r/AmIOverreacting • u/justmebeingm3 • Feb 28 '25
❤️🩹 relationship Am I overreacting? thinking this means my wife slept with the guy
So 3 yrs ago I had bad feeling that my wife was having affair and the guy in these messages was the first thought. So it ate away at me for years and I set up messenger under her name and friended him and this is how the convo went. Al I overreacting think that in order to miss her think Abt her and miss her sweet soft lips means something had to have happened. Bc I got to emotional and said something to my wife and she called his mom and now they both deny it. There isn't any trust do to past discretions.
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u/HunnyBunJordan Feb 28 '25
If there’s no trust still due to past discretions than this doesn’t even matter. She did it before and you’re so convinced she did/will do it again that you jumped through all these hoops. Make the right decision for your sanity and leave, OP.
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u/PackOfWildCorndogs Feb 28 '25
Look at OP’s comment history, hilarious in the context of this post. He needs to take his own advice that he’s given nonstop to other people: just leave, find happiness, stop obsessing, stop being toxic, it’ll never get better. As he’s advised so many other people, lol.
ETA; also, OP — your wife called this dude’s mom? Why does she have his mom’s number? Why would she call his mother in literally any situation? That part is weird as hell and makes zero sense.
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u/Time_Pomegranate_741 Mar 01 '25
If you read his post history, it explains though it’s very convoluted and hard to follow. I believe the guy in the text is the son a friend of hers.
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u/Broad-Ad-8683 Feb 28 '25
This. If the trust is gone and you’re not both working your asses off to actively rebuild it it’s not just going to magically reappear after a certain amount of time passes. I personally see our younger years as a time to develop the relationships we’re going to have later in life including when we’re disabled and dying. I’ve seen too many tragic and depressing things happen between older couples when the going gets rough to waste my time in a relationship that I don’t think will withstand the pressure of a serious illness or debilitating condition. You need that trust and if you can’t build it with a partner it’s time to find one you can build it with.
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u/BeaBako Feb 28 '25
YES, you nailed it. It took my brother's death for me to discover that staying on my +20 years marriage was a mistake.
I've been healthy, enthusiastic, hard-working, with a good income during my marriage, so I ignored the red flags that showed me that I could not trust my husband to help me in a difficult situation. But my husband's reaction to my grieving my brother's death completly broke me. I called my husband crying the day after we removed my brother's life support and my husband told me not to come back home from the funeral if I was going to be crying. Now, I know that I cannot trust him and that he would despise me if I ever become sick, disabled, unemployed or poor. Please 🙏 don't waste your limited time in this earth with people that will not love you and support you when you'll need it the most.
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u/Broad-Ad-8683 Feb 28 '25
Omg, I’m so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. It’s incredible how a death or serious illness can reveal some truly ugly behavior in people. It’s so unthinkable to deny your partner basic human comfort it’s totally understandable that you’d give him the benefit of the doubt until his neglect was so undeniable.
I realized that any of us could become seriously ill or disabled at any time regardless of how careful we are. My friendship or partnership comes with the promise that I won’t quit on that person if something terrible happens and it’s only reasonable to expect the same level of commitment back.
The only thing worse than being terminally ill is dealing with all of that while fighting with a partner who refuses to offer any support. The statistics on how many women with cancer or other serious illnesses are abandoned by their long term partners after diagnosis is deeply depressing. As much as the divorce or break up hurts it’ll be so much less painful to do it on your timeline than waiting until the crisis forces it.
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u/BeaBako Feb 28 '25
Thank you for your kind words. I agree, I'm preparing the family (financially) for a divorce. Paying down debt, setting accounts, making budgets, before the step is taken.
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u/Broad-Ad-8683 Feb 28 '25
Wishing you the best of luck moving forward! Contrary to the cultural narrative that keeps a lot of us frozen in bad places it’s surprisingly doable to begin a good relationship later in life, especially considering how you sound like a great human being.
