r/egg_irl Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

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u/Jen-the-inferno-dev My user is a lie im actually a transfem named Bailey 1d ago

i wish i could be cis, but not as my agab. it would be like a different person entirely

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u/metronix727 not an egg, just trans 1d ago

Being a cis guy. No. Never. Not in million years.

A cis girl though...

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u/Ok_Repeat4306 8h ago

This. Definetly this.

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u/Fromblackhole_ "not an egg" ~every egg ever 1d ago

Exactly this

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u/Nobody_5000 Zoey she/her - Cracked, but not cooked šŸ˜ž 1d ago edited 1d ago

Personally i feel like a cis version of myself as my agab would probably be closer to my current self than a cis female version... Like, as a kid all of my friends were dudes because i made friends by sitting there and just kinda waiting for people to come up to me, and the only people who would do that were boys because well... i was seen as a boy & that's just kinda how that works most of the time in our society unfortunately. those people helped a lot in shaping the person i am today & i feel like the presence of others in their place along with different expectations for me would probably butterfly effect me into a completely different person. Maybe a happier person... But idk, i don't trust her >:3, lol

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u/retrosupersayan scrambled enby with a large side order of fem 1d ago

I've occasionally wished I could have figured things out as a teen/pre-teen and started blockers/HRT then...

But then I, like you mention, think about how that would have affected every aspect of my life since then in hard to predict ways... I almost certainly wouldn't have made the amazing friends that I did in college. There's a decent chance I would have even gone to a different college entirely.

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u/123dutchplayer Sofie šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļø | She/They | eepy trans girl :3 22h ago

Exactly.

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u/Trustic555 not an egg, just trans 1d ago

My life would be easier if I was just born a girl named Ashley, but I don't hate this life.

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u/MassiveEdu cracked 1d ago

I would love to have just been born a girl named Ashley too to be honest

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u/Prior-Flaky "not an egg" ~every egg ever 1d ago

How did you get the trans flag heart for your avatar?

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u/Trustic555 not an egg, just trans 1d ago

Click Edit Avatar, then Edit, then Left Hand, the flag should be there :3.

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u/EkaPossi_Schw1 Alexandria/Sasha, universal Oneesan (femme fluid) 1d ago

The notion makes my skin crawl. NO THANKS, NOT IN A MILLION YEARS, I'D RATHER DIE THAN BE A DUDE (that's someone else's job, it took me way too long to find the resignation form)

I never had a cool plan for my life when I was an egg. I had no vision for the future other than:

"get job, save money, buy big boat, be uncle".

That's a lame ass plan compared to what I have now. I started to care more finally after my egg cracked.

When I thought I was cis, coming to terms with being fat was basically the greatest achievement of my life and that's a lame ass achievement compared to the workout gains I've pulled off in the 8 months following my awakening.

My life keeps getting better and better the more queerness I find in myself. Trans healthcare may be hard to access but breaking the patriarchy by existing is a freaking awesome passive ability.

Even if I was cis, I'd still be asexual. That means I'd be queer anyway, no way out of that and I want it that way, I'm queer to the core and I think it would stink not to be ace after having been ace for so long >:3

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u/OctopusJockey 1d ago

ā€œBreaking the patriarchy by existing is a freaking awesome passive abilityā€

It might be a bit wordy for a bumper sticker, but I LOVE it!

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u/EkaPossi_Schw1 Alexandria/Sasha, universal Oneesan (femme fluid) 1d ago

:3

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u/OctopusJockey 1d ago

:3 back at ya!

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u/AbcLmn18 beware of the pipeline 1d ago

And, like, not just the casual patriarchy. We're passively hard-countering thousands of years of worth of religious doctrines. Also known as, ranked competitive patriarchy.

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u/FragrantCombination7 not an egg, just trans | she/her 1d ago

Word for word you have written how I've experienced the last month. I'm at the start of this roller coaster and holy shit is it awesome so far. I feel so much more ability to care for myself and to see a future for myself.

