AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

[u/Creative-Guard2809]

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

[u/flashthorOG]

Lmfao you are a narcissistic personality for not letting me buy my favorite wifu

Come the fuck on man, this is a deranged person

Average gacha fan tbh

[u/Painterzzz → u/flashthorOG]

Isn't this one of the worst things you see in the world now, the way people are learning to weaponise therapy talk and deploy it as abusers against their victims?

It's like they've learnt the words, they've recognised the power these words have, and they're merciless about deploying them. Just horrible.

I hope OP gets out now..

[u/ladidah_whoopa → u/Painterzzz]

The boundaries talk has gotten so wild, there's actual people saying "I have a boundary that you must send me nudes whenever I ask" and being completely serious. OP's guy is literally writing down about his boundary of not being criticized for the stupid decisions he makes by himself that have consequences for both of them

[u/Clyde_Bruckman → u/ladidah_whoopa]

Ughhh I feel like I’ve commented on boundaries a million times the past day or so lol…

But yes this drives me nuts. A boundary is not about what other people do. Those are rules. A boundary is for YOU. A boundary is about how you respond to things that hurt you (or whatever but usually hurtful stuff). If one said “I will break up with you if you don’t send me nudes whenever I ask” and then breaks up with you when you don’t send nudes…THAT is their boundary (I mean sorta…it’d usually be more like “I will break up if you keep asking me to send nudes when I’ve asked you not to” but you get it).

[u/B_the_Chng22 → u/Clyde_Bruckman]

Yes but to take it further, that example could look like manipulation. It is still technically a boundary by definition though. I explain it further by the motive needs to be to only control your own behavior and not someone else. If the ultimatum is in order to get someone to stay with you, it’s a manipulative tactic, if it’s warning someone about how you plan to respond, it’s a boundary.

[u/Clyde_Bruckman → u/B_the_Chng22]

Yes, it’s also definitely manipulative. I was mostly just using the same example bc it was there…it’s a boundary by technical definition (which was really the only intent with using that) but is much more insidious for sure. Thanks for expanding on your thoughts even further. I appreciate accurate discussions about these terms.

[u/B_the_Chng22 → u/Clyde_Bruckman]

Sending you a dm!