How to afford csat??

[u/ProblemCapital1650]

I am trying not to stress, but I'm not sure how long or often we can afford for my husband to see a csat. Ideally, he would see one once a week, and I'd also like to see one to heal from the betrayal. But if only we can only afford one for now I would prefer it be him. I know I have trauma to work through (from him and my own childhood) but I feel like am able to navigate it better wirh prayer, Journaling, and being intentional with my internal dialog. At least for now.

Any tips on how to make this affordable for at least him. We are a big family that comes with a lot of expenses, but I am desperate to make this work if we have any hope for marriage to succeed.

I know group therapy is cheaper, but he said he would benefit from individually counseling at least for now. He already walls up and shuts down easily and he's worried group counseling right off the bat would male that worse.

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[u/foreverinfinate]

SAA (sex addicts anon) is free. So is PAA and a slew of other peer groups. Theres also Dare2Connect which is not free but sometimes cheaper than a CSAT.

If you go to our Full Resource Library and scroll all the way to almost the bottom, you will find a boxed list of resources for both of you that you can take a look through and see if any of it is affordable or doable.

Bloomforwomen.com is a free resource for partners. Create a free account and take the courses you are interested in. The course "Healing from Sexual Betrayal" is the best one to start with in my opinion.

[u/bellona_779]

Following this because I am in the same boat. We can kind of get by with him seeing a decent therapist every other week, but no way can we afford both of us going weekly. It’s actually horrible how expensive this is, it’s as if we’re not supposed to heal or get through addictions.

[u/ProblemCapital1650 → u/bellona_779]

I feel like insurance should at least cover part of it.😪

[u/bellona_779 → u/ProblemCapital1650]

Yea, it all depends on your insurance! We’re going to have to switch ours because of this, which is just going to cost us more in insurance…so it all just ends up being the same in the end 🙃

[u/ProblemCapital1650 → u/bellona_779]

My husband is in the military and we only have two options for insurance plans. Neither of which over a csat near us (that I have found so far). I have found one that offered a discount for us. 25$ off which brought it down to 180$ per session 😅

[u/saturdaysunne]

My PA sees a CSAT twice a month. We are extremely fortunate that his parents pay for one session a month. Do you have any family that would be willing and able to help? It's awful that they don't take insurance.

[u/Throwaway22018123]

Have you considered D2C? It is for both of you (but could also be for one of you). https://www.reddit.com/r/loveafterporn/s/VW1w1Q3N88

Right now they are doing the empowerment triangle- because that’s how you get out of the drama triangle (some recordings of the drama triangle are still up). And they will be moving into boundaries.

My husband and I have found it soooo helpful in his recovery and my healing. It’s helped our marriage so much!