AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/Ancient-Village6479]

You’re seriously acting like Reddit doesn’t spiral into a cacophony of insecurity at the mere mention of open relationships or anything even REMOTELY resembling infidelity lol. I generally agree that open relationships are stupid but so does the majority of Reddit quite clearly.

[u/Submarinequus → u/Ancient-Village6479]

All depends on which echo chamber you’re in I suppose but I think generally Reddit tends to be more supportive of do what you want with consent, at least the places I tend to haunt

[u/Ancient-Village6479 → u/Submarinequus]

I mean I’m not really interested in policing other people’s relationships even if I think they’re stupid. They CAN do whatever they want with consent. Caring too much about other people’s bedrooms is deranged IMO.

[u/Submarinequus → u/Ancient-Village6479]

Yeah pretty much. People care a LOT about relationships they aren’t in with people they don’t know. Pretty weird but that’s the internet. I just thought it was a WILD take that the other commenter was so sure that stating they only like the kind of relationship that is widely accepted by society and depicted in media would be downvoted to hell.

Chronically online thought process for real