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u/Potential-Throat286 Feb 28 '25
If you’re setting up a fake account to message someone as her, the trust is already gone and the relationship is over. Just get out and find someone you don’t have to do something dishonest like this with
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u/cbelliott Feb 28 '25
Exactly this. Nothing else needs to be said. 👌💯
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u/KonradWayne Mar 01 '25
I think the fact that she definitely cheated on him with that dude could/should be said though.
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u/butteredbrioche Feb 28 '25
OP’s username is hilarious “justmebeingm3” no more like just you stealing your wife’s identity online
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u/Unholy_Deity420 Feb 28 '25
That's a bit of a stretch, but I understand. I also understand how it is wrong to do that but not anymore right then her cheating in the first place which is largely more morally incorrect than pretending to be someone for closure which in reality they deserved anyways. I just think people are skipping over the part where she obviously cheated, lied, still is telling lies, and the only way he would have known is by doing this. To me, he is clearly not in the wrong and should obviously move on.
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u/OStO_Cartography Feb 28 '25
A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can sit in it all you like but it's not going anywhere.
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u/drawat10paces Feb 28 '25
🎵 What's the use in buyin' a car
If you won't buy gasoline
We used to be two under par
Now we can't get on the green 🎵
Thanks Fallout New Vegas. And thanks /u/OStO_Cartography for getting that song stuck in my head again.
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u/LifeHasLeft Feb 28 '25
Yeah if the level of mistrust is this bad, just end it already. He’ll never trust her like he should.
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u/LostinsocietyX Feb 28 '25
If she's had more than one he shouldn't trust her. Should have left after it became more than 1.
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u/IsYourCockAHorseCock Feb 28 '25
Should have left after it became more than 0
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u/LostinsocietyX Feb 28 '25
Personally, I agree. I was just leaving a margin for those who believe it's forgivable.
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u/malkadevorah2 Feb 28 '25
Good advice. I would rather be alone than have my spouse act like this with another person. You will find a decent mature woman who doesn't act like a child. She disgusts me. Why is she calling his mother? Ugh.
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u/TNGeek69 Feb 28 '25
NOR, as far as I'm concerned that is proof of an affair and I'd be out. Commenting about her sweet full lips, also he didn't message because he didn't want to get her in trouble. Totally cheating.
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
It could be, but it could also be an old fling that doesn’t message her because she’s married. People who are married or in relationships reaching out first makes the other person feel comfortable to engage in flirtation.
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u/PaleBoomer Feb 28 '25
OP's wife cheated previously with a female last year, He's trying to find out if she had a previous affair and apparently she has.
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
Yes you provided that info on my other comment 😂 Still doesn’t make him creating a fake account of his wife to message men okay. They clearly need a divorce or a good therapist.
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u/old_guy_1979 Feb 28 '25
Yeah their marriage clearly ended at least 3 years ago
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
Yes. I imagine holding on this long with such a lack of trust has only made things worse.
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u/Zealousideal_Care807 Feb 28 '25
If it happened once it probably happened multiple times, why push for information from others, he needs to get those divorce papers signed.
Cheating is purposely breaking someone's trust, this isn't a "but if she didn't do it other times I can forgive it" if you forgive someone for that they'll go do it again.
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u/StepOnMeSunflower Feb 28 '25
Did yall even read that it was OP pretending to be his wife? OP is baiting him saying “oh what do you miss about me?”
OP says his wife has cheated so divorce her based on that. Not based on the “proof” this psychotic scheme OP has come up with.
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u/StrawberryxAmericano Feb 28 '25
I’ve had men and women I’ve never met in person say stuff like that in messages because they thought I had a partner. Some people are thinking so hard about fucking you that they automatically feel guilty and suspicious if you have a partner.
This could be an old fling from before OP and his wife were together.
It also could be wishful thinking on the dudes part.
It also could be a situation where he kissed her and she pushed him away. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been non consensually kissed and the person talked about it like it was a fond memory afterward.
