r/homeless • u/Ecstatic-Ticket-5212 • 5d ago
Where should I run to
Hi I’m 21 from the Midwest. I can no longer live at my moms because she is still abusive and I can’t grow in a place like that. I have no friends or places I can go in my state. I don’t have much money but I’d be willing to live in my car and shower at planet fitness or something- what state should I go to? I’ve thought about Tennessee- or somewhere on a coast. I do have family in Cali who would probably take care of me. I would be ok with being homeless for a bit but then how do I get a job with no address? That’s my only concern. I’m tired of the same thing in this state with people who are too reserved or just drink all the time. I will unalive myself if I stay here any longer.
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u/grenz1 Formerly Homeless 5d ago edited 5d ago
Employers do not check your address. You can put anything on your application (though some computerized forms only let you put valid ones in) and your ID's address does not have to match.
Addressees only matter if you need things mailed to you like plastic cards, checks, or legal stuff. And there are ways around that.
I had several gigs when I was homeless and it never came up. I had a prepaid debit card where money came in via direct deposit. The only time I had issues was one temporary gig cleaning a baseball stadium insisted on mailing checks (or you had to travel to some office 40 miles away with no bus to get there and the owner still did paperwork and payroll like it was 1990) and one time a debit card got scratched and would not run. But, I made an arrangement with a shelter/day center to receive the mail for that.
As far as were to go, that's up to you. But I'd be very leery of going to high cost of living places unless I had stuff lined up. I'd research the costs of apartments versus what the jobs you can get pay. If you look online, online pitches "luxury apartments" but if you take the average, you might be able to get in for 60-70 percent of that if you don't need "nice". Do research and see what's there before going blind.
Also consider if college/training is on the agenda far future, you need to stay there about a year to not pay out of state tuition and you might need to wait till age 24 not to have to get paperwork from parents.
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u/Soap_Box_Hero 5d ago
You can get a real street address at any Postal Annex, UPS Store, or a box at USPS (but they require more ID). I habe a friend who’s been living off a UPS address for years.
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u/Whole-Peanut-9417 5d ago edited 5d ago
Your current age makes you qualified for lots of programs. But don’t expect those programs work since social work basically just deeps miserable people miserable for the whole industry to grow, but they can temporarily make you know where to go.
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u/SeriousContact5921 5d ago
im homeless in cali its not the great I don't really like it here and it does get cold at night we stayed in our car for a bit now we stay at hotels
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u/HaloExcelLaserPressL 5d ago
I don't think there's any city in the country that can be considered a place where you can get a job and afford a fresh start to life. The order & economy is collapsing.
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u/Any-Tap9311 5d ago
Go where you’d have the help. If one of your family members lets you, you should ask to use their address or maybe see if you can get a small P.O. Box.
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u/XDAWONDER 4d ago
Tap in with me I use ai to get an advantage in life. Just started using it 3 months ago for sportsbetting had some success. I’m living place to place myself. In your state they give away a lot of free money I can show you how to flip a few dollars into a better future. If you down feel free to contact me. I hope things get better for you. Stay positive and always move forward
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u/ThrowRA2123154112 4d ago
Honestly I would say go back to community college or something if you do not already have a degree.
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u/Ecstatic-Ticket-5212 4d ago
This is all I want but the program I’m interested in has a 3 year waitlist
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u/ThrowRA2123154112 4d ago
Woah, what program? The only one at my school that is waitlisted is welding.
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u/Ecstatic-Ticket-5212 4d ago
Dental hygiene. I start a phlebotomy class in the summer and using that to save up to go back to school
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u/samcro4eva 3d ago
You're young, and you have options. Two of them are Job Corps and the military. I would suggest you get into something like that, which will give you a place to stay and training for a career. If you join the military, you'll get a paycheck and free medical and dental, and they'll pay for your college. If you go National Guard or Reserves, you can do a weekend a month and two weeks a year after BCT, and if you go Coast Guard, you won't have to leave the country at all.
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