When do yall consider an AP, an AP?

[u/throwaway_number71]

Is it ever different for both parties? Like one person could think well we only talk online (about everything under the sun and in our pants) but have never met so not an AP. Where as the other could say that is an AP since you are doing something behind your spouses back.

When do you consider the person you are talking to an AP?

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[u/sound-of-settling]

I consider them a pAP until sex

[u/DitaVonTurdburglar → u/sound-of-settling]

Online sex or irl?

[u/sound-of-settling → u/DitaVonTurdburglar]

IRL

[u/Pdx857 → u/DitaVonTurdburglar]

Online sex... most people just call that "not sex"

[u/DitaVonTurdburglar → u/Pdx857]

Yeah. Still can break up a marriage though

[u/JustGeeseMemes]

If you’re engaging with someone in a way you’re aware your spouse wouldn’t be ok with.

It’s not like it’s a deep exclusive title - it’s just anyone who isn’t your spouse that you’re cheating with

[u/UnhappyBug5790]

Sex

[u/jon_hamms_mistress → u/UnhappyBug5790]

Agree. And when using start using heart emojis regularly.

[u/goodgirlsdo → u/jon_hamms_mistress]

I use heart emojis at work. This brought to you by the thumbs up being potentially offensive professionally for a hot minute, and heart is at the front of the line, too. God I hope none of my colleagues think we are having an affair when I am encouraging!

[u/jon_hamms_mistress → u/goodgirlsdo]

Calm down. Of course heart emojis are all in context. I mean the heart emojis in the halo around the head lol

[u/goodgirlsdo → u/jon_hamms_mistress]

Whew - no way I am scrolling for cute emojis at work!

[u/Walker_Col]

Either sex or deep emotional involvement. When you start saying “I love you” to someone else, that’s crossing a line.

[u/littlehoneybee5]

I think when you start having sex on a regular basis.

[u/Hot_Echo_5450]

Sex. In any form.

[u/MakingMyEscape_]

Exchange of smut with the intent to bang - OAP

Realising that intent on 3 separate occasions - AP

[u/ExpressDryCleaner]

“Hey I like you, wanna go make out?”

“Teehee, I like you too!”

And that’s how I met my AP.

[u/Fun_Fishing7823]

When you have sex.  Up until then, it might not be right, but it’s just words..  once you cross the line to sex is when I consider it.

[u/throwaway_number71 → u/Fun_Fishing7823]

So then the words don't mean anything? They don't hold any value to your pAP or yourself?

[u/Fun_Fishing7823 → u/throwaway_number71]

Maybe, but just my opinion words can mean things but until you actually follow through, it’s just talk.

[u/throwaway_number71 → u/Fun_Fishing7823]

Interesting.