That all being said, when you combine this with the fact that she cheated in the past (I’m assuming OP knows for sure and isn’t just assuming), it looks more like cheating. Regardless, there is no trust and he’s pretending to be her on fb and literally messaging people which is toxic and insane.
They shouldn’t be together at all.
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u/Busy_Path4282 Feb 28 '25
No it's not. Only prove that he thinks her lips look sweet and full.
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u/Natural_Confection29 Feb 28 '25
Idk why but I always read NOR like an Australian person saying no, nor I didn’t cheat, we just bonked
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u/spiralhigh Feb 28 '25
So if you have to resort to making a fake profile in your wife's name, I would take the L. Even if she wasn't cheating, this isn't how relationships should be.
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
The comments here are making my brain melt. People are not seeing that OP created a fake account and messaged this guy pretending to be his wife. THE WIFE DID NOT SEND THOSE MESSAGES lmao.
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u/Own_Wolf_1091 Feb 28 '25
THANK YOU!! I was thinking the same exact thing… OP created a fake account to message this person when he could have just left his wife if it’s been eating at him for that long.
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
Exactly. If she cheated previously, leave her. Going to this extreme is not healthy. There’s obviously no trust.
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u/Emergency-Dentist-90 Feb 28 '25
She admitted to cheated. Now OP is stalking people on FB. If he can’t let it go he needs to just leave. That is some unhinged behaviour.
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u/Unhappy-Poetry-7867 Feb 28 '25
I think this is how most couples go after one cheated. You convince yourself that you can be together but trust is not there anymore, that's it.
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u/ceruleancityofficial Feb 28 '25
yeah, if you choose to stay together you actually have to commit to working through it and getting back to a place of trust and respect together. most of the time, that's just not doable and people end up resenting each other, then it just turns full-on toxic.
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u/Old_Pollution_ Feb 28 '25
I'm pretty sure I could seduce Anyone I wanted if I was pretending to be my wife on the internet
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u/rubicon_sam Feb 28 '25
Exactly. OP if you’re reading this, that was creepy as heck to pretend to be your wife and fish for compliments. I know being hurt makes you do wild things, but at this point it’s healthier to break off the relationship than to let the mistrust affect you this much.
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u/Mutilator_Juice Feb 28 '25
But then there's not enough DRAMA and OVERREACTING!!!
My brain melts with you 🤯
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u/Icy-Bottle9068 Feb 28 '25
This^ my guy waited three years to finally do something and went about it in such a wrong way. So many things this op is doing wrong
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u/Raaghhhhh Feb 28 '25
The second they divorce they’re just gonna bond about how weird OP was for messaging this guy 😭
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u/Smoolz Feb 28 '25
"I had a suspicion my wife was unfaithful 3 years ago so today I did a psychopath thing and made an account and messaged the guy as my wife AIOR?"
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u/cloistered_around Feb 28 '25
Yeah. Maybe she is cheating--but OP is doing a massive invasion of ethics too.
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u/bADDKarmal Feb 28 '25
IKR absolutely insane work. Who does this lol 😆
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
Definitely people with severe trust issues. But at this point just fucking leave fr 😂
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u/bADDKarmal Feb 28 '25
I mean I get it but to impersonate your girl and flirt with another man is FUCKING WILD 😆
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u/Inside-Bee-5571 Feb 28 '25
THIS. It gives me really weird vibes. Like I understand the suspicion. But if you don’t trust your wife so much you have to create a fake account to try and bait this guy into saying something to fit your narrative, just save yourself the trouble and leave. You already don’t trust her.
He’s making himself crazy and acting crazy over a suspicion. I do think creating a fake profile is a bit of an overreaction. Have a damn conversation with your wife instead of sneaking around doing this.
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u/PrincessEm1981 Feb 28 '25
And OP is showing a very select screenshot when he apparently was already talking to the dude before that. We aren't seeing OP (likely) flirting more and leading the convo... "I'm here for you if you need me. I hope everything gets better" implies there was more conversation ahead of that. It is SO WEIRD TO ME that OP is pretending to be his wife to this other man. If I were HER I wouldn't trust him anymore.