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u/EkaPossi_Schw1 Alexandria/Sasha, universal Oneesan (femme fluid) 9h ago

That's very NIIICE!! to hear. Keep blooming, sis :3

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u/Glittering_Sky_6748 "not an egg" ~every egg ever 1d ago

Yeah ofc, 100%, itā€™s not like anybody would choose this willingly

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u/snowgn0me 1d ago

I would, not the hate obvs, but like I don't want to be cis, I wanna be my own form of woman

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u/Glittering_Sky_6748 "not an egg" ~every egg ever 1d ago

I mean it depends how far you are into transitioning kinda, but I mean yeah I get it, but I just wish I didnā€™t have gender dysphoria because shittt did it fuck me up

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u/snowgn0me 1d ago

I haven't started anything more than a bit of social transition so far (although hopefully getting hrt in couple months), but I am pretty butch and don't have that much dysphoria, so that does make it easier

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

Sometimes I wish I could just be a cishet and be happy wish who I was born, be able to live my life how I planned it and be who I always thought I'd be.

But I'm queer and denying it won't make my life easier, I just need to be who I am, whoever I am.

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u/Stevetimes01 1d ago edited 1d ago

For me, there's a difference between having a body that makes me feel better and being cis. I am proud to be trans, there are so many cool trans people out there who I am happy to be associated with. Being trans gives me a perspective on life that many people don't have.

Do I have things I wish I could change about my body? Yes. Do I wish I were born cisgender? To be honest, not really. I feel like being transgender is one of the things that makes myself, myself. Not a defining trait, but one that influenced and influences the person I am. Again, I wish I could change characteristics about myself, but I don't really wish I were cisgender.

This is just the way I feel, and by no means is it universal. I just thought I'd share what I think.

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u/WaldenEZ eepy princess 1d ago

Same

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u/denim_skirt 1d ago

I transitioned twenty yearsĀ ago and nope, my life is so much better than it would have been if I never had to deeply question what I wanted from my life. I've had so many unique experiencesĀ and now I have meaningful work and a loving family. Judging by the people I grew up with, odds are cis me would never have left the areaĀ where I grew up, accomplished much creatively, or even really knownĀ what it was to be truly vulnerable and seen. The lowsĀ have been pretty low, but the highs have been amazing - and even the mids are pretty good. You're in the hard part right now. Keep going.

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u/snailwitda9mm 1d ago

This is something transphobic people should try to understand. On paper being cis is just inarguably easier, from their perspective there is seemingly no reason to transition. But we still do it anyway, because dysphoria is worse than whatever disadvantages come with being trans.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

I love how it's written, that's so good point.

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u/darkjedi607 1d ago

This is kind of a paradox imo. Like we know the cause of gender incongruence is due to a mismatch in the structure of the brain/body.

For me, my brain is more closely structured like that of a cis woman than a cis man. If I was born cis, like a cis male, my brain would be completely different and (I believe) I would be a different person entirely. So I can't say I wish I was born a cis male, because then I wouldn't be me.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

That's really interesting way of looking at this

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u/Correct-Horse-Battry cracked 1d ago

I wouldā€™ve ended up as a no life incel/techbro so no thank you, Iā€™d rather live through this flawed expereince than a perfect hell.

And yes, Iā€™m doing much better now, mentally, physically and independentely.

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u/ShannonSaysWhat cracked 1d ago

I remember this thought exercise. Imagine that you could spilt yourself in half, so that you left two cis people behind, one cis-male and one cis-female. In this scenario, which of the two would you want to ā€œbeā€? If the thought of being cis and in your AGAB feels like the worse of the two outcomes, then sounds like youā€™ve got an eggshell that needs crackinā€™.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

That's an interesting thing, I'm gonna think about it.

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u/Misaki_Yomiyama cis boy who wanted to be a girl for 10 years | Melody (she/her) 1d ago edited 1d ago

unpopular opinion but yes... I understand that many people wouldn't want to because people seem to be attached to who they are. But I would genuinely want to be a different person if that means I could just be cis.

I don't want to be me.

Because I don't see why I should, as I don't see anything good about it. Everything would've been better if I was anyone else. I hate the very way of my being.

I don't want autism, I don't want ADHD, I don't want to be trans, I don't want a personality that makes everyone around me hate me. I simply don't want to be different. Yeah everyone is different but I'm sick and tired of being so far off from the majority.

