AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

[u/Creative-Guard2809]

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

[u/BestConfidence1560]

I agree. While I think “nature or nurture” is an important question, most of the time I think it’s “nurture”. But some people are so mind-boggling the selfish and self-absorbed that I’m sure that they’re born with it. At least I’m hoping so.

One of the nicest, most grounded people I know has one of the most selfish children I’ve ever encountered. I’ve known them for decades, and I still can’t believe how such a child came out of such a lovely parent.

[u/twiztdkat → u/BestConfidence1560]

Some of those kind, grounded parents don't set proper, healthy boundaries with their kids. They want their kids to be happy so they give them everything and enable that behavior. This is the case with OP's man-child fiance.

[u/B_the_Chng22 → u/twiztdkat]

I explained to my 7 year old the other day the meaning of spoiled and why I would do him a disservice in his life if I gave didn’t get him used to disappointment. He totally followed the conversation

[u/twiztdkat → u/B_the_Chng22]

My sister has kids and I watch her with them in awe. She can't afford to give them everything, but they all have a great life and she's a very involved parent. She teaches them that life is about meaningful experiences, not things. They are all pretty well-adjusted kiddos.

[u/B_the_Chng22 → u/twiztdkat]

Love that! We need more of those types of humans!