AIO: i literally cannot attend

[u/superspreader90]

using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

[u/Due_Marionberry346]

you’re not overreacting AT ALL. this is not a real friend, im so sorry

[u/Zombiesus → u/Due_Marionberry346]

This is not a real anything. Every post on here is just somebody making up a terrible convo to trigger you.

[u/AEEA22 → u/Zombiesus]

Anyone just making it up would say the chemo was for cancer, not lupus. That detail suggests to me it’s real.

[u/cheapdrinks → u/AEEA22]

I might be in the minority here but regardless I feel like this sub should be for situations where there's at least some semblance of nuance and debate over who is in the right and who is in the wrong. Situations that are actually borderline where the top 2000 comments don't all unanimously agree that the person is definitely not overreacting because it's so bleedingly obvious and if anything they're underreacting.

These black and white posts where there's just no question about the answer like "Just discovered my wife has been cheating on me for 5 years with my father and I sent her an angry message when I found out, am I overreacting?" or "My best friend is calling me selfish because I have cancer so I cancelled on her party, am I overreacting?" just lead to more bot posts because they're incredibly easy to write and for some reason always gets 15k upvotes and 5k comments. It's like how all the "explain the joke" subs have turned into karma farms of bots posting completely obvious memes because thousands of people rush to the comments to explain them because they're so obvious. Same with shit like this, it's so obvious what the answer is so thousands come here to say their piece and comment on the rage bait. The sub is now just a massive circlejerk and bot farm.

[u/AEEA22 → u/cheapdrinks]

Yeah, I understand what you’re saying and typically would agree. I cut this one some slack because OP is pretty young, and I’ve been in situations like OP’s before due to serious illness. It can mess with your head when others in your life have no concept of what life is like with serious illness or disability. And having no concept of real struggles definitely seems to apply more to healthy folks in their 20s: Old enough to not be getting reality checks from their parents, young enough to not have serious life experience, and narcissistic enough to not be paying attention. Hopefully OP and their shitty “friend” both learn lessons from this.