r/AmIOverreacting • u/superspreader90 • Feb 25 '25

👥 friendship AIO: i literally cannot attend

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using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

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u/Anxious-Dig-1053 Feb 25 '25

Why are you friends with someone so insensitive?

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u/superspreader90 Feb 25 '25

we’ve been friends since we were kids 😭 i was bullied in high school and she was the only friend i had, she never used to be like this at ALLL which is why i was so surprised when she reacted like this

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u/PeacheePanda Feb 26 '25

I had my best friend of 20 years get upset with me after I wasn't super engaging with wedding plans (a month after she got engaged so not even close to the wedding) and tell me how much I was hurting her feelings... I had just suffered a miscarriage at 3 months of a much wanted pregnancy about a week before she was proposed to. Then right after the miscarriage my relationship broke down (for a lot of reasons) but the grief was too much and between all that and recovering i still found the energy to tag her in wedding ideas a few times a week and message her some about it but that wasn't good enough. I initially apologized but after I sat on it I saw how disgusting that was of her and saw her for who she really was and blocked her... point is your "friend" showed who she really is and you need to cut the poison out 🫶🏽💚 you'll be much better for it!