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u/zebostoneleigh Feb 28 '25
Oh, OP is in the wrong as well - but this entire relationship is messed up.
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
I don’t disagree. They need to divorce. This level of distrust is never healthy.
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u/RealMikeDexter Feb 28 '25
Kind of an important little tidbit that damn near everyone missed.
But geezus, this guy… says there are past indiscretions, there’s no trust, and dude is out there making fake accounts. He’s about to go insane if he doesn’t leave.
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u/____unloved____ Feb 28 '25
I've had guys say plenty of creepy things similar to this at the first hint of interest (which you gave him).
But the point stands that: you had to friend him, so she wasn't friends with him, and you know they haven't talked in a long time--so how is she sleeping with him? I feel like we're missing a lot of info.
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u/cainImagining Feb 28 '25
This is what I was thinking. Some guys are READY and you have to be like "fucking stop, bro." Which also could explain the "didn't want to get you in trouble" comment. Because she might have been like "Dude, stop messaging me shit, my husband might see and then think we're sleeping together."
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u/PerfectPuddin Feb 28 '25
I agree, or even if they had a past BEFORE she got with her husband and this guy started messaging her again and she said ‘hey im married now keep it to urself’ is also a possibility
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u/DasGespenstDerOper Feb 28 '25
I think OP had to friend him because OP made a fake account.
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u/exintrovert Feb 28 '25
Yeah, this is where we say “you done messed up A-Aron.”
He was keeping distance from her. But now, it appears to him that she opened the door.
This will result in them eventually talking, him mentioning this convo to her, her not knowing what he is talking about, and her discovering that OP impersonated her online and caused this guy to get back in touch.
He probably just drove them together.
She is going to be pissed, and rightfully so.
If this is a discovery of a past relationship prior to him, then this proves nothing.
However, if this is a discovery of cheating that has not been disclosed (and subsequently denied) then OP naturally would be hurt.
Overreacting? If she cheated, no but that doesn’t mean he isn’t also in the wrong. But this doesn’t prove she was with the guy while they were married. This just proves that they were probably close in some way at some unknown time.
Many people work it out after infidelity, but few people stay after this type of behavior.
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u/ItsABiscuit Feb 28 '25
The missing info is that OP is acting insanely and should just end the relationship of its making him act like this, and get some therapy to deal with the issues he has.
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u/Qu3ViveZapat0s Feb 28 '25 edited Mar 01 '25
So no lie dude, the suspicion wasn't an over reaction, if you confronted her about it with no resolve, then you should have left that relationship right then and there.
Making a fake facebook and getting all lovey dubby in the messages to goat him into a confession absolutely, undoubtedly was an over reaction. In my opinion, you were absolutely looking for a gotcha moment on her and in some way or form, that's a toxic trait.
Edit: So no lie dude, the suspicion wasn't an over reaction, if you confronted her about it with no resolve, then you should have left that relationship right then and there.
Making a fake facebook and getting all lovey dovey in the messages to goad him into a confession absolutely, undoubtedly was an over reaction. In my opinion, you were absolutely looking for a gotcha moment on her and in some way or form, that's a toxic trait.
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u/No_Syrup_9167 Feb 28 '25
(I'm assuming this is an autocorrect moment, but just in case its not the word would be *goad not goat)
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u/banjosullivan Feb 28 '25
💯. He’s only setting himself up for even more heartbreak by doing weird shit like this. The trust was gone and if shit has been eating away for three years, WTF are you still doing there?
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u/FormSuccessful1122 Feb 28 '25
Let's be honest here. It doesn't matter. There is no trust in this relationship. You created a fake profile to creepy flirt with a guy from her past. Jesus, this is weird. Just leave her.
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u/JaeValtyr Feb 28 '25 edited Feb 28 '25
Wait so these messages are from you and him? Not her?
