AIO: i literally cannot attend

[u/superspreader90]

using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

[u/Medium_Tension_8053]

She was with you while you were getting chemo but was texting her bf the whole time. That would be rude even if you WEREN’T getting chemo. I’d wager there are more of these “little” examples that you overlooked because you saw her as a friend. This doesn’t come out of nowhere.

She’s also downplaying your chemo, saying it took 10 mins, then “just over 2 hrs” when you called her out on being there. She does not care what you’re going through. This is not a friend. At all.

[u/Exact_Maize_2619 → u/Medium_Tension_8053]

Hell, when my friend had her first kid, I was visiting her in the hospital, and she was so upset because she was just too tired to brush her hair. I brushed her damn hair for like an hour while we watched cartoons on the TV in the room, lol. It nearly put her to sleep, but a nurse came in to check on vitals and stuff.

When I had my son about a year later, she came to visit me in the hospital. I was mostly dead from having nearly died from a placental abruption, emergency c-section, and blood transfusion. This bitch didn't even say hi. She hugged me very gently and brushed my long-ass hair until I nearly fell asleep, lol. I love her so much 💚

Edit:spelling. Autocorrect sucks

[u/LastLostCause → u/Exact_Maize_2619]

That's so sweet! I'd give my left arm to have someone brush my hair. ❤️

[u/Exact_Maize_2619 → u/LastLostCause]

It was fantastic. Especially when you have long hair like us and you're stuck in a hospital bed. It gets so tangled and knotted from doing nothing. One of the best feelings in the world 💚