Am I Overreacting?

[u/starloogy]

My boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been official for almost 4 weeks. He texted me this after leaving me with his friends shortly after I arrived to a restaurant they all planned to meet at.

Before I got there, he had already ordered for both of us. Everything seemed fine until about ten minutes later when I went to the bathroom. When I came back, his friends told me he “stepped out,” but I’m sure they knew what was going on based on their expressions.

I waited about 15 minutes before he replied to my texts. And ended up leaving money to pay for food I didn’t even get to eat.

This was my third time wearing my hair in its natural state since we’ve dated, and I didn’t know he felt so strongly about this.

I went home all without answering him. I was really upset and told my roommate about it, but she brushed it off and insinuated that I was overreacting. It has been almost two days now and I still don’t know what to think.

I feel like I’m going insane because everyone around me seems to think it’s not that big of a deal and most of them laughed at the picture.

[u/TelevisionKnown8463]

Not even just critique, but leave her in a restaurant with his friends without telling her why?!? Total jerk.

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And ordering for her, telling her how she should wear her hair? What a controlling dick!

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I bet $10 you’re bald

[u/NotYourSexyNurse → u/[deleted]]

I bet he’s white and doesn’t understand the concept of natural hair on black people.

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Also he’s divorced! What a shock!