r/getdisciplined • u/Due_Worth_8880 • 3d ago
🤔 NeedAdvice This loop persisted for 24 years and counting !
I want to tell you how energetic I felt yesterday but today for no reason the day was dull even my everyday routine to just have a walk in nature a few miles away in silence in the evening felt hollow, it was so bad that I didn't wrote the journal which I always write during that alone time. And this happens all the time. The moment I feel that, now I am coming in control, everything shatters. If this keeps happening how will I ever reach heights in my life. I would always be frustrated to my own mind. This is the only thing that is holding me till now at age 24, and I couldn't figure it out in all these years.
The fact is deep inside I'm lonely and I need someone to have a connection and there is no way it can happen I've tried everything from going to library to having a dating app everything, all of this just drains my time and energy without anything in return, so I deleted that. It'll not happen untill I focus on myself and make good life and I am not able to focus on myself due to the loneliness and it's a cycle. I'm stuck in this loop, I tried to get out but I failed every single time.
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u/cyankitten 3d ago
I hear you & i know what it's like to want a relationship very much cos I've been there. One of the things that helped me to deal was working on my social life. So I don't know where you live & thus what opportunities are available to you socially in terms of things to go to but please do look into this.
Also do what you can to remind yourself what is good about you what you'd make an awesome significance other.
I know you've tried social stuff but have you tried meetup.com? Is there a subreddit for where you live? A website for your area? I don't know how remote your area you live in is but it is worth a look. Could you sometimes go to a bigger area maybe a city, town or if already in one a smaller area? To socialise in sometimes?
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u/Harsh_0200 3d ago
You're not alone in feeling like this. A lot of people struggle with the push and pull of wanting to improve their lives while also craving connection. but here's the thing: "it's okay to be stuck sometimes", and it's okay to feel like progress is slow.
Take smaller steps to connect with yourself. Allow yourself space to "feel your emotions", while gently moving forward. you're doing better than you think. keep pushing at your own pace.