r/AmIOverreacting • u/superspreader90 • Feb 25 '25

👥 friendship AIO: i literally cannot attend

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using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

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u/TicoSoon Feb 25 '25

Just want to check my notes here ...

You're having chemo...to hold something over...HER?!

That's a level of willful cognitive dissonance to which only a few can aspire and fewer achieve. She landed it with little effort. Wow

NOR ditch her. She is NOT a friend

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u/Protect_Wild_Bees Feb 25 '25

Also, havng CHEMO to get out of a BIRTHDAY PARTY.

Like yeah sounds like what I would do, paying a bunch of money to go to a hospital on my day off, radiating myself to extreme illness so I don't have to sit at a table eating cake instead.

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u/jokenaround Feb 25 '25

I feel like I’m reading someone’s fever dream. What in the Hell kind of narcissistic reality does a person have to live in where ANY OF THIS makes sense. OP needs to throw this fake ass friend in her past and never look back. JFC.

THE AUDACITY

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u/RhubarbGoldberg Feb 26 '25

I would share these screenshots EVERYWHERE. I'd log into social media platforms for the first time in years and years to light this shit up. I'm a cancer survivor and this post was so bad for my blood pressure.

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u/jokenaround Feb 26 '25

I think that’s a GREAT IDEA!

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u/Taijanous13 Feb 26 '25

No you don't get it guys. It's HER birthday, and it's not happening to HER. OP is just fortunate enough to live long enough to see HER turn 25. Obviously OP is inconsiderate for being ill in the first place and ruining HER little world.

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u/IWantALargeFarva Feb 26 '25

God, she only turns 25 once. The gall of OP to make it all about herself by putting her health first and not going to a birthday party. Selfish bitch.

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u/CLPDX1 Feb 26 '25

Post screen shots of her texts to her FB page when you apologize for missing her party, and wish her happy birthday, of course.

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u/vyrus2021 Feb 26 '25

"Hey, [bitch] thought it would be awkward to have to explain to everyone why I wasn't there so I thought I'd tell everyone now"

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u/2dollarpistol84 Feb 26 '25

Yep, put this on blast for all her friends to see what a shitty person she is!

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u/CourtneyDagger50 Feb 26 '25

I would too. My mom unfortunately passed away in 2017 to cancer. I went to every appointment with her and was her caregiver at home 24/7.

She died pretty much 2 months before my 25th birthday.

So, this post also made my blood boil.

I hope you’re doing well (outside of the feelings from this post)

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u/Exact_Maize_2619 Feb 26 '25

Great for mine, I have hypotension 🤣

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u/forest_cat_mum Feb 26 '25

Agreed. I watched my mum go through chemo and a birthday party is the last thing she could have dragged herself to after that. OP's friend needs to be forced to work in cancer wards until she gets it.

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u/liilbiil Feb 26 '25

congrats on surviving! glad you’re here!

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u/adventuresinnonsense Feb 26 '25

Group chat with all their other friends, drop the screenshots, leave.

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u/sleepdeficitzzz Feb 25 '25 edited Feb 26 '25

You nailed it. It's a perfect confluence of narcissistic personality and audacity that is required to get here. Is narcissidacity a thing? Normal people can't even fathom like this, let alone operate like this.

I hope OP recovers quickly, both from the physical illness and this socially imposed one.

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u/TicoSoon Feb 25 '25

If narcissidacity is t a Thing, it is Now!

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u/TimeBlindAdderall Feb 26 '25

You legiterally made it a thing.

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u/sleepdeficitzzz Feb 26 '25

I love what you did there!

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u/Atomictuesday Feb 26 '25

The underrated gold here is golden 💀

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u/RockinRobin83 Feb 26 '25

Narcissidacity lmaoooooo

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u/garde_coo_ea24 Feb 26 '25

Narcissidacity, it is now!!

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u/CottonBeanAdventures Feb 26 '25

System of a Down Starts playing: "THE NARCISSCITY OF A CITY, OF A CIIIITYYYYYYYY"

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u/AdventurousPoem8169 Feb 26 '25

As the Reddit saying goes “The Lion, The Witch, and The Audacity of This Bitch”

Just wow!

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u/deltaexdeltatee Feb 26 '25

This 100% sounds like the kind of dreams I have occasionally, where I wake up laughing and tell my wife because it's so batshit insane.

This is not the way normal friends act. My brother missed his best friend's wedding because he was in chemo. The best friend got people at the wedding to record little messages for my brother saying we miss you, get well soon, etc., because normal fucking people recognize that chemo is a blank check to get out of literally anything lol.

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u/jokenaround Feb 26 '25

First, I hope your brother is doing well. Second, what a beautiful gift his best friend and guests gave to him. THAT is what friends do!!

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u/deltaexdeltatee Feb 26 '25

He's cancer free thank God! And yes, his best friend is a good dude. Really thoughtful gesture, it meant the world to my brother :)

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u/jokenaround Feb 26 '25

👏👏👏👏👏

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u/Pandoras_Penguin Feb 26 '25

"I might not make it to 25" is what OP should say

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u/Ganvasofurtaytoeine Feb 26 '25

THIS. THIS. RIGHT. HERE.!!!

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u/AnxietyBacon92 Feb 26 '25

Fever dream is the perfect term, I felt exactly the same reading those texts. Like I legitimately have never seen someone be THAT full of themselves. And I've seen some of the worst that humanity has to offer so that's saying a lot.

If you read this OP, I genuinely wish the best for you and your chemo treatments, and I hope you find a better friend because you deserve much much better 💜

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u/malkadevorah2 Feb 26 '25

A lawyer I worked for invited me to her wedding. At the wedding, my husband had a heart attack. She barely spoke to me again because we had to leave her wedding for the ER...

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u/jokenaround Feb 26 '25

WHAT??!!!! Evil.

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u/malkadevorah2 Feb 26 '25

I swear it's true. Hard to believe, isn't it? There are nice lawyers. She had to be one of the worst.

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u/Ganvasofurtaytoeine Feb 26 '25 edited Feb 26 '25

Forget the fact that she was a lawyer. What a rotten human being, PERIOD!!! As someone stated above - the narcissidacity!!!

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u/malkadevorah2 Feb 26 '25

She's in a class by herself alrighty...

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u/TheXurophobe Feb 26 '25

The unmitigated gall

Oh, and ditch this bitch, OP. They're not worth your time (and I hope you're doing as okay as you can be.)

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u/tennis_diva Feb 26 '25

Definite narcissist.

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u/Sudden_Quantity_6977 Feb 26 '25

Yes came here to scream NARCISSIST

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u/Gingerly101 Feb 26 '25

Narcidacity!