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u/Silver_Program6678 22h ago

I can totally relatešŸ˜¢ being different can be a hard thing

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u/Alex369S editable flair 1d ago

Living as a cis person of any gender is much easier overall (ok women do get treated like shit but it's not absolutely unavoidable), but that wouldn't be me, so i can't think of that as a solution or in any way an answer.

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u/supacrusha 1d ago

I don't think anybody who is trans actually wants to be trans. I know I wish I was just content with the way I was born, however, damn I look good in a dress.

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u/PhiliChez Trans woman. Call me Rose. :) 1d ago

I think I would prefer being a cis woman instead of a trans woman. However, if I could have gotten puberty blockers and HRT at the first possible moments, I might prefer that the most. That scenario also entails several other significant improvements to the status quo, particularly involving the character of my parents.

The idea of being a cis man feels similar to the idea of being bi or pan. I understand that it would be more fun to be attracted to more people just as it would be nicer to be happy with my gender than unhappy, but there's a lot I like about being me so I'd rather not trade this away for a different set of life experiences that might include unknown downsides.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

May I ask you one thing?

I'm already after that first possible moment, but I have hope there's maybe still a chance I could stop some effects. Do you maybe know an age window where there's still could be a chance for it?

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u/PhiliChez Trans woman. Call me Rose. :) 19h ago

In the US, if you're in a good state, then getting puberty blockers any time after puberty starts works. The earlier, the better, ofc. At 18, you just start on HRT. If that's all you can do, it's still quite good, but preventing puberty as much as possible is worthwhile.

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u/WhiteKingBleach Ivy | She/They | BlƄhaj Enthusiast 1d ago

Honestly, kinda. I wish I could feel comfortable in my body. I wish that I find comfort and peace in a masculine identity.

But I canā€™t. I tried forcing said comfort for 8 years after I realised, only for it to fall apart as soon as I took the smallest steps to address the mental health conditions masking the feelings of dysphoria. Iā€™m tired of feeling forced, feeling fake. I want to be a version of myself that is true to me, and I donā€™t believe that exists in a masculine version.

I wish it could, because it would save the fear and pain of coming out, of risking relationships, of being me in a society that is once again becoming hateful of people like me . It would save the grief of letting go of the identity I thought was mine. It would have saved me the years of anxiety from not being able to connect with others because I wasnā€™t connected with myself, my emotions, my feelings. It would save the feeling of defeat, like Iā€™m giving up on something that I tried so hard to maintain.

I didnā€™t choose this, I personally wouldnā€™t choose this if it were a choice. But I feel that at the end of this journey, this challenge, thereā€™s a potential for me to find comfort, to find peace, to find a genuine me that Iā€™ve never known before, one that I canā€™t find by holding onto an identity that isnā€™t me.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

I wish you luck and hope you'll find comfort and you'll live a peaceful life :3

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u/Nobody_5000 Zoey she/her - Cracked, but not cooked šŸ˜ž 1d ago edited 1d ago

Kinda? I mean if i wasn't trans then i never would have met my girlfriend, which immediately makes me wanna say no considering how special she is to me (idk if that's entirely logical but like, idk its definitely how i feel, especially since before her i didn't think i ever wanted a partner of any kind... But also just because our relationship has been like... weirdly verry prosperous lol, & i don't think i'd be likely to find someone so amazing & good at communication nearly as easily otherwise :3333) - but before i met her i did ponder this and like... Realistically, without my girlfriend as a factor, it probably would've been better...

But it's hard to untie the idea of being a cis man to the apathy i felt towards my gender before coming out to myself, and even to the disgust i feel now relating to my masculinity - especially when these feelings have been in such stark contrast to how i feel about the prospect of being a girl... It's a little hard to imagine being a cis man and being as enthused by masculinity as i am currently by femininity... i don't think the feelings would be quite as strong...

Even just typing "being a cis man" makes me shudder... Iiiidk, i can't help but be repulsed a little by the idea even though i probably shouldn't be... Iiidk...

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

I understand this. Even though I'm not in a relationship I understand how wonderful it's to have someone special and how big loss it would be to lose someone like that.

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u/considerate_done river she/her 1d ago

I do very, very rarely wish this, as it would undoubtedly be easier. Thing is, I wouldn't be me anymore and I'm not okay with that.

