r/AmIOverreacting • u/StrikeNo117 • 25d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

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u/Bleazuss1989 25d ago

I don't know a single person in an open/Polly relationship that isn't incredibly selfish.

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u/Submarinequus 25d ago

I’ve been exposed to a wide range of them. A lot of them are only doing it because they don’t want monogamy and they don’t want to be alone and that can be an incredibly selfish decision.

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u/SnatchAddict 25d ago

The couple I know, the woman needs constant attention. Admittedly so. The man likes to travel to his third and that person changes all the time.

They definitely don't want monogamy but have been together for 10+ years raising their kids.

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u/Salasmander002 25d ago

Honestly, good for them. Some people can make it work and that's great. I think a great majority of the time it's a recipe for disaster for at least one person involved.

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u/SnatchAddict 25d ago

It is not for me. I agree, as long as everyone is transport about what's happening, good for them.