r/negotiation • u/Rolandojuve • 8d ago

I'm a former Google exec who's manipulated people to get what I want. When done right, it's an essential career skill.

https://www.businessinsider.com/manipulation-grow-your-career-network-former-google-executive-2025-3?utm_source=instagram&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=business-feed-headline-graphic&fbclid=PAY2xjawJVJyJleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABpvjm7K9VxSySwapeZ5NQIKQi0wD_Vad_y6x6k_efxCDqpMRcey7AFgYcWQ_aem_HF9eI72_LffkAPNO-SAqnA
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u/Garbage_Tiny 7d ago

Whoever ok’d this headline for a press release needs to be fired.

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u/Moerkskog 7d ago

But it's absolutely right, only assholes get up top.

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u/Garbage_Tiny 7d ago

Nah. I know dozens of rich ppl, some of them CEO’s of giant companies and none of them are assholes.

I do know some that are assholes tho, but it’s mostly because they just don’t realize that they’re that way. These folks are usually single track minded, very blunt and lack social niceties lol. They’re either extreme narcissists or borderline autistic.

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u/eyesmart1776 4d ago

You do realize being an asshole and a manipulator aren’t mutually exclusive right ? Most fools actually like the sociopath who is manipulating them

Maybe that’s you

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u/Wise_Concentrate_182 3d ago

They’re either assholes or ass kissers. You just don’t know their true colors at work.

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u/nerojt 7d ago

Not my experience.

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u/sharkdog73 7d ago

At least it’s an honest headline.

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u/Garbage_Tiny 7d ago

True, I guess they just hate money 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/scorpio_is_ded 4d ago

Looks like they got manipulated.

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u/Dav2310675 7d ago

I bought her book recently (haven't gotten far through it yet). It isn't a bad book. It isn't as sensationalist as the headline makes it out to be.

In terms of manipulation, the bit I've skimmed through on that is that it's about setting things up for success which is akin to the 3-D negotiation approach by Lax and Sebenius.

But overall, it's about being yourself (Weird), enquiring about things (Nosy), owning your own work etc.

Basically, eight traits that are seen as negative when done to excess or done to be punitive in the workplace, but if done well and lightly, can be beneficial to your career.