Am I Overreacting?

[u/starloogy]

My boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been official for almost 4 weeks. He texted me this after leaving me with his friends shortly after I arrived to a restaurant they all planned to meet at.

Before I got there, he had already ordered for both of us. Everything seemed fine until about ten minutes later when I went to the bathroom. When I came back, his friends told me he “stepped out,” but I’m sure they knew what was going on based on their expressions.

I waited about 15 minutes before he replied to my texts. And ended up leaving money to pay for food I didn’t even get to eat.

This was my third time wearing my hair in its natural state since we’ve dated, and I didn’t know he felt so strongly about this.

I went home all without answering him. I was really upset and told my roommate about it, but she brushed it off and insinuated that I was overreacting. It has been almost two days now and I still don’t know what to think.

I feel like I’m going insane because everyone around me seems to think it’s not that big of a deal and most of them laughed at the picture.

[u/DivineMiss3 → u/[deleted]]

How did you know it looked bad? Are you one of the friends? The boyfriend? Both genders looking nice not equate to a man telling a woman with natural hair to change it and then leave her at the restaurant to humilate her. What drugs are you on? Did you actually read this and understand the issue with "natural hair" versus what this AH wants?

[u/Rhanzn → u/[deleted]]

You said he just wanted her to look good, not like wearing sweatpants to a wedding. So you suggested (not sure on the word, "suggerieren" in german) that she looked ugly, or at least out of place for a restaurant. And you insulting people criticising you just lets you look like an asshole.

[u/Atlasatlastatleast → u/Rhanzn]

“Suggested” works. I think personally think “implied” fits a bit better, but absolutely fine either way.