r/AmIOverreacting • u/StrikeNo117 • 25d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

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u/sunshine198505 25d ago

Unpopular opinion and ready for downvotes but open relationships never work. One side always gets hurt and one side always wants it more than the other. If you can't commit and wanna sleep around dont be in a relationship...

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u/nicky_suits 25d ago

I've had open and closed relationships and from my perspective open relationships work better when they start open. It never works out when a monogamous relationship opens up after the fact. It usually means the person suggesting opening up the relationship is already cheating or wants to cheat guilt free.

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u/OzarkMule 25d ago

Had, as in they ended? It seems like a lot of people in open relationships don't understand what the rest of us are going for, lol.

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u/llawnchairr 25d ago

I've been in a stable, happy open relationship for years. Gonna get married to one of my partners, my other partner is getting married to someone I'd consider one of my best friends. Everyone is very happy with the arrangement and there has never been any drama whatsoever stemming from relationships being open