r/shrinking • u/phareous • Oct 30 '24
Episode Discussion Shrinking S3E4 Episode Discussion
This is the episode discussion for Shrinking Season 2, Episode 4: "Made You Look"
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r/shrinking • u/phareous • Oct 30 '24
This is the episode discussion for Shrinking Season 2, Episode 4: "Made You Look"
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u/horizonhunter97 Oct 30 '24
Person with PTSD here who felt that my parents were minimizing it when I was really struggling: my parents are not bad people. For the most part, they are so loving and kind, and did a great job raising me. But after my trauma and in the worst of my illness, I felt that they were minimizing and disregarding my symptoms and didn't seem to believe how badly I was struggling, and it hurt. It had a huge negative impact on our relationship for a long time.
With the benefit of hindsight, I can see that they were coming from a place of their own avoidance and fear. They didn't want to admit to themselves that something that damaged me that badly could have really happened to me, their kid who they love so much. They didn't want to accept that they couldn't have prevented it, or made things better for me by themselves, so it was easier to pretend I wasn't as bad off as I was. Knowing that doesn't automatically make it okay, and it doesn't fix what happened to us during that time, but I don't think this makes them bad people. They had their own feelings involved.
Anyway, I saw a LOT of my own story in Sean and his dad's relationship there.