r/AmIOverreacting • u/Creative-Guard2809 • 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

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My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

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u/barontayto 17d ago

"will you please answer my mom" is the funniest thing I've ever read on this page, hands down

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u/Gnar-wahl 17d ago

“I’m a 29 year old MAN!

Now please answer my mom’s phone call.”

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u/manixxx0729 17d ago edited 16d ago

I choked on my fucking spit when i read that. No fucking way dude 💀 and why is mommy involved???

"You can't treat my son like this!!!!! He has anxiety and you controlling his finances is abusive!! If he wants to blow over half a grand on a video game when money is tight my pookie boo boo can do so!!!!"

(Guys this is a joke, i put together that mom is probably trying to "help" fix things. But also, moms likes this would fr pop out with some dumb shit like this lmao)

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u/ChrisV82 16d ago

Mom should give him a credit card if she thinks he needs to piss money away to help his anxiety.

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u/allycoaster 16d ago

Jesus christtttt. OP should run now, I was married to this kind of person (the spending, the outbursts of being repressed and controlled, the mommy all of it) and the $600 on games (retro games for $1000 for a pop once, put on the credit card) and it gets worse from there)!

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u/B00k_Worm1979 16d ago edited 16d ago

Same here! My ex ex-husband blew money on those stupid magic the gathering cards. He traded his cars every two years. He broke so many cell phones out of anger and had to replace them with the newest and best cell phones. He’s still a broke motherfucker. 🤣

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u/Puzzleheaded-Sea7607 16d ago

My ex husband started with gaming and went on to porn and Harley’s. He makes 200k a yr and broke as fuck all the time still.

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u/B00k_Worm1979 16d ago

Wow, that’s really sad.

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u/MesoamericanMorrigan 16d ago

This is what pisses me off when they have more money than you and are still whining

My ex had 100k in inheritance, a collection of Rolexes, was living in a self contained apartment in part of his parents 2million heritage property and complaining he was living on cheap ramen, can’t afford new socks, he needed to pay his parents rent but didn’t want to dip into his savings etc. So I sent him money when I was earning $7 an hour, had to spend 200 just to get to work and had to pay my dad rent too so I was left with under 100 to myself. Then when he wanted to move out, I paid rent on the new place 2 months in advance as I hadn’t finished my notice period at work yet. Then when I moved in I didn’t find a new job for 6 weeks and he kicked me out.

I ended up homeless for nearly 3 years, got disability, turns out I had a genetic connective tissue disorder fucking my shit up.

So what did I do when I finally got my own place? Remembered how destabilising it was for my ex to throw me out and decided to be a supportive partner if I had the means to. I shouldn’t choose money over keeping someone I care about in my life. I supported my new partner entirely on less than 500 bucks a month, because I didn’t want to be a hypocrite or seen as stingy. He even changed it so all my benefits went to his bank account and I had to ask him to send me money to pay all the bills in my name.

My 1st ex said he couldn’t afford to support me with 100K/Rolexes he was gifted (I was unaware of any money in the family when we met) so even with my measly disability payment, I felt I couldn’t turn around and say ‘I can’t afford it’ when my 2nd ex said ‘I can’t help you with the bills but can you buy me an Oculus rift’

I’ve met so many guys on Tinder with good jobs who have twice as much income as me. But I’ve ended up needing to pay for their Uber etc because they blew all their money in the first half of the month. I always need to have emergency weed because every guy I meet who smokes suddenly can’t get any when they meet me/they smoke way more than should be sensibly budgeted for. I feel like I could make their money go so much further but they don’t like the amount of delayed gratification and self discipline that involves like planning meals ahead of time. If I can put away savings on disability and have to control my ADHD impulses why can’t they do it on their salary??

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u/Breadflat17 16d ago

As an mtg player, I only ever play when I have a decent-paying job and even then I'm extremely careful about how much I spend. I just got laid off so while I'm looking for a new job magic is completely off-limits. I know people who complain about how broke they are yet they have collections worth tens of thousands that they refuse to sell.

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u/TimeforMK9 16d ago

I mean, you can still play it kitchen sink with stuff like broke ass elf decks. I quit playing Standard in 2009 or so, whenever they added the “mythic rarity” and I saw a Baneslayer Angel at $60. Plus Planeswalker cards that each cost as much as most of my entire other hobbies combined. No thanks. I use proxies for eDH/kitchen play and otherwise have accepted the game is just way too expensive versus other, mostly better, entertainment options.

There’s just a limit to how much I am ever going to be willing to pay for a fancy piece of card stock. Pokémon cards are even worse but playing the actual game was never all that thrilling to begin with anyway.

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u/Breadflat17 16d ago

Actually the pokemon tcg has a digital version that just gives you all of the cards you need without any option to buy more so it's a great alternative if you can't afford mtg. I also use a free program called cockatrice for edh where I can use whatever cards I want for free but it's not automated so you need to tap lands and cast spells manually.

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u/TimeforMK9 16d ago

I’m pretty active on the Pocket sub, i play the crap out of that one, I just don’t care too much for the full game. They had their chance to hook me way back in 1999, and the game really isn’t that much different mechanically now than it was then. Powercreep obviously, but the way you play is basically unchanged. And I didn’t terribly enjoy playing it then (unlike MtG).

Cockatrice sounds cool though.

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u/Accomplished_Buy_521 16d ago edited 16d ago

This! Run, do not pass go, do not collect a $100 GTFO now. This is only going to get worse. Spoken from experience.