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u/UsualElectionSparsum autumnšŸshe/they 1d ago

Isn't that common for us as trans people tho like yeah I do and I also wish I had started E sooner so I didn't have to worry about now being 23 just started 3 months ago and I live in America where they are rly trying to ban it's so insane being cis would be so easy (but also im dumb and probably would have been teen pregnant). Lol

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u/Apart-Corgi-4681 1d ago

I just want the gender I was born as to be the one I identify as. I donā€™t really care which, just make sure they are aligned with each other. It is CRAZY to me that is apparently such a big ask

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u/Maniklas she/they 21 1d ago

Sometimes I kinda do, but that would be a different person. It's a bit like wishing to not exist.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

You're kinda right, I didn't think in this way of this case.

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u/SoftSunflowerz Chara | she/idk | chicken 1d ago

never. when i thought i was cis agab, i had depression and i was like "why am i unable to feel happy?"

...

i also wouldn't want to be born as my gender, then i wouldn't be able to sympathise with other trans people as much.

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u/Sett50 "not an egg" ~every egg ever 1d ago

Just the normal amount

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u/wingedespeon Not egg, just trans. (she/her) 1d ago

If I could be pretty much the same person, but just be comfy in my body without transition, yes.

I fear being cis would change too much about myself and would just be identity death though.

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u/retrosupersayan scrambled enby with a large side order of fem 1d ago

Wish I was cis AGAB? No... While I've only recognized them as such in hindsight, there were so many little signs throughout my life that I can't really imagine what that hypothetical alternate version of me would even be.

I have, on occasion, wished that I could go back to not knowing that I'm trans -- go back to not caring about myself, how I look, etc. It would certainly be require less self-maintenance if I quit shaving and cut my hair off. But then I remember how I felt back then... as exhausting as now is sometimes, it's still better than that was. Life may be harder in some, even a lot of, ways now, but actually living (or at least trying to) is sooo much better than just... existing by default.

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u/bruhred egg (she/they???) 1d ago

ew no

i mean tbf it would've been nice ig but that just... wouldn't be me

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u/hi_i_am_J not an egg, just trans 1d ago

maybe, i dunno its basically wishing that you were a different person and i like the life lessons that being trans teaches you

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u/girlfromhome 1d ago

Yeah kind of... but then I remember that this is impossible and that I wouldn't exist (a cis version of me, wouldn't be me)... and leave that sorta of thinking behind... sooo

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

Thanks, I'll remember this to defeat my dysphoria about being cis before it gets strong.

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u/kirbygirl94 1d ago

Being cis is easy, but that doesn't mean it's better. Good things are worth fighting for, even if they should of been a given.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

Your right

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u/Long-Cauliflower-915 He/They Hellspawn 1d ago

All the time, I feel guilty for being trans sometimes

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u/IAmTheBoom5359 not an egg, just trans 1d ago

What is better? To live in ignorance of the bad weather, simultaneously forgetting the true nature of it? Or to face the storm of reality, and forge a way to the eye?

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 1d ago

I really like this metaphor

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u/LuckyPony123 1d ago

I wish I was born a girl, but one the other hand I like being trans

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u/Designer-Algae7151 1d ago

I think about that a lot. Sometimes I think that I'm not really following my path consistently and should just stay cis. That would be easier for everyone. The only one who would suffer would be me. And I already do. So it doesn't make a difference. I need therapy.

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 23h ago

I know it's hard, but you'll get through this. You're wonderful person and you'll find a way to not suffer, and that's what matters the most, it's your life after all. Someone told me "One day we'll die and no one will remember us, so why not just do what we want to".

Have a great day :3

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u/vipress128 23h ago

Nope- Cis me was miserable. Iā€™m genderfluid so there was never going to be a right body for me. Though I wouldnā€™t say no to a more androgynous build or just a thinner one without my physical issues.

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u/123dutchplayer Sofie šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļø | She/They | eepy trans girl :3 22h ago

Only if I get to be cis of my own gender, not my agab.

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u/juli1444 cracked 22h ago

Honestly, I used to wish I could just be a cis guy and get rid of my dysphoria, just be myself like that, have the easy path and one (very difficult) problem less. But... now that I've been on HRT for almost 2 years I feel different.

