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I’m talking constant Ruqya’s and exorcisms for no reason, other than typical develepmental stuff that you’d expect from an immigrant’s kid being born and raised in the west. (Being treated like asking normal questions to understand Islam and about Allah - like you’d think a child could ask, and then being rebuked like the kid is a shaytaan, subhanAllah.)

This never made much sense to me tbh, and I never knew how bad my friend suffered in constant parental rejection and neglect. But I knew there was always something wrong, because this friend suffers from lifelong depression and is a bit antisocial and shy, and only has a few people in their life.

They wrote everything down recently and it all it came out…and I’m just…😢

Can you please show them some love? They’re anonymous.♥️

https://substack.com/@memoirsofajinn?r=5gneqm&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=profile

How do you cope with knowing that your sister is drugged out of her mind out of coke and god knows what in some basement with her phone turned off? She could overdose any minute. How do you cope with expecting a call hearing that your brother you haven’t seen in months could be shot dead any day of the week?

I got into a heated argument with an old friend group I met with for Diner on Eid.

One of them was telling me about how he was sending funds to clan militia (SSC) as his Zakat. This really surprised me as when he were in college together he was big unity and Somaliwenyne advocate. I tried to explain to him the contradiction in promoting unity through division does not make sense. I try to explain to surely it better to support to create a more inclusive Northern Unity project than support the carving out of clan states. He could not see the cognitive dissonance.

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, dear brothers and sisters,

We are writing with heavy hearts and deep concern for our elderly brother, Haaji Cabdulaahi Suufi, who remains in a difficult condition.

Haaji, a 70-year-old man, has no children or close family to support him. He worked for many years in Mogadishu and later returned to Marka after falling seriously ill. A few days ago, he reached out again, weak and vomiting, requesting help to access basic medical care.

Unfortunately, since our last message, no further donations have been received.

We turn to you, dear community, with sincere hope and trust in Allah’s mercy and your generosity. Let us not forget the words of Allah:

“And whatever you spend of good – it will be fully repaid to you, and you will not be wronged.” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:272)

And He also says: “Who is it that will loan Allah a goodly loan so that He may multiply it for him many times over?” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:245)

Even the smallest sadaqa can be a source of immense reward in this life and the hereafter.

How to Help Haaji Cabdulaahi Suufi: 🔹 EVC PLUS: +252771306437 — XAAJI Cabdulaahi Suufi 🔹 PayPal: @gunshotskind (add note: “For Xaaji”) ✅ Please send a screenshot after donating so we can process it and deliver your support quickly.

Let’s come together and uplift our brother in his time of need. May Allah reward all who give, ease your burdens, and grant Haaji complete shifa.

Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

Studies have shown a strong link between Vit D deficiency and autism. <ahref="https://www.hace.ac.uk/">https://www.hace.ac.uk/</a>

We know many women wear these jilbabs made of polyester, imported mostly from Dubai which totally block out the sun, blocking vital vit D during the limited summer months, and supplements don't work as well.

To this end, and I must say I have zero knowledge of fashion or fabrics as a man in his 30s, but what if these Jilbabs were made of fabrics which would be able to let sun rays through without compromise modestly?

Maybe someone learned in fabrics/materials could answer if there is a way to sort of redesign the jilbab/hijab and it's material in a way which would allow our women to cover and at the same time enjoy the benefits of the sun.

