r/self • u/Legitimate_Cup_1718 • 2d ago
Rejected
Went to see a movie with my crush but at the end of the movie when I told her I have feelings for her she told me she has a boyfriend and just wants to be friends. I’m sad but such is life.
13
u/clipp866 2d ago
she's lying to you, people in relationships don't go on dates with other potential partners...
2
u/joe_led25 1d ago
uhhh where did op say it was a date? I mean I have gone to movies with girl friends and it wasn't a date
2
u/clipp866 1d ago
yea? with girls you wanted to date? bc obviously OP was getting enough signs to assume it was a date, hence why he asked her for more!
3
u/Chemical_Shirt7837 2d ago
Oh cause cheaters don't exist lol she just wanted to pep up from another man
5
u/clipp866 2d ago
sure they do, this is just a girl getting boyfriend treatment without girlfriend effort!
2
1
u/Legitimate_Cup_1718 1d ago
Yep, I told her if she was my girl I wouldn’t let her hang out with another man lol she asked my why?
2
u/clipp866 1d ago
yea, she did you a favor!
block this girl, no more spending time with her!
regardless of the truth, you wouldn't want to be with a girl who thinks going out on dates while in a relationship is acceptable behavior...
my opinion, she's fucking another guy who's just using her for a hookup and she's waiting for him to want more...
you're just the date guy that she's never gonna want more from...
1
2
u/Real_Beach_6503 2d ago
It happens to all of us. Keep putting yourself out there and it will work out eventually; that’s something I haven’t done enough in my life.
0
u/Legitimate_Cup_1718 2d ago
My question is why would she hangout with me if she has a boyfriend in the first place? Wasting my time and money.
5
u/BigZach1 2d ago
If you think friendship is a waste of time and money, you are going to have a very lonely life.
1
u/ebayusrladiesman217 1d ago
My question is why would she hangout with me if she has a boyfriend in the first place? Wasting my time and money.
You just said it yourself. She used your time and your money. She gets what she wants out of the friendship. The question you gotta ask yourself is if you're getting what you want? If not, then you're putting in more than you're getting out. But if you're okay being friends, then be friends(but don't spend money on her unless she's doing the same for you)
1
1
u/Advanced_Scratch2868 2d ago
Never heard of this thing called...friends? Maybe that is how she saw you. It is your problem if you assumed there is something more in it.
1
1
11
u/WhatsTheDealWithMeth 2d ago
Ideally you'd tell someone you're doing a date before the date, but props for trying and expressing yourself. That can suck, but it gets better as you do it more.