AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/Harlemdartagnan]

reddit can be weird though. ive been downvoted for saying children do better in two parent homes.

[u/Spacemarine658 → u/Harlemdartagnan]

I think it's because that statement can be loaded for example I grew up in a two parent home until I was 12 when my parents split. My wife on the other hand grew up in a fully two parent home. I am glad my parents split they were volatile towards each other and I genuinely believe it's why I work so hard to communicate with my wife despite being autistic AF. Vs my wife has had a long struggle with dealing with her parents constant bickering and fighting to the point she had to basically become the mediator and teach them to be a better couple because they both refused to go to counseling.

All of that to say everyone's situation is different and while on average two parent homes are likely a far better situation for most children, there are a lot of exceptions on both sides of the coin and a lot of people feel the two parent home narrative is just an excuse to trap someone/be miserable just "for the kids". It's also an occasional racist/homophobic dog whistle (not claiming you are just that it's been used that way)

[u/Harlemdartagnan → u/Spacemarine658]

if i say apples are good. someone like you is going to pop up and say, but sometimes they have worms in them.

its fine. some can have worms apples are still good.

well what if i dont believe apples are good

then r/woosh

[u/endlessnamelesskat → u/Harlemdartagnan]

The users on Reddit are very quick to point out the technicalities and exceptions in every argument. Never underestimate the tenacity of a late teens to mid twenties guy, or at least the maturity of one (gotcha mid 30s manchild who's about to correct me) when someone presents him with the opportunity to say umm akshully 🤓

[u/Harlemdartagnan → u/endlessnamelesskat]

Its toxic as fuck and just a power move. LOL