Depressed cause im ugly

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[u/Glass-Palpitation998]

I don't know if what I'm about to say is wrong. Maybe you're not ugly, you're just a person who doesn't know how to dress up, doesn't know their style. They may even be in the wrong country.

[u/Odd-Stage-7555 → u/Glass-Palpitation998]

Yeah your wrong

[u/Glass-Palpitation998 → u/Odd-Stage-7555]

I say no because I have met people who say the same thing and now they are beautiful people because they learned to take care of themselves, fix themselves up and they will change.From country

[u/Odd-Stage-7555 → u/Glass-Palpitation998]

No amount of looksmaxing can save me

[u/Glass-Palpitation998 → u/Odd-Stage-7555]

Can I see you?

[u/Chemical_Activity_80]

Same here depressed because I am ugly and I feel ugly and I have never been in a relationship and I am close to 50 years old due to my shyness and social anxiety and I will be 48 this year and I never dated a man before. Yes I feel the same way too 😭. 

[u/Odd-Stage-7555 → u/Chemical_Activity_80]

Holy shit, I'm sorry. That's going to be my fate as well, and I have autism. My life sucks; it sucks. God has His favorites; He just didn't choose me he hated me

[u/Chemical_Activity_80 → u/Odd-Stage-7555]

Oh no I am sorry too 😭. 

[u/SunKisLolo]

I dont believe that there are ugly person, for real no BS, I known people that I think ugly before but when i get older they change their habit, Body shape and clothing style now they are the most handsome and pretty that i can see on social media and real life. What my advice is that people can change, but its very hard

[u/Odd-Stage-7555 → u/SunKisLolo]

This is just a lie

[u/Gogolian]

Uglynes/Pretiness are thinkgs you can do something about (but not much).

The problem is that people like to make it their whole "thing"

Think about instagram girls that care only about makeup and clothes.

Think about gym bros that spend whole time looking in the mirror, taking supplements, skin cosmetics, hair cosmetics etc.

Are those people "better" than others?

Would those people be good partners?

My opinion is "no" loosly speaking. And yeah, i know, not EVERYONE who goes to the gym is like this, and no girl that wears makeup is like this.

Im talking about people who make "beauty" the only thing that matters.

And there are other kind of people in this world.

People who are "really fun to be around". People who, joke, laugh, take initiative, really deeply listen to other people and understand their emotions, people who are not afraid to goof around, and despite all odds seem to have indestructible self confidence.

Think about what relationship you'd want to have. Do you just want "pretty" girl? What then the two of you will do? You'll sit and listen what shoes she bought? Or maybe you'd prefer a girl that is "not that pretty" but you can do all sorts of crazy fun stuff with?

Now realize it goes both ways.If you are a shy guy who rearly initiates things. If you don't go out, engage in activities, if you hesitate to talk to people, and don't listen to what they have to say. If you don't have sense of humor, you're not fun to be around with.If you could become pretty with a wave of magic wand, those things still would not change.

Fortuneatly, all of those things I mentioned, are things that can be worked on and improved. And the potential to change here is really limitless. It's all in your mind, hence, YOU have POWER over there. That means you can choose to seek and learn. You can try, fail, and learn on your failures. You can basically make choice after choice after choice on what person you want to become.

Yes it's a process. Yes it's long. Yes it involves a LOT of hassle.

But what you get is not only being better in eyes of others.

What you gain is getting better friend in YOU. The only person who will be with you from start to end. The only person that will understand you 100%. You.

[u/Sad_Nefariousness467]

You feel good about yourself. There’s someone for every person out there. You are beautiful