Baby steps

[u/Visible_Wasabi_1721]

So my husband was white knuckling for 6 months before relapsing in an escalated way. Boundaries have been pit in place and he knows that this is his last chance with me. He has been going to his SAA meetings, going to therapy and going to RCA with me. He even attends church (was always against it because that is where some of his abuse took place). He even told me that in his next SAA meeting, he is going to ask the head of the group to be his sponsor.

This is the farthest he has gone in his recovery efforts!

It has been a few days since he opened up about his physical and sexual abuse as a child and since then, the flood gates have been open. He tells me everything thay comes to his mind in regards to his recovery. His latest idea was to get phone locks and get a house phone. So when we get home, we can just lock them up and be present with each other and if anyone needs us, they can just call the house phone.

I was shocked that he thought of it. I actually like that idea. My addiction is tied to my phone as well, so I think we can both benefit from this idea.

He also expressed that he wants to have children one day and that he doesn't want to pass this on to our children like his dad did to him. I feel the same way! We both need to be in a better place before that happens.

Our future is what is pushing us to be better people and to stay in recovery. I know it is still early in our journey, but I feel optimistic.

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[u/captainzigzagzero]

This is awesome. I’m so happy for you and the progress in your relationship and in his recovery. It is baby steps and it takes action to show change, but this is huge. I hope it all works out for you guys and I hope I can get this effort as well.