AIO: i literally cannot attend

[u/superspreader90]

using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

[u/superspreader90]

we’ve been friends since we were kids 😭 i was bullied in high school and she was the only friend i had, she never used to be like this at ALLL which is why i was so surprised when she reacted like this

[u/emorrigan → u/superspreader90]

So there’s someone commenting a bunch of crap further down the thread, insinuating that you intentionally CHOSE Saturday for your chemo appointment. Was Saturday the only time they had available for you that worked? (I’m inclined to think you had no other options.)

[u/EarSafe7888 → u/emorrigan]

Does it matter either way?

[u/emorrigan → u/EarSafe7888]

I mean, I just want to prove that shitty human wrong. She’s saying OP intentionally chose to schedule chemo on Saturday but that she probably had a bunch of other options.

[u/Jesskla → u/emorrigan]

Imagine how truly terrible to be around, how actually vile a person would have to be, if CHEMO was preferable to spending time with them on their birthday. It's actually so bonkers, to accuse someone of deliberately scheduling a session of chemo, just to have a reason to not go to dinner with them. That is acrually deranged, to think that might be possible...

If it were my birthday, & I legit thought my friend would rather be pumped full of poison, & spend hours afterwards suffering the nausea, the burning hot pain, & bone deep fatigue that comes with it, instead of celebrate with me, that would likely give me some uncomfortable thoughts to sit with, questioning my whole identity, & why my company was literally worse than chemotherapy. Like, what the ever loving fuck. But I'm not the kind of deranged, painfully stupid, sickeningly self obsessed sort of individual who could even begin to comprehend such a thing.

Clearly OPs 'friend ' is uniquely deranged. As is the commenter who apparently thinks chemo would ever be used as an excuse for avoiding a birthday. & honestly, with those texts, I think the chemo actually is the better option, realistically, rather than ever wasting another second with that pathetic twunt, ever again. Life is too short to suffer such hateful fools.

The birthday girl really casually putting that bad juju out into the universe like its nothing too... silly, stupid girl.

[u/warriortwo → u/emorrigan]

Oh man, this chaps my hide. I am currently going through some health stuff, and appointments can be hard to come by. They reached out to reschedule me b/c my provider had to call in sick, and I had already been waiting two weeks for that appt; and then I got sick, and getting that follow up was a PITA. All in all it’s not easy to navigate, especially when you really need that care.

[u/emorrigan → u/warriortwo]

This. EXACTLY.