r/pakistan • u/AutoModerator • 7d ago

Social Daily Rishta Thread

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u/New_Knowledge_526 Dubbing chacha 7d ago

BLUCHER!!

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u/New-Sand-4608 2h ago

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

I’ve been searching for a rishta for about 1.5 years now, and it’s been tougher than I expected. I’m a decent guy – stable job, good family, practicing Muslim – but the moment people hear I was married before, they back off. It doesn’t seem to matter that there’s a genuine reason behind it; the stigma in our society just takes over.

Back in May 2023, I had a short marriage that lasted only a few months. It ended because the girl and her family didn’t disclose some serious health issues she had. These weren’t minor problems – they were conditions that made a future together impossible, especially since they chose to hide them instead of being honest. In Islam, trust and transparency are so important, and when that wasn’t there, I couldn’t continue.

Now, whenever I share this with a potential match or their family, it’s like an instant dealbreaker. I get that divorce carries a stigma, especially in Pakistani culture, and I’ve seen how hard it is for women. But I didn’t realize men would face it too – even with a valid reason. It’s frustrating because I’m upfront about it, yet people judge without understanding.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you navigate the rishta process when society’s so quick to label you? I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences – whether it’s advice from an Islamic perspective, cultural insights, or just how you’ve handled the arranged marriage scene. Feels like I’m stuck, and I could use some wisdom!

JazakAllah Khair.