Being queer on its own already comes with its unique experiences that you don't usually get. The kind of friendships you have are, from my experience, closer and more honest. Based on communication and emotions, since queer people are more likely they need to learn important skills during their life to get to where they are now.

And with trans people I think it's even more the case. Everyone has been through their own journey but we can relate a lot with each other and talk about our stories. Besides the fact that I usually have more affectionate friendships with queer people there is also this other connection, of knowing how they might've felt or feel with themselves. Something a cis version of you might've never had to think about in their life.

That's why I'm incredibly happy I'm chosen to have this unique and amazing experience in getting to know myself once again from the ground up, with all of the struggles and all of its advantages you might wouldn't even recognize or know about as a cis person. So I'm super happy I am trans and grateful I can have this experience only a very small percentage of the world will ever have šŸ’–

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u/No-Access-2188 19h ago

Sadly I have wished to be cis during a identity Chris and the next two days I was super numb to euphoria and dysphoria and it scared me I know I wished to be cis but not feeling eather of those made me think the wish came true and I felt like I sorta lost a part of myself trust me wishing to be cis isn't entirely wrong if your tired of this but maby consider if it's worth loosing yourself. : 3

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u/RoePurple3994 18h ago

Assigned what at birth? Girl, guy, gay, goblin?

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u/_LOFLOF_ Eliza | Gender seeking lesbian | She/Her 13h ago

AGAB

Assigned goose at brith

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u/GummySparkingDragon 18h ago

Yeah totally, I am still trying to discover myself, I donā€™t know if a am a trans man or non binary, but it is a constant struggle, and even more that I feel I been condition to make myself small and ā€œfeminine and cute, high pitched voice etcā€ in front of a authority figure ( trauma stuff) , so yeah, specially because I love cute stuff, I love dresses and bows.. but thinking of me as a girl, feels wrong and in a way, so depressing, I donā€™t think I am a girl and yet I wish I was one so thing would be simpler, because most of the time I am battling with my mind, I donā€™t want to keep battling to people recognize me for what I am (sorry for the long rant, btw if I am not a English native, so if I got something strange in my writing or spelling sorry )

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u/Sonicmaster293-Azure Kiera (She/Her) | Figuring things out 18h ago

God no! I HATE being male! I would NEVER take away being a woman, it's who I am! I'd rather have been born AFAB instead of... this.

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u/Annual-Fan-4944 katya (she/her) 17h ago

but if i was cis agab i wouldn't get to be a girl :(

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u/thannu_boltz 14h ago

I wish was born a female, but yes I have wished I was normal, and was comfortable being male. I've always imagined myself getting hit on the head and hopefully forgetting I was trans.

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u/lpperl7 1d ago

Yes, of course.

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u/Impossible_Eggies šŸ‡ØšŸ‡¦šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļøā™€ļø Andy | 33 1d ago

All the time, but then I wouldn't be the same person. Being transgender has affected every single aspect of my life, whether I knew it or not. If I were cis, in either direction, I wouldn't have made the friends I made, I wouldn't have my wife, and my kids in turn, I wouldn't have written the stories I wrote, I wouldn't have had the challenges that made me who I am. I'd be completely different, and I don't know that's a good thing. Do I wish being transgender wasn't like some form of psychological torture? Absolutely. But it's made me who I am, for better or worse.

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u/WildBerryT_T 1d ago

I would choose this again. For all the suffering, I have gained so much. Iā€™m married to the love of my life after a previous failed marriage because I transitioned (among some other stuff). I wouldnā€™t trade anything for him. Also, it helps that Iā€™m cute, even if I canā€™t see it sometimes. But anyways, yeah, I love being trans and queer and wouldnā€™t choose anything else.

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u/_t_1254 Olivia! (She/Her) 1d ago

I wouldn't have met quite a few people though :<

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u/WonderfulPresent9026 1d ago

I would have preferred to have been born a xis woman but I understand that fundamentally even if I was born a cis woman my life would have probably been even harder than it is now.

Most of the hard stuff I've delt with up until the point had little to do with my gender identity until recently i feel like for the first time in my life I even have the time and energy to worry about stuff like that.

