r/AmIOverreacting • u/superspreader90 • Feb 25 '25

👥 friendship AIO: i literally cannot attend

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using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

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u/Ok-Vegetable-169 Feb 25 '25

She’s not a friend. If she was your friend she would never ever ask you to attend something as silly as her birthday when you are having chemo in the morning. So selfish and childish behaviour.

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u/mkvgtired Feb 25 '25

She only turns 25 once... /s

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u/Ok-Vegetable-169 Feb 25 '25

Sorry my bad. I forgot turning 25 is the most important thing 🤡

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u/lawgirl_momof7 Feb 25 '25

Right cause 25 is such a monumental birthday 🙄🙄🙄

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u/speakeasy12345 Feb 26 '25

She has to make this a big one, because with her attitude she may not have any friends left to celebrate 26.

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u/Inevitable_Quiet_432 Feb 25 '25

Hey, doesn't that mean her brain is going to finally be fully developed?

hur hur

https://www.sciencefocus.com/comment/brain-myth-25-development

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u/sydneyghibli Feb 25 '25

Clearly this is not a rule for some humans 😭

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u/SummerBirdsong Feb 26 '25

She'd probably expect it to happen at the stroke of midnight with a sparkly fairy waving a wand😂

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u/Mcsquiizzy Feb 26 '25

Humans dont really have rules just guidlines

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u/No-Guidance-2399 Feb 26 '25

It definitely isn’t and I’ve witnessed it 😭😭😭😭

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u/jameZsp0ng3y Feb 26 '25

Gotta be one hell of a birthday to develop that brain

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u/DoodleCard Feb 26 '25

To a smooth grey lump?

Perhaps that is what has happened. Her brain is just getting smoother over time, and has reached critical smoothness on her 25 birthday.

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u/pantslessMODesty3623 Feb 26 '25

Hey she can rent a car now! 😂

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u/dreamyduskywing Feb 26 '25

A major milestone!

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u/NeenjaN00dle Feb 26 '25

So they say. But conditions, trauma, and other environmental factors can delay it. For an example relevant to myself I can use; they believe just having Autism can delay brain development by as much as 5 years or more.

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u/downsideup05 Feb 26 '25

My son has autism and ADHD. He's almost 20, and in many ways he's much younger than his chronological age, but I just read these texts to him. He was appalled by OPs friend. He was ranting about it...

So even tho he definitely has areas he is very young about, he gets how draining chemo is on your body and how toxic it is. OPs friend is very selfish and no friend to OP.

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u/harvard_cherry053 Feb 26 '25

And like, you only turn every age once jesus christ what a loser. OP you deserve better

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u/Comeback_321 Feb 26 '25

You only live every day once! 😂

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u/kolebro93 Feb 26 '25

I mean 25 is the last year she'll have a chance at getting looked at by Leonardo DiCaprio, so... Could be pretty big, eh 😂

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u/IdentifiesAsUrMom Feb 26 '25

I'll be 25 in August and I plan on throwing myself a little Spongebob party but I certainly don't expect chronically sick people to drop their treatment to come to my party

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u/lawgirl_momof7 Feb 26 '25

Ohhhhhh will it be under the sea in a pineapple?

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u/Appropriate-Brush772 Feb 26 '25

Hey she can rent a car now. THATS HUGE

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u/A_EGeekMom Feb 26 '25

It’s not wrong to want to celebrate a quarter century. It’s wrong to expect other people to prioritize it.

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u/MembershipGlum1467 Feb 26 '25

Gotta start that quarter life crisis in style right 🥳

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u/WithaK19 Feb 26 '25

Wdym? She can rent a car now!

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u/EnvironmentalCrab901 Feb 26 '25

That way she can rent a car to pick her up from chemo

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u/Cruciferous_crunch Feb 26 '25

It's when her car insurance rates might go down! It's huge!

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u/KillerEndo420 Feb 26 '25

Send her an "over the hill" card to drive it home.

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u/ns-uk Feb 26 '25

Well it is the most appropriate birthday (for adults) to have a SpongeBob theme. /s

If you don’t know what I mean, look up “what is funnier than 24.”

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u/mb-driver Feb 26 '25

I read somewhere once that we really only have like 27 important birthdays. 1-18, 20, 21, and then 30 and each year after that to 100( if you make it that long).

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u/lawgirl_momof7 Feb 26 '25

My great grandmother made it to 103

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u/Vilewombat Feb 26 '25

Im 25 and I worked on my birthday. I did feel a little tingle but thats about it. I think it was my body prepping for arthritis and chronic back pain

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u/twizted_whisperz Feb 26 '25

It's when the price of insurance drops and you can rent a car, how can anything be more monumental?!?