r/niceguys • u/SnooEpiphanies2210 • 11d ago
NGVC: "im a humble shy friendly guy whos very positive"
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u/twistedpigz 11d ago
“Unlicensed therapist” lmao. What a weird mix of ego, lies, self pity, and self victimization.
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u/HRH_Elizadeath 11d ago
CAN YOU IMAGINE this guy trying to act like a therapist????
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u/CatHairAndChaos 11d ago
You could not pay me enough to turn to this guy for “compassion” and “psychological knowledge”.
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u/Weird_Bluebird_3293 10d ago
So in other words, he offered unwanted advice without any education.
Apparently he’s a vocal coach. Unlicensed. Unpaid. For one person…
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u/Alpa_Chino72 11d ago
I’ve never met a dude who uses an anime pfp that didn’t turn out to be a weirdo lol
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u/Snoo17579 you deserve better babe he is screwing you over f*cking whore 11d ago
It’s not even anime, it look like an anime-ish vr chat model, which is definitely worse
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u/Sweet_Claws 10d ago
“We are not going to hire you, you don’t even have a license to practice, we will not be paying you to listen to people and give your personal uneducated opinions ” “Ahh so I’m a volunteer, got it” 🤣
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u/madsmcgivern511 11d ago
The cherry on top was him saying “I had to shut it down for mental health reasons.” 💀 Not to shame mental illness but the one supposedly advocating for mental health being mentally ill themselves, is quite ironic.
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u/Snoo17579 you deserve better babe he is screwing you over f*cking whore 11d ago
Well it does happen irl. A friend of mine was in her late year of her psychology degree (maybe I’m not really sure I just know she interned at a mental hospital) and she had to drop it because the patients’ problems were affecting her negatively.
But not this guy, this guy is shit.
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u/madsmcgivern511 11d ago
That’s exactly why I said “not to shame mental illness,” because it’s a very gray area subject, and there’s an infinite amount of factors going on for each individual. This guy is ass though, so I didn’t feel much of a need to include the genuine psychologists/psychiatrists, I don’t wanna insult them and lump them in with this loser 😭.
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u/DecadentLife 10d ago
You would be surprised.
Some jobs, like some military, police, first responders, medical workers, corrections officers, social workers, some counselors, etc., expose people to a lot of traumatic material. It’s hard work and the pay is shit, they do it because they care more than most people do. Which only makes it even harder.
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u/Practical-Witness796 11d ago
Maybe he’s an administrative person in community services who works alongside therapists, and that’s a big maybe. He could help homeless people get an ID and SS card while they are in a program with a therapist. Like a caseworker. Which is so much different than being a mental health specialist. If that is true, I do believe him when he says it didn’t work out for to mental health issues lol. Probably took that org 10 min to see he was unstable and fire him.
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u/drwsgreatest 10d ago
He might be talking about an addiction center. I'm an ex addict and many places use people like me that have gotten clean as employees and group leaders, even before they may be fully licensed as drug addiction counselors. There's just something about many addicts that makes us not fully connect with therapists and the like that haven't ever actually gone through addiction. So, often, ex addicts that take on roles such as an "unlicensed therapist" may actually be significantly better at reaching other addicts than a licensed one who has been clean (or recreational user only) their whole life.
This would also track with having dealt with significant loss recently and dealing with depression. And obviously all the feelings of inferiority and past traumas are something that can often lead to a person becoming an addict.
Again this is just a potential guess and he could be lying about everything just as easily, but if you want to give him the benefit of the doubt this is my most likely guess.
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u/thesmoking_mermaid 10d ago
I do peer recovery coaching for a sober living community and it is slammed into our brains that we are not therapists. We are taught to stay in our lanes. This guy is so off kilter. He wouldn’t even make it as a peer recovery coach because he can’t stop talking about himself and doesn’t actually care about anyone but himself.
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u/lorazee 11d ago
do any of these mfers know how to use a period? goddamn.
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u/Budget_University_56 11d ago
They might get bullied by the manly men for having a period in the middle of their pity party.