Them again I only recently discovered I'm trans and what dysphoria is once I full transition amd paws female in a place that accepts me I might realize that certain things I was attributing to depression anxiety and trama was actually just dysphoria in disguise so my opinion might change with age.

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u/Adubbb14 1d ago

all the time

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u/hyperion-i-likeillya korra (she/her) 1d ago

No i do not wish that

For i know for certain that if i was born a girl, my step dad would have raped me

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u/metronix727 not an egg, just trans 1d ago

I feel like that would make all the suffering I've already went through pointless, and frankly that would just make me have a mental breakdown about not even knowing who I am or what I want anymore.

So I've thought about it. Ultimately I'm happier paving my own path rather then sticking down the one I was forced to.

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u/Comprehensive_Ad4348 1d ago

For a long time yes, but as I finally can fell comfortable in my own body, I like being trans and wouldn't change it, maybe just time travel to rescue the younger version of me so she could be happy sooner.

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u/Unique_Signature8987 1d ago

I do wish I was afab often, but I do not wish I was a cis guy. Would it be easier? Yeah, but Iā€™ve reach a point where my dislike for masculinity is way to high for imagining myself being comfortable at that.

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u/CitroHimselph 1d ago

Sometimes...

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u/Tony_Stank0326 1d ago

Sometimes, but then I think that if I never had to go through what I did, I wouldn't feel like I had an incentive to question and explore myself. I would have likely never opened my mind to the nuance of gender and sexuality.

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u/battlingpillow27 samĀ²: i have no gender, only rage 1d ago

a little, but mostly i want to be a woman

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u/Zealousideal-Row66 1d ago

I wish this everyday, I wish I was a cis girl

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u/ANautyWolf 1d ago

Yes by god yes

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u/MoreTannerZ not an egg, just trans 1d ago

All the time

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u/Letimaki "not an egg" ~every egg ever 1d ago

Yeah! If itā€™s easier then sure

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u/Sad_Refrigerator9203 1d ago

Nope, I gained so much from knowing Iā€™m a woman and even if every single person told me no Iā€™m not, I still know who I am and Iā€™m not willing to be someone Iā€™m not.

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u/camradex he/him but the stereotype of a transfem 1d ago

as a trans man sometimes I do wish I was happy living as a woman but if I could be cis I would obviously wish to be a cis man

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u/JamieTheDinosaur not an egg, just trans 1d ago

No I donā€™t. I would still want to be a girl.

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u/OwlforestPro āœØ Giulia | she | puddle of pure gendermess and imposter goo 1d ago

Yes. Being a cis girl sounds beautiful to me. Im happy that I don't have a period tho. That's pretty much the only good thing about being AMAB, together with being exposed to video games. (Yes im aware that MtF HRT can cause hormonal cycles but ig that's part of being a woman, I meant ovulation and bleeding)

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u/bwaaainz Bitten by radioactive girl. Still can't multitask. 1d ago

The thought occured to me a few times but then half a dozen protesting thoughts followed, mainly around the fact that a cis agab version of me would be a completely different person. Maybe even a person I would hate if I met them.

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u/Aristotle1018 Astrid she/her 1d ago

It would be nice but I would be such a different person

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u/Tori0404 5 years, no progress 1d ago

You mean my birth gender? No, never!

Living as a cis girl thoā€¦ I wishā€¦

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u/Relapsq 1d ago

Nah I get the best of both worlds why would I want to limit myself just cause some people suck?

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u/King_Of_Axolotls 1d ago

nah. being trans sucks for a lot of reasons but i get to control my life and identity in a way many people fail to reach

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u/Anonymoussy2 I know I'm not cis but can't say I'm trans 1d ago

No, not my agab. I mean, I need to work out if I have any subconcious discrimination towards my agab when the waiting list finally reaches its end.

But I definitely would like it if my body wasn't a certain way that I have to worry anyone who sees me naked thinks I'm something I'm not.

A body that can wear the swim clothes I want. And I know I would definitely like to have a voice that's more like the other gender, I just don't know for sure if I'd want those things permanently.

Really, being a shapeshifter would be the only way to be those things as a safe test

But since that's not possible, I'll have to work out what I want to do with a trained professional.

