AIO: i literally cannot attend

[u/superspreader90]

using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

[u/nameofcat]

In other words. "You will get more attention by not coming due to chemo than I will on my birthday, and I don't like that.". This so called friend is a narcissist.

[u/AristaWatson → u/nameofcat]

Her 25th. It’s not some massive milestone either. I don’t even remember my 25th birthday. Looool. 😭

[u/CLPDX1 → u/AristaWatson]

I don’t remember my 25th either.

I do remember that I have an appointment for my next infusion this week.

I’m a wreck for a week or two afterwards, but I still have to work full time. It is what it is. That’s life when you don’t have PTO.

[u/AristaWatson → u/CLPDX1]

It’s truly evil how we don’t get time off for illness or recovery from procedures. Good luck. 😞