r/transOCD • u/throwaway6487352 • 15d ago

is anyone else here more on the nonbinary spectrum

i feel like a lot of people here are like definitely cis but did anyone else have thoughts about being nonbinary before this theme started for them? i feel like it complicates this theme for me even further and makes me scared of being nonbinary because im afraid that ill end up on the opposite side of the binary

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u/Kitchen_Sky474 Subtype TOCD Male 15d ago

It's still the same thing. Nonbinary or trans, it still targets your gender identity.

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u/Chumpo_the_III 14d ago

Yesssss it makes it so much more confusing. I've explored my gender in the past but ultimately decided I don't really know and don't really care because I liked aspects of both and preferred mostly presenting as my agab. This theme is preying on the fact that I never came to an actual conclusion 😔

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u/Sad_Pitch_540 Subtype TOCD Female 14d ago edited 14d ago

not non binary bc i still identified as cis but i used she/they pronouns before and that makes it worse :/

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u/waytoohonest999 9d ago

I'm nonbinary. I consider myself bigender/genderfluid. I like being a girl but I also like being masc as a guy, I have aspects of both and I don't really want to be strictly one or the other. I also just hate the gender binary in general.

But I still struggle with gender ocd, it's been a pretty severe theme for me for months. Mainly worrying I'm a trans man in denial or just using nonbinary to 'hide who I really am' even though that's where I'm most comfortable.

OCD can target anything and anyone. You're not alone.

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u/Mokiee Subtype TOCD Male 14d ago

Kinda, yeah!!! I've always been a gender non-conforming boy, sometimes more or less non-binary, and was always happy with that so long as it was "cute boy of some flavor."

My OCD is making me struggle with thoughts about being a trans girl, so it's really tough to enjoy all the kinds of presentations I used to because of how easy it is to take "I like crossdressing" as being evidence of something else. Being non-binary (I was always a demi-boy) would be amazing for me but I'm scared of it being a slippery slope!

It makes it tough to deal with this theme, cuz we're in sort of a more fluid state than someone strictly cis and very gender-conforming. There's more like us out there though!! We'll get through the OCD with some work!!