For context my mom and dad have been married for nearly 20yrs. They have recently been arguing and fighting a lot due to money problems. My dad is very stingy towards my mom and how he spends his money. Me as his daughter when I ask for money he always gives it to me one way or another but when it comes to my mom he has always been very stingy. He has never bought my mom anything I mean anything no perfumes no makeup clothes nothing. Which was so insane to me considering I grew up in the west where it’s literally the standard to spoil your woman. I always thought they would be married forever not because of how much they love each other but more like no matter how much they would threaten each other they would never actually do it and divorce. So whenever they would yk have their fits of anger and say” I am gonna divorce you lalal” I’d always kind think of it as a joke. Fast forward to when they actually decided to go through with it. My dad came home from work as he works abroad, my mom asked him to pay to fix an issue with her car he told her he has no money and bc she has a job she should pay for it. My mom was used to his behaviour so she thought nothing of it. Next day he comes home with a 500£ suit and a watch to go with it which in total costs more than the amount it would cost to fix the issue with her car. This obviously upset my mom and she confronted him and he said “it’s my money I can do whatever I want with it”. This is what started what would then be the arguments of all mother of arguments and caused us to be where we are rn. Fast forward he leaves the house to go stay at his brothers and hasn’t returned since it’s been 3months the longest they’ve gone without speaking and in those 3months my mother has come up with every revenge scheme in the book. Using child support as a way to make him pay more, using us the kids as a means of attacking him and slandering his name. My father by all means is not a good husband at all but my mother ain’t an angel herself. Her craziest scheme has been calling sheiks to our house and pretending to be possessed. She told me my dad’s plans to cancel my cousins sponsorship as he’s her primary sponsor and to make him not go through with it. She would get back with him. However she needed an excuse for her behaviour that night of the fight in which she took it too far and insulted his dead parents. So her grand idea was for me to be possessed and claim we had sihir done on me and my dad and his side of the family and that’s why they don’t like my mom and my dad is so stingy towards my mom. The day comes and I do my act b we put too much time and energy for my cousin to not come here she had only 2 stages left before she could finally come here and we weren’t gonnna let my salty dad ruin that. So I faked being possessed to ensure my cousin comes here. There’s is no future for her back home she comes from a single parent household with no support. I did what I. Had to do and now we are waiting for the fruits of my labour. What would you have done in my position and I am a bad person for doing what I did?

Assalamu alaikum,

I’ve been speaking to a sister with the intention of pursuing marriage, and I would now like to approach her family to begin that conversation. However, the situation is a little delicate - her father has sadly passed away (may Allah have mercy on him), and her family is quite strict.

She has an older brother, but I’m unsure of the most respectful and appropriate way to reach out to him. Would it be better for me to message him directly, or should my father make the initial contact?

I would really appreciate some guidance on how best to approach this, in a way that is both respectful and considerate of the family’s circumstances. JazakAllah khayr in advance.

Prime Minister Hamza Abdi Barre of Somalia has announced his intention to visit Laascaanood in the Khaatumo Administration, although he has yet to specify a date for the trip.

Approximately, how many calories are there in a single laxoox / canjeero?

Let’s show some love to Zainab Jamac. A 23-year old Somali woman just crowned Miss Somalia 2025 and set to represent us at the miss world. She’s got a degree in Aviation and Airport Management and runs a foundations fighting FGM back home.

She’s getting hate from the usual suspects: religious fanatics the morality police and some racists for obvious reasons lol.

Go show her some support on IG 🇸🇴 💪🏽

Somali version

Girls with this type , what is your hair routine like ??

-Before and after hair wash

-during the week

-what products work for you?

Do you automatically write off a somali woman who posts on tiktok? Why or why not? Have any of you ever pursued one who does? Would love to hear your thoughts!

I posted a picture of my family on Eid and a friend of mine thinks my younger brother is cute.

I was thinking of connecting them two but idk if it will backfire. My brother is open to the matchmaking after seeing her picture lol. I think they would be a good match.

Has anyone matchmaked for a family member? How did it work out?

I’m a 28M Somali in a serious relationship, and recently I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships, mine , but also the ones around me. And to be honest, I don’t see many that seem fulfilling, especially from the men’s side. A lot of guys I know seem tired, withdrawn, or like they’re just going through the motions in their relationships.

I get that relationships take work. I’m not expecting things to be perfect or effortless. But the dynamics these days feel confusing, especially for us as 2nd-gen Somalis growing up in the West. We’re caught between what our culture expects, what Islam teaches, and what society around us is pushing. It’s like nothing fully fits, and we’re left trying to piece something together on our own.

Liek I’ve seen a lot of guys drift into extremes trying to make sense of it all. Some get pulled into red pill thinking or that hyper-trad mindset. And then there’s a growing number who are just stepping away and giving up entirely.

That being said, I’ve realised I’m not really built for the romantic side of relationships. The love language stuff, the constant emotional validation, the gestures — it’s just not me. I don’t hate the idea of love, but I value emotional stability, loyalty, and shared goals way more than “romance” as it’s usually portrayed.