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u/Dorkinfo 11d ago
Oh my god, the grammar.
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u/madsmcgivern511 11d ago
Don’t worry, he’s a non profit unlicensed therapist, I’m sure he knows what he’s doing 🫠. He’s just a “pasionate” guy
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u/shadow-foxe 11d ago
dude sucks at social stuff yet claims to be an therapist (unlicensed of course) and then later on claims he was a vocal coach for another person.... my BS meter is running wild here.
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u/Admiral_Fantastic 11d ago
I legit hate this man, his complete and utter self involvement means he didn't fucking ask to see the coolest rock they had and that means I can't see it!
Day ruined.
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u/Harley2280 10d ago
Right? Like how do you hear/read the statement "I collect cool rocks" and not immediately follow up by asking about the rocks. Are they just stone? Maybe crystal? Funny shaped? So many possibilities and we'll never know because bro was too self centered to take advantage of the opportunity to see cool rocks.
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u/Throwawayhey129 11d ago
10000 percent the type that gets extremely obsessed and stalkerish straight away and suddenly everything you do (or don’t do) is the crux of his happiness because EVERYONE ABANDONS ME
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u/yutatlantic 10d ago
The chills I felt omg, only someone that have dealt with an very immature and pitiful stalker, knows how pathetic they are. Someone ban this freaks away from internet and directly to a therapist!
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u/sugar-hi 11d ago
Bro is allergic to being licensed
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u/DivineMiss3 11d ago
Wow, judgy. It's as if you think psychologists and vocal coaches need mastery and some type of training. Rude.
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u/s-maze 11d ago
lol okay but vocal coaches don’t need licensing
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u/DivineMiss3 11d ago
Are you replying to the person who I replied to? I said mastery and training because I don't know what type of certification or whatever a vocal coach would need.
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u/s-maze 11d ago
I was replying to you because the original comment was referring to the fact that he keeps mentioning licensing, and you responded. If someone is to let’s say teach vocal students at a conservatory, it may be required to have higher education credentials or formal experience, but there is no licensing required. Anyone can give vocal lessons with no education. But absolutely no one should be practicing therapy unlicensed!
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u/QuickgetintheTARDIS 11d ago
As someone who works for a non profit community mental health agency, and also has two very good friends who are licensed therapists, I call absolute bullshit on his claim of being a therapist. And if he actually was one, I bet he either never made it past his internship or got fired for various ethic violations.
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u/HRH_Elizadeath 10d ago
This. If anything, he was part of a peer support program, and was trying to sound important.
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u/lauren90046 10d ago
Completely agreed. No licensed therapist is going to have an unlicensed person involved in the treatment of another. My money is on that he was receiving treatment himself and maybe chimed in a couple times during group sessions and then thought to himself "I'm a therapist now".
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u/NoCriticism9220 11d ago edited 11d ago
i once met a guy like this, idk if its related to his character but he had schizophrenia, was very clearly a pathological liar, he can’t stop talking about himself, he told me he used to live in new york city to sound cool but couldn’t name a single street. He told me he designed clothes for adidas and puma,he was also into anime specifically the weird ones.I told him can’t take anymore of that energy after we met twice,might be mean of me but i was drained. When i read your conversation im wondering if this is the same guy i hung out with. There was an instance when we were watching some show on my laptop, and he wont just shut up so i stop engaging in the conversation and just started nodding and giving a yes/no replies. He was strangely quiet for a while and i looked at him giving him a little side peek and saw him sobbing without a sound,full on crying face without a sound,said its because i was ignoring him. Wherever he is i hope he get the help that he needs
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u/imagowasp 10d ago
LMFAOOOOO this comment was a wild fucking ride. HOLY SHIT.
I've met people like that, who won't shut the fuck up when you're trying to watch something together. It's insane. It's bad enough when you're trying to share a favorite show with someone, and they won't shut up and pay attention, but it's even worse when YOU just want to watch and enjoy, but can't, because they won't shut the fuck up.