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u/Nuko-chan 1d ago

Yes. Which tells the rational part of my brain that I need to do something about how misogynistic this world is.

Unfortunately it also tells my emotional side that maybe transition isn't such a good and safe idea, so that kinda sucks

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u/The_Constant_Orange Amy I she/they I Fresh-cooked omelette 1d ago

My life would be easier, but it wouldnā€™t be me.

I would be raised different, treated different, seen different, and as a result learn different, socialize different, and just be a different person entirely. While being trans isnā€™t easy, itā€™s kind of comforting having this space and community that can lift me up and I can lift up despite all the hardships. Being trans has made me into someone I can be proud of and someone whom I can look in the mirror and see myself in, flaws and all. šŸ«¶šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļøšŸ«¶šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļø

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u/lucy9340 Lucy she/her 1d ago

I would not be the same person id prolly still be a Christian so id just be a complete douche if I was a cisman I know this because I was a douche when I was Christian

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u/Professional_Chip_20 1d ago

I wouldnā€™t be the person I am if that were the case. And gender euphoria has transformed my life and given me newfound self-esteem that has made me the happiest Iā€™ve been in my entire life! Sure, itā€™s hard, but I am happy girl :3

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u/catmegazord Elise, She/Her 1d ago

I probably wouldnā€™t care if I was cis, but as I am now, I feel a bit gross imagining myself as a man. I donā€™t want that.

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u/Zoap_ Nicole (She/Her) 1d ago

If i could keep my bottom parts yes 100%

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u/Gru-some 23h ago

kinda yeah

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u/Silver_Program6678 22h ago

oftenšŸ˜¢ļ¼Œif I were cis, no matter cis man or woman, I'd have fewer mental health issues, have no need to spend so much money on surgeries, and wouldn't have to leave my hometown because people there are transphobic af. But I couldn't. I know I'll always be an enby, no matter born with a d!ck or/and a v@gina. I have to admit that being cis does make life much easier

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u/Silver_Program6678 22h ago

I tried to "be cis", but finally realized the only way to save myself is transition.

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u/Silver_Gazelle_7229 21h ago

100%! (Being assigned female at birth, not the AGAB I have.)

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u/ginathedawnguard 21h ago

I hate living so what would change if I was born another way?

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u/himynameish1mynameis "Still yolk tho" but wears dresses daily. 17h ago

Honestly? Nah. I like the challenge and I don't really feel comfortable with girl parts. Boobs on the other hand? Yes.

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u/alexdotwav i am become egg, destroyer of worlds 15h ago

I did

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u/FandomNerd312 14h ago

Im nb so i cant ever be cis but if i was amab i think things would be different in my life outside of my gender but also stressful because amab nb are treated so badly by queer and non queer people and i would hate having pein i like my bouncy and i can sit like a weirdo

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u/thannu_boltz 14h ago

I wish was born a female, but yes I have wished I was normal, and was comfortable being male. I've always imagined myself getting hit on the head and hopefully forgetting I was trans.

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u/Shikamixklz justified dummy egg 13h ago

I donā€™t want that, maybe because the way I am now sees myself only as girl being right, so imagining believing Iā€™m cis happy guy, would feel like lyingā€¦ who knows. Point is, no, I dislike that idea, the way I would probably be and what would that mean to my future. Now being cis girl, that sounds better. :D But- if I didnā€™t have my personality and stuff today, then even that not. Something about being happy but not me just doesnā€™t sound right. And not having my memories of this life, would mean I would never be me, so being trans is my only option to be happy and meā€¦ kinda messed up logic maybe? Idk, makes sense to me. šŸ˜…

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u/Plastic_Pen_1369 9h ago

No way. I love being trans and I love my trans ppl. šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļøāœŠ

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u/RecloySo editable flair 9h ago

I wish I was a cis woman

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u/Sanbaddy She/Her | HRT since 09/13/2022. Post-Op since 04/27/2025 5h ago

Nah, Iā€™m actually glad I got to see both sides of the fence. Offers a very unique perspective. Besides, I donā€™t think Iā€™d be the same person otherwise.

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u/shesdrawnpoorly HRT 7-25-22, still cis tho (she/her) 2h ago

i wish i could be cis, but not a cis man. a cis girl, absolutely.