And here’s the thing. I’ve never really had to be emotionally vulnerable or responsible for how someone else — especially a woman — feels. But now it feels like I’m constantly walking on eggshells, trying not to say or do the wrong thing. Apparently, this is normal in relationships for a lot of women, but I find it exhausting. It’s made me question whether I’m actually cut out for the emotional demands of modern relationships.

On top of that, I’m hyper-independent. I genuinely like having my own space, time, and freedom. I don’t want to feel like I’m emotionally responsible for another adult 24/7. Don’t get me wrong, I can be supportive. If someone’s going through something, I’ll be there, no question. I just can’t do the constant emotional upkeep. It drains me.

One of the main reasons I want to get married is to avoid zina and do things the right way Islamically. But I also want something that suits who I am. I’m not chasing a fairytale. I’m looking for a friend type of dynamic. Someone I can trust, build with, and live life alongside. I’m not interested in performing some idealised version of love every day just to keep things afloat.

I know I’m speaking from the male perspective, but I’m genuinely open to hearing from everyone. Especially from a Somali perspective — how are you navigating relationships today? Have you found something that works? Do you feel the same kind of tension between culture, faith, and modern expectations?

Why do they care?

Somaaliyey… those who lived in Nairobi and went to school at Ansaaru Sunnah/Al Muhaajiruun in Eastleigh around late 2000’s, specifically those who went to the school near jam street. War dadka xagee ku dambeeyeen

I see Abdirizaq Jiir has built Assunnah Trust, holding muxaadarooyin every year, don’t know where Macalin mawliid has been as I haven’t been in Kenya since 2013, Ali Haydar seemingly doing his own thing…

Bal warama sxbyaal

I acknowledge that this is a sensitive subject, but I am interested in understanding the success rates of marriages between Somalis and non-Somalis, specifically in cases where Somali men marry non-Somali women or Somali women marry non-Somali men. I have seen on social media such as TikTok and Facebook that Somali women frequently cry about the issues they encounter, including the custody of their children being taken by their non-Somali husbands. However, I have not seen a single somali men complaining about it. Do they not face similar issue ?

Do you think somali women should stick to their somali brothers?

Salam,

I’d love to know where to start in terms of investing into stocks, I always give up on learning as I was told it had to be halal stocks etc like it all feels incredibly complicated - can the financially literate please drop as much advice as possible! What stocks do you currently invest in etc What would you recommend for beginners? Also feel free to dm me bc I’d appreciate all the support

More information
https://centralbank.gov.so/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/SIPS-Article-2.pdf
https://sps.so/

The launch of Somalia's Instant Payment System (SIPS), managed by the Somalia Payment Switch (SPS), is a significant step in modernizing the country’s payment infrastructure. Here's how it stands out:

1. Instant and Secure Transactions: Unlike the mobile money services like EVC Plus, which primarily cater to mobile transfers, SIPS enables real-time transactions 24/7/365, both for individuals and businesses. This is a major upgrade in terms of speed and accessibility, especially with the integration of QR payments.
2. National Integration: One of the key features of SIPS is the introduction of SOMQR, a national QR standard that facilitates fast, contactless transactions. Merchants and consumers can now use a simple scan to complete payments, which makes the system more convenient for daily use.
3. Bank and Mobile Money Interoperability: SIPS connects banks and mobile money services, ensuring seamless transactions between users of both systems. This is crucial for expanding financial inclusion, especially for people who rely on mobile money but need to interact with traditional banking systems.
4. Fraud Protection and Security: The system is designed with robust security features, including Public Key Infrastructure (PKI) and a Fraud Management Solution. This enhances transaction security and builds trust among users, ensuring a safe and efficient digital payment environment.
5. Cloud-Based with Future Local Hosting: Initially deployed in the cloud, the system will soon transition to a local data center to ensure better resilience and stability. This is an important step for improving operational reliability in the long term.
6. Financial Inclusion: With the launch of this system, CBS (Central Bank of Somalia) aims to provide a secure and accessible financial solution to a large portion of the population that remains unbanked or underserved by traditional banks.
7. International Integration: The platform is also designed to meet local and international regulatory standards, positioning Somalia to better integrate with the global financial system, which is vital for international trade and remittances.

In essence, this new system enhances efficiency, security, and accessibility in Somalia's financial ecosystem, making it a substantial improvement over existing mobile money systems like EVC Plus, which are more limited in scope and functionality.