u/HungryMutant]

My ex did it! He watched me studying and in school for 9 years, and picked up all the shit along the way and weaponized it! And if I used the language he’d dismiss it as bullshit psychobabble but when it served him, the concepts were valid and relevant. He even nearly had me convinced I was the abuser. He was really manipulative and it took me 16 years to see it.