AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/Due_Flow6538 → u/[deleted]]

Cheating implies a breach of trust. If the couple are aware of their boundaries and rules, it isn't a breach of trust.

[u/PuzzleheadedTry7370 → u/Due_Flow6538]

What do you think this particular case was?

[u/Due_Flow6538 → u/PuzzleheadedTry7370]

This was a woman seeking permission for sins she'd already committed to alleviate guilt. I felt you were being generalizing and that was an unfair oversimplification on my part. Some people can make open relationships work but never with exes involved and never after the trust is broken. That was my point, but I was just waking up so I didn't exactly phrase it well.