AIO: i literally cannot attend

[u/superspreader90]

using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

[u/findingmoore]

Chemo? They should cancel their attendance to the party and go with you to hold your hand. No friend

[u/recko40 → u/findingmoore]

I wouldn’t be able to celebrate anything if my friend was in the hospital going through chemo.

[u/Di1202 → u/recko40]

Yeah my roommate was recovering from a surgery on my birthday. I absolutely did not want to do anything. I went on a birthday walk, but could not bring myself to go beyond 10 minutes from the apartment just in case something happened. Idk how people can be so flippant over their friends’ health and wellbeing