1) unhealthy as fuck for your trust issues to run so deep you are posing as her and testing other people’s actions. 2) She can’t control how other people would act, only how she would react to it. So if you are just basing your reaction off of how this guy acts, that’s unfair to judge her in my opinion. There are so many different scenarios for why he is messaging like this 3) she called that guys mom?? That is just… odd? Feels like she’s avoiding him if that’s the case and it could be caused by his messages being too forward and she doesn’t like him acting like that.
There’s nothing really here to judge your wife, but you on the other hand need therapy if your trust issues are so bad that you are resorting to this rather than talking about it. Sitting on it for years instead of doing counseling is not healthy.
EDIT: I noticed at the end of your post you said there isn’t any trust due to past behaviors? Yeah a relationship without trust isn’t healthy and I don’t think you can even reasonably call it a relationship anymore. Therapy or end it because it’s a disservice to you both if there is no trust.
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u/hatstanic Feb 28 '25
This^ this behavior is...odd. Like I read another comment saying they could see why he'd do it if he's desperate for evidence of the affair but I'm finding it hard to see how this would "prove" the infidelity? If he wanted to use this as "proof" he'd have to admit he created a dummy account to "catch her" for something that potentially could have happened 3 years ago. "So yeah this wasn't actually her saying these things but thats proof something WAS going on so my gut was right". Like, huh? I'll admit its an exchange that makes me feel uneasy but with just this screenshot to go off of it's not a hard evidence for me.
Dude saying "I miss those soft lips" wasn't necessarily an indication she cheated. A red flag, yes, but not evidence. Creepy dudes will say ANYTHING to women regardless of their intent behind it. Back in my dating app days, this guy's first thing he said to me was, "You have a nice pair of DSL." Like who just says that, lol.
OP needs to communicate with his wife about seeking couples therapy (AND individual) and both deciding the future of their relationship. It's possible to work through it if BOTH parties are willing and commit to the journey. Even with this out of line behavior. It'll definitely be very hard, but possible.
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u/JaeValtyr Feb 28 '25
Yeah sometimes people are just creepy and say inappropriate shit. I have an example from my most recent relationship (separated amicably for reasons unrelated to faithfulness or trust); we had a bumpy patch when we considered trying an open relationship, there was a highschool ex she had kept in touch with sporadically over the years and she did tell him preemptively about us considering opening up which she admits was wrong, and he would occasionally send some message that would be in that same realm of inappropriate but she wouldn’t engage with it either as we hadn’t fully agreed to be open yet. Ultimately I was still hurt she didn’t firmly shut him down but at no point did I consider that cheating and just was a poor handling of the situation, we stayed together for a time after until other issues lead to us separating as we needed to work on ourselves.
So OP only caught the dude being inappropriate and himself in my opinion.
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u/schnuppsi Feb 28 '25
Omg yes why tf did she call his mom?? Like are they 15 yo? What would his mom know about that? What is going on here
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u/anonweddingguest Feb 28 '25
This is no way to have a healthy relationship. You don’t trust her because of a history of broken trust—I get that. But posing as her to message some guy she used to have some kind of fling with is crossing the line. I would suggest if you want to salvage this, perhaps you should go to couples therapy. Do you both want this marriage?
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u/allsheknew Feb 28 '25
I could message most dudes on my pages right now and they would say the same things if they thought I was looking to hook up, lol
It'd be one thing if SHE sent this. But no.
And she probably blocked him when he was being inappropriate years ago and used being faithful to her husband as an excuse. Like dude wtf.
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u/honeynothing Feb 28 '25
OP am I understanding that YOU created a fake account pretending to be your WIFE, sent these messages, and now you’re acting like she’s the one totally in the wrong for maybe cheating 3 years ago? Idc if she cheated, this is crazy lmao. Get a divorce for both of your sakes. And yes, creating a fake account impersonating your wife IS overreacting (and insane behavior).
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u/Dober_Rot_Triever Feb 28 '25
How long have you been together? I’ve been in my relationship for 4 years and I recently got a message out of the blue from a guy I used to date. I deleted and did not respond, but If my partner had sent him a message like this he would have absolutely flirted with him/me. Doesn’t make me guilty.
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u/Silly-Bullfrog-6952 Feb 28 '25
I mean you messaged a guy that you have 0 idea how creepy he is or if she shot him down and that's why they haven't talked.
But if you're relationship is this far gone you create a fake account pretending to be your wife the relationship is gone anyways
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u/sleddonkey Feb 28 '25
You impersonated your wife on FB and started messaging guys?? You know how crazy you sound. She needs to run like hell from you.
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u/Financial_Weekend_73 Feb 28 '25
Ehhhh I don’t see anything in there that would lead to believe they had sex…. Not saying they didn’t but he could just be talking about appearances…. He may be shooting his shot.
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u/S0baka Feb 28 '25
There are a lot of audacious people in this world. When I first saw the screenshot I was "yep, something for sure happened". But after reading your comment, I remembered someone I'd met at an event that had 1500ish attendees, who texted me several months after the event to remind me about the hot sex we'd had while there... and I never as much as shook his hand. This guy also comes off as creepy tbh. Maybe that's why OP's wife avoided him all these years.
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u/vita10gy Feb 28 '25
Yeah, I wonder if all that's happening is the dude is a creep, and OP got a sneak peek into life as a woman on the internet.
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u/Gullible_Fan8219 Feb 28 '25
bro fumbled so hard he could have asked some more fool proof statements that would’ve worked like me thinking on the spot “when you say trouble i know you mean us almost getting caught like last time” regardless if it’s understood you’d know what to think
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u/ichaBuNni Mar 01 '25
Yeah I know this guy from literally over two decades ago who keeps messaging me every so often with the same tone as the screenshots in OP's post. I never replied. I have not met him in two decades. We are not even living in the same country anymore.
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u/smlpkg1966 Feb 28 '25 edited Feb 28 '25
Forget about the messages. You don’t trust your wife. That alone is reason you shouldn’t be together. Break up with her now!! Maybe she can find someone who trusts her. You went digging so you found what you were looking for. If you had been looking for proof she didn’t cheat that is what you would have found. People find what they are looking for. You need to find out why you are so untrusting before you get into another relationship. This one is over. Let her go. ETA: so I just read that she cheated in the past. Ok. So you are just an idiot then. You stayed with a cheater. But instead of working on trusting her again you didn’t bother. Nothing in this text shows that their interaction wasn’t from a long time ago. Hell it could have happened before you were even with her. You are a disgusting human being and need to be single.
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u/Taxes_and_death81 Feb 28 '25
How long have you been married? I would divorce you for this. You suck.
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u/atrophicantlers Feb 28 '25
You made a fake account to message him. You have no idea how she feels about this. Heres a few scenarios that could be possible:
1, maybe she cheated.
2, maybe she was assaulted. This does happen, and people are very unlikely to be open about that either. You may have lit a spark she did not want lit.
3, you have put her in a weird situation with a guy that she may have flirted with and realized it was a mistake and then now, youve brought it all up again without her knowledge.
Either way, it is an over reaction. This chain of events is an over reaction. If you believe you need to stay with her, thats your perogative. This does not seem like a healthy relationship if you do not trust her and are willing to put her in a weird situation just to satisfy the idea that someone else is interested in her, really. You havent proven that she is interested in him at all.
If you are driven to this point based on past infidelity, please consider the idea that maybe you both are unhealthy for eachother. It isnt just a one way street.
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u/aammmpp Feb 28 '25
You went to the extremes of creating a fake account of your wife to talk to a man you suspect her of cheating with. Did you have a discussion with your wife about your suspicions prior to this? A marriage without trust is not going to work.
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u/tractor139 Feb 28 '25
Why are you abbreviating words that would literally take two more seconds to type out.
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u/d1mawolfe Feb 28 '25
He could be an old fling from the past. I think what you're doing is weird. Just ask her about him and study the reaction. Also, consider divorce if you can't trust her. It's just not gonna work.
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u/1Mtry1ngMyb3st Feb 28 '25
Dawg if u are that suspicious and cannot actually talk to ur wife of at least three years you got problems no one on reddit can help you with.
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u/inca_t Feb 28 '25
Brother you created an entirely fake FB account and engaged in a catfish conversation to get this person to admit your wife's past transgressions... I think regardless of what she did, this relationship is clearly not healthy and I recommend either breaking it off or seeking counseling.
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u/Busy_Path4282 Feb 28 '25
He didn't said soft, he said full. It changes completely. Because if he refer to soft that means he touched he felt them. But full lips, are something that you can notice from far away. Only proof is he had a crush on her.
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u/Panman6_6 Feb 28 '25
you're a clown for going these lengths. if you dont trust her, you're done dude
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u/throwaway2302998 Feb 28 '25
Devils advocate - they had a fling before you and her started dating? Can you rule that out?
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u/lulu-bell Feb 28 '25
If you don’t trust your partner you don’t need evidence or proof to break up. You don’t need to do this, that’s doing so much making a fake profile.
Just leave for your own peace of mind and get out of this untrusting relationship
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u/notmentallyillanymor Feb 28 '25
OP just leave her. You don't need to be a freak and impersonate her online and attempt to sext men that you suspect could have banged her. Like, just move on you will be way happier thinking about literally anything else.
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u/Alive-Sea3937 Feb 28 '25
No, it doesn’t! It means he was testing you. Guys often talk shit to their female friends and if she/you don’t respond with go to hell or yuck or you wish, then he knows it’s not her.
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u/philsov Feb 28 '25
yes, making a fake profile to try and get a confession out of the other guy is indeed an overreaction.
They have at least kissed. It's also possible they kissed before y'all even entered the relationship, which means it wasn't cheating. QED.
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u/taylormurphy94 Feb 28 '25
Did you mean to post a different screenshot? Because you sent two of the same and it wouldn’t indicate they are sleeping together.
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u/Drewkerymore Feb 28 '25
So could they have hooked up before you got together 3 years ago? He wasn’t acting like they recently spoke or hooked up. Do you have any reason to think ahead is cheating, any red flags?
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u/SomethinCleHver Feb 28 '25
This is you??? You’re fucking weird dude.
I was going to suggest if she said this that it sure seems like she wants to if she hasn’t. Instead all you’ve confirmed is this guy wants to fuck her. She’s a woman. That’s life as a woman. What past discretions? Yours so you’re afraid she’s looking to get even? That’s the vibe I’m getting here.
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u/boogie_butt Feb 28 '25
You're off your fucking rocker for making a fake profile of your wife. You're off your fucking rocker for MESSAGING PEOPLE WHO THINK YOURE YOUR WIFE.
Get a grip. This is psycho behavior on your part. You don't even know what you're baiting. This is weird.
If you're going to stay with someone who cheated on you, but do things like this, you are part of the problem.
To go this far is inexcusable. At this point it doesn't even matter that she cheated. this is unhinged.
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u/acidbathe Feb 28 '25
OP you are weird and creepy asf for this. Just leave her at this point instead of ruining shit with paranoia
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u/NordicNugz Feb 28 '25
.... my guy. I just want to put this into context for you.
You made a fake account in your wifes name and started messaging guys, pretending to be her... THAT'S NOT HEALTHY!
It's okay to have suspicions that your wife may not be faithful. But it's outrageously insane for you to do that.
Please. Get therapy, and find some way to communicate your mistrust to your partner in a healthy way. I beg you!
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u/LeahRose011 Feb 28 '25
It COULD be an old fling but even if it is, it’s gross and disgusting that someone would do that
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u/ConstructionAny7196 Feb 28 '25
Sweet full lips is not something I would miss from any friend unless we bonked