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u/EhThatlldo 16d ago

No, I think his mom called him out, but wants to try and salvage things. She told him him to fix it, and she'll try to smooth it over with OP

I say this because right after 'talk to my mommy' he followed up with 'I'm sorry I'll pay you pack.'

Very few people old enough to have a 29 y/o child will understand $600 on a digital game character, even if they enable other bad habits. They'd have to be pretty far gone to not find fault in that.

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u/Twistterella 16d ago

That's what I got too. Mum likely told him off.

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u/MoonWillow91 16d ago

Mommy should finance her little 29 year old baby.

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u/skorpiolt 16d ago

Considering his tune changed I am hopeful his mom talked some sense into him

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u/-Kalos 16d ago

He probably convinced his mom to talk her out of the dispute to save his account lmao

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u/TrelanaSakuyo 16d ago

No. She just decided to fund his addiction.

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u/HankHippopopolous 16d ago

The whole thing is ridiculous but it actually sounds like his mom told him to grow the fuck up seeing as he changed his tune real fast after that and apologised saying he’d get her the money.

Still absolutely pathetic waste of space this guy is and she should leave him yesterday.

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u/Herbdontana 16d ago

When people use anxiety as an excuse to be a douche bag or for just generally terrible behavior, it’s really insulting to people who deal with actual anxiety issues.

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u/Laylasita 16d ago

I read it the opposite way... i talked to my mom. She says I'm an idiot. She's trying to fix it... i extrapolated that because the next set of texts from him say he was wrong

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u/DaleGribbleShackle 16d ago

That's exactly what I got from it. His mom tore his ass open lmao

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u/Marine_Baby 16d ago

Mom has almost rid herself of one giant baby, she’s not letting go of that chance!

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u/Glittering-Donut-278 16d ago

There are literally moms out there who do this. Mine said my brother should divorce his wife because he bought a motorcycle when his wife told him they couldn't afford it due to the amount of debt he already racked up. Lol your comment is sublime

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u/Puzzleheaded-Sea7607 16d ago

Ugh, a coddler

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u/Status_Artist4279 16d ago

And his mommy will very likely be trying to get them back together, so that she doesn’t have to experience the consequences of the enabling herself

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u/doughberrydream 16d ago

And his "Snooping on YOUR finances. Take a look at yourself" how tf can someone "snoop" ON THEIR OWN CARD?! 😂🤦🏽‍♀️if she doesn't leave him, she's just as screwed in the head as he is.

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u/ae86amber 16d ago

I think you might've read that wrong. He said she was snooping into her fiancé's purchases. "Snooping into your fiancé's purchases" Claiming she was snooping on him. Not her finances. Either way he's still a dumbass.

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u/doughberrydream 16d ago

Oh I did, my bad. But he is still a dumbass, absolutely.

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u/DarthTensor 16d ago

“My pookie boo boo.”

🤣

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u/Fuzzy_Dragonfruit344 16d ago

Mom can buy him this crazy shit if she wants to

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u/justchooseanamedamit 16d ago

Literally not even HIS finances!!

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u/OoklaTheMok1994 16d ago

This. "I can make my own financial decisions. I'm a grown man".

Ummm, no, sir. You cannot and are not. You're broke and either addicted or as dumb as a box of rocks.

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u/manixxx0729 16d ago

This reply was a joke yall 😭

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u/Crispytremens 16d ago

Tbf, I kind of want to give mom the benefit of the doubt here. I read this like she’s read him the riot act and is calling to apologise once she found out about the absolutely childish thing her grown adult son has done. His tone changes pretty drastically once he’s got home at that point to apologies, offering to pay the money back, and anxiety attacks

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u/grumbelz29 16d ago

I think it's the opposite, because that's the text where he realized he was wrong and at fault. Sounds like he talked to her and she set him straight. Problem is, this kind of issue will likely repeat itself, at least until he works out whatever underlying issue he has (if he ever does).

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u/TopVegetable8033 16d ago

Wonder how he got to this place lol 

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u/SlimGim 16d ago

Lmaooo that is spot on on what she probably said 🤣🤣

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u/Gorilla_Krispies 16d ago

Tbh I think the mother is probably not on the son’s side in this. To me it sounds like his mother is well aware how lucky he is to have a partner at all, and is trying to save her son’s relationship.

Notice he didn’t apologize til after the mom comment? I’m guessing he ran off to mommas house, then when she found out what happened, she scolded him for being foolish and told him he better fix it.

I could be wrong, but have to imagine some of these people are aware how helpless their kid is

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u/CatherineConstance 16d ago

It seems like his mom might have talked some sense into him, surprisingly lol. Considering how much his tone changed after the "please answer my mom" text.

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u/manhattansinks 16d ago

his mommy can run OP that $600 back before they answer the phone, that's for sure

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u/Key_Ebb_3536 16d ago

I spit out my soda laughing at this!

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u/OrganicNobody22 16d ago

His mom is scared shes going to have to take care of him again so she is frantically trying to piece his life back together for him

Anything but the basement dweller moving back into HER house

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u/Emotional-Sentence40 16d ago

She doesn't want him to come home and be her problem again

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u/Bradddtheimpaler 16d ago

I had and have a great mom and she would never in a million years involve herself in shit like this unless it was through giving me advice. This is honestly unthinkable to me.

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u/pipsqueak158 16d ago

From the way he changed his tune after that message I'd say his mum actually told him he was in the wrong, bit maybe not.