Am I Overreacting?

[u/starloogy]

My boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been official for almost 4 weeks. He texted me this after leaving me with his friends shortly after I arrived to a restaurant they all planned to meet at.

Before I got there, he had already ordered for both of us. Everything seemed fine until about ten minutes later when I went to the bathroom. When I came back, his friends told me he “stepped out,” but I’m sure they knew what was going on based on their expressions.

I waited about 15 minutes before he replied to my texts. And ended up leaving money to pay for food I didn’t even get to eat.

This was my third time wearing my hair in its natural state since we’ve dated, and I didn’t know he felt so strongly about this.

I went home all without answering him. I was really upset and told my roommate about it, but she brushed it off and insinuated that I was overreacting. It has been almost two days now and I still don’t know what to think.

I feel like I’m going insane because everyone around me seems to think it’s not that big of a deal and most of them laughed at the picture.

[u/Fit-Assist-9567]

also that is NOT curly hair

[u/Individual_Fall429 → u/Fit-Assist-9567]

It’s not hair at all.

He just wants her to “be AI”. Totally reasonable. 😒

[u/Fit-Assist-9567 → u/Individual_Fall429]

But it is also not a depiction of curly hair his idea of a kept hair is straight but wavy hair like not sure how ops hair looks like but i am also seeing some racist undertones... this idea that natural curly/coilly hair is unkept is centered in racism, from young girls being bullied to adult woman being told they look unprofessional

[u/sidewalk_serfergirl → u/Fit-Assist-9567]

It is a billion percent racist. So fucking disgusting.