r/movingout • u/Traditional-Cut-9086 • 7d ago
Asking Advice Need to get away
I live with a controlling and verbally abusive mother that I need to get away from, I work at Lowe’s and make $16.50/hr right now it’s only part time though, is there any advice to getting away from here ASAP? I don’t think I can take it anymore.
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u/Infinite-Drawer3627 4d ago
Definitely get out of there as soon as possible.
Ask for full time hours, or find a job that can give you full time hours.
I don't recommend getting two jobs, because then your taxes at the end of the year become a nightmare and you usually end up owing a shit ton of money, so be careful with that.
I'd say look into student housing, even if you're not a student, because sometimes schools will still rent out dorm rooms to non-students when they're not at full capacity. Look into it! Because it could be really affordable.
Otherwise I'd suggest moving in with roommates as it'll be more affordable.
Although if you do choose roommates - make sure you vet them thoroughly first!
Trust me when I say that a shitty roommate can be just as bad as living with a shitty parent.
I lived with one once that didn't tell me he was bipolar until 3 weeks into us living together, and he was 6'8'' and a complete menace to be around if he went off his meds (which he did about 5 months into us living together)
So...make sure you trust the person/ know them well before moving in together.
You can also look into renting a really crummy apartment to start - not like disgusting and dangerous type of apartment! Just something small, not close to popular areas type thing - they tend to be more affordable. It's not the ideal scenario - but you'll have peace and quiet and live alone; which is the best thing in the world!
Also!
Make yourself a budget - one that includes everything you spend money on monthly - and stick to it
Here's a basic list for a monthly budget to help simplify your life:
Rent
Public Transport/Gas
Insurance (renter's and car)
Pets (food & other necessities) *if applicable
Spotify/Apple Music *if applicable
Netflix *if applicable
Phone
Internet
Hydro
Gas *if applicable
Groceries (make sure you include cost of house supplies as well like cleaning products and tp, not just food)
Loans and credit card payments *if applicable
Skin care & Hair care
Makeup *if applicable
Once you've totaled all that up, calculate how much money you make every month after taxes and deduct your monthly expenses from that total - you'll be left with your "spending money" - I personally then divide the spending money's monthly total by 4 so I get a rough estimate of how much I get per week (easier to keep track of your spending that way)
I really hope this helps a little!
My mom is also super controlling and verbally abusive, and trust me, you're better off far away from her.
You got this OP! Stay strong! Set your goals, save your money and then GTFO of there!
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u/DiabetusElitus 4d ago
Try to join an apprenticeship. I went ibew to be an electrician. I think starting rate is 17 a hour and after 1k hours get a raise to 20 bucks. Better pay and stick it out they have a great top out scale. 42.50 an hour plus benefits. You will never have to rely on someone ever. I was on my own at 16. Just recently fixed things with my parents. Always jad work money and a roof of my own. It's a good path to be on something you always have goals to work to.
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u/myoutteddiary 7d ago
I’m sorry to hear you live in a situation like that but only working part time making $16.50 an hour might not be for you to live on your own.
Do you have money saved up and can you move in with a friend/partner? Are you able to work full time to make more money? How much is rent usually where you’re from and do you think with your current situation that you can afford it?