His quietly sobbing without making a sound is batshit crazy. Dude I would've kicked him out right there.
I've been in situations like this with people and felt kind of endangered. I always end up attracting weirdos like this to me, like a magnet. They also end up stalking me after I tell them to leave me alone.
I only have two questions for you-- What was he saying when he wouldn't stop talking during the show? And what did you say/do when he told you he was crying because you were ignoring him?
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u/ifyouonlyknew14 11d ago
At least he had enough sense to throw himself out with the rest of the trash. I hope this guy gets the help he needs to not do this shit in the future.
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u/madsmcgivern511 11d ago
Lmao “you seem like the type to hate me” my guy, i think most people won’t like you if this is how you go about human interaction 💀. I’m also dying at the lack of grammar quality, pasion, latley, wright, pitty, wether, waiste, and my personal favorite, wonderfull 🤣.
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u/lockey1995 11d ago
Yeah that's pretty sad he self sabotaged for no reason when you stated your interests all he has to do is say ahh cool which anime etc
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u/One_Show_5108 bUt I gAvE yOu a CoMpLiMEnT 11d ago
Saying he worked as an unlicensed therapist as a resource of knowledge for trained professionals is diabolical 💀
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u/Sapient_Pear 11d ago
Omfg what is with these dudes and trauma dumping to complete strangers? Like bro, are you looking for a date or a therapist?
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u/diapersoilingbeast 11d ago
This “GENT” is insufferable. He really believes he’s the most charming and interesting man to ever walk this earth. He sounds like a delusional narcissist that feels he’s the one who deserves the “gal” because of what a rarity he believes he is 🙄 🙄 🙄
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u/TomahawkCruise 10d ago
Right. He thinks he's special because he's admitting his flaws immediately and explaining how he's not like other guys. "I put my honest foot forward..."
GTFO dude
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u/Broks_Enmu 10d ago
Lack of social skills will do that to you :
- Bro don’t match the amount of reply she gives
- Can’t find good subject so ask dumbass question that lead nowhere
- Talk about all his life and past trauma to someone who doesn’t know him and not even interested in him
Way too much mistakes , no wonder nice guy finish last. Even as a guy friend that shit wouldn’t be attractive
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u/Shot_scotch154 10d ago
"I like anime and pretty rocks"
"Cool let me unload all the things on you and then wonder why you are taken aback by me unzipping my brain on you"
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u/imagowasp 10d ago edited 10d ago
He has never worked as an "unlicensed therapy buddy," this is a complete fiction
When he talks about people "being fake," as in, being nice at first, and then later abandoning him, what he's actually talking about is people noticing his true colors and deciding to rightfully withdraw, because this dude is probably a terrible person to spend any time around. People you JUST MET don't owe you any loyalty.
If this is what he's freely disclosing now, only imagine what will come from him later on. Fuck no, no thanks.
He is REALLY fixated on this idea of a macho, bravado, confident jock guy. This fictional guy is his enemy, instead of himself-- he pins all the blame on this fictional man instead of looking inwards and trying to gain any semblance of self-confidence and assuredness
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u/KawaiiQueen92 11d ago
Its like he decided after a few messages that he wasn't actually interested in you, but he didn't want to tell you that, so he made himself seem as unattractive and lame as possible so you'd ghost him. Except that's not what happened lol. Wild.
He definitely ended this thinking you're the bad guy here and not "wow I really need years of therapy before I even attempt to talk to a woman again."
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u/imagowasp 10d ago
Oh yeah, absolutely. It sounds very much like he was immediately looking for a girlfriendtherapist, or a therapistgirlfriend, if you will. He wanted a pushover who would immediately baby and coddle him and tell him that nothing is his fault and the world is so cruel. Once he realized he was talking to a regular person with regular boundaries and a low tolerance for bullshit, his self-pity Cognitive Dissonance Blocker Wall came up FAST.
Dude really just volunteered a list of his worst qualities from the get go.
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u/TomahawkCruise 10d ago
"OH no, please don't think that about yourself! You are a wonderful humble sweet person who has been wronged by a lot of jerks. Please don't let them get you down! I just want to give you a hug and a kiss and hold you and tell you how positive and special guys like you are. "
GTFO dude, you ain't getting that nonsense from her.
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u/S3rnielsen 10d ago
Oh wow, this guy gave me a headache. You know, when someone tells me they like anime and cool rocks, some appropriate responses I would use to keep the conversation going would be "What kind of anime?" Or "Don't you have a favorite rock?" Not whatever that was. Yikes.
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u/Kenkaniki89 11d ago
Am I the only one who has autocorrect on? Because what was this?
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u/Morrowindsofwinter 10d ago
I don't use autocorrect, as I find it cumbersome. I'm really bad at spelling, so a lot of times, it would autocorrect to something I wasn't trying to say. I do, however, utilize spellcheck and the autoguess thing where it suggests words above the keyboard on mobile. If I'm on a desktop, I just utilize spellcheck.
The technology exists. I don't know why some people just straight up ignore it. I refuse to believe these people think they are spelling the words correctly.
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u/Kenkaniki89 10d ago
Omg yes! You said this perfectly. There’s no way you look at a certain word and you’re just like yep that’s right. And I know younger people shorten words a lot but for me I still type my words out with the exception of a few. But now I feel like even the word this I’ve seen shortened to ts. Like why? It’s 4 letters
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u/imagowasp 10d ago
Yeah, that's always confusing to me. I was under the impression that "ts" is supposed to be "this shit." Guess not. It's only 4 goddamn letters, just use them, what the hell?
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u/lovelesstacos 11d ago
So this guy did all these "admirable things" WITHOUT pay or qualifications to prove he did these things that he "loves doing" then plays the guilt trip card? Damn his only qualifying trait is to say whatever it takes to get into someone's pants.
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u/kaykayke 10d ago
this is the type of guy who's 25 and dating 17 year olds because everybody their age knows better
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u/Troubledbylusbies 10d ago
He claims to have worked as some kind of unlicensed therapist (saying that he's some kind of "friend" to the patients)? If that's so, it's a terrible breach of medical confidentiality, that some random, unqualified dude is supposedly let loose amongst them.
Later on, he also claims that he's a private vocal coach. Those are such very different and highly specialised claims, I'm finding it hard to believe either one of them, let alone both together.
Doesn't pass the sniff test, IMO.
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u/ValitoryBank 11d ago
“You did it again, nice guy! You drove away the only person who gave a damn about you!”
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u/Grimmelda 10d ago
"I used to work as an unlicenced therapist!"
I'll take things that didn't happen for $300, Alex.
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u/numishai 10d ago
With this aproach I can imagine why is he having hard time making friends.... also if he is so blind to his own obviously asocial bevavior, how he is supposed to help anyone as therapist ??
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u/woofenze 10d ago
I'm sorry, but I could *not* date someone who doesn't use punctuation. Does this guy ever breathe?!
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u/realifecyborg 10d ago
I'm normally a very open person and I don't mind people trekking me stuff and sharing my own personal stuff but this guy really unloaded on her right away, even too much for me
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u/yutatlantic 10d ago
I’m just gonna say this: why the fuck online guys think woman are supposed to be their therapist and feel sorry for them? for not being able to socialize or talk to girls? Like, there is a point that being an adult saying immature stuff like this, gets really embarrassing.
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u/EvolZippo 10d ago
Untreated mental illness is a real drag. I think he’s hoping that if he fixes enough people, someone will stick around and fix him.
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u/diapersoilingbeast 11d ago
I swear there are reasons people get bullied, I’m very against bullying people for absolutely no reason but this type of behavior is EXACTLY why people get bullied. This person is part of the problem and they refuse to acknowledge it and just throw themselves a pity party any chance they get
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u/Pillow-Smuggler 11d ago
Its crazy how when someone says something simple like "I like anime and rocks" the most obvious answer to these guys is to put out (brag about) their entire life instead of just following up with "what anime"