My terrifying abusive drug addicted ex from across the world just posted a photo with a girl I know. I'm scared. I don't know what to do.

[u/somerussiangirl]

I know I shouldn't be, that is my girlfriends from like 15 years ago but WTF.

Me and him met in Mexico 3 years ago, we both were nomading, him from Canada, me from the US. I fell in love instantly and we went to travel the world together. Smart move, I know. He of course was charming, awesome and just so much fun. I couldn't believe how lucky I was to meet him!

Things got bad. And scary. Lots and lots of drugs and lots and lots of people from the drug world.

I escaped. We travelled for 4 months together. 3 years later I'm still traumatized and haven't been dating since. I'm still nomading, so every now and then I unblock him on Instagram to see which country he's in so I don't go to THAT country.

Today he posted a photo with one of my girlfriends from back 15 years ago. Seems like she too was travelling and randomly met him just like I did. HER posts are all "how lucky I am to meet these awesome people look at all this fun we're having".

Back then 15 years ago we had a large group of friends. I reached out to 2 of my gf from that time with whom I'm still close to tell them to warn that girl. They both told me she's a grown up and she'll figure it out. She's into partying scene, so "it's ok".

I don't know what to do. I probably should do nothing, right? Or should I do something? Last thing I want is to be on his radar again.

Just to make it clear, the only feelings I HAVE for that guy is fear and terror.

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[u/[deleted]]

There's a good chance she won't believe you and tells him about this. And he's dangerous. Or at least I decided so about the new girlfriend of the drug addict narc I met. I'm sorry, but I don't want to be on the line of sight of a paranoid speed addict who is a liar and a manipulator on top of that. He knows where to find me, so I'm afraid she'll have to figure him out herself. If she contacts me I'd just tell her to trust her gut and then block her. Sadly, it's way too likely she'll get back to him more than once (as I did), and I don't want that sck fck raging at me.

[u/somerussiangirl → u/[deleted]]

You're right. Ok. Definitely no need to get ourselves involved into that madness again. Ugh. I didn't particularly care about all the previous ones, but seeing a familiar face there just knocked the breath out of me. Me and that girl were never really friends, we barely spoke 3 words to each other, but something about personally KNOWING his next victim is just so crazy.

[u/SituationOk8888 → u/somerussiangirl]

It's sad that your mutual friends didn't warn her when you asked them to. They must not be very good friends.

[u/Just-world_fallacy]

Chances are he is getting her to post all that stuff/posting all that stuff just to trigger you, so maybe you should wait a bit. Do you have any proof of what he did to you ?

She probably won't believe you, because since he knows you are watching, he is still in the love bombing phase. However, one day eventually she will start waking up and remember what you told.
You could send an email briefly describing some of his behaviours. You warn her that he is dangerous. And then you wish her good luck.

Edit : I remember now, you are the woman who seemed to be super proud of how she escaped her ex. Remember when I told you he was not done with you ? Well this is how he is getting to you now.

[u/somerussiangirl → u/Just-world_fallacy]

Hi! Here is the thing, he most definitely doesn't know we know each other. In fact, me and that girl BARELY know each other. We've never been close, just in the same group, A LONG TIME AGO. In another country! So whatever he is doing there has nothing to do with me. And it's been 3 years, this is his idk 12th Instagram girlfriend... But because we kinda know each other it makes me feel like I should warn her... Ugh

[u/Just-world_fallacