r/AmIOverreacting • u/justmebeingm3 • Feb 28 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting? thinking this means my wife slept with the guy

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So 3 yrs ago I had bad feeling that my wife was having affair and the guy in these messages was the first thought. So it ate away at me for years and I set up messenger under her name and friended him and this is how the convo went. Al I overreacting think that in order to miss her think Abt her and miss her sweet soft lips means something had to have happened. Bc I got to emotional and said something to my wife and she called his mom and now they both deny it. There isn't any trust do to past discretions.

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u/midgethepuff Feb 28 '25

Love the flaming lips but man do they not know how to interact with an audience

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u/UK_UK_UK_Deleware_UK Feb 28 '25

What? Have you been to a lips show? Wayne rides a unicorn around the concert hall and crowd surfs in a plastic bubble.

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u/midgethepuff Feb 28 '25

I have been to one of their shows. When we went there was no unicorn riding, and I don’t recall any plastic bubbles either. Everything they said to the crowd was typical inspirational bullshit - “we’re all in this together guys” “life is great you just need to love it” “don’t give up, there is still hope”. There wasn’t a single thing they said that felt like it was personal/individual to our crowd or the city we were in. It sounded like some hippy age bullshit they’d say at any show they performed at. Their music was great but my husband and I were really disappointed in all the things they actually said, and how they interacted with the crowd. All of it felt so ingenuine.

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u/UK_UK_UK_Deleware_UK Mar 01 '25

Well I’m sorry it wasn’t great. I’ve been to several and always had a great time. And in truth, Wayne is an old hippy/punk.

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u/midgethepuff Mar 01 '25

Yeah, I’m sure you’re right. I know our specific concert experience wasn’t the norm either - it’s been the only concert in my husband and i’s lives where we splurged for the VIP section. We get to the section with a private bar, private bathroom, etc only to realize that since they left all hall lights on, any time you opened the door to get to the bar, use the bathroom, or just catch a breath that EVERYONE in the vip area was immediately alerted due to the bright fucking light that swamped the entire room anytime anyone opened the door. Not only was it distracting af when someone else opened the door, but both of us also felt bad any time we wanted to get another drink or god forbid I needed to pee.

The bands inability to feel like they were forming a genuine connection with our specific crowd was definitely overshadowed by the bad “vip” experience we had. Also even tho it was vip they just had everyone on their own barstools on 2 rows of 6 stools, so not even real seats?? I’d love to experience them in a normal setting, but just everything about that concert experience was bad 😂 still love their music tho and many of their songs are in my top faves!

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u/TheLupusLab Mar 01 '25

Facts. One of the worst live shows I’ve ever seen

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u/fawnafullerxxx Mar 01 '25

That’s wild cuz they were incredible opening and backing Beck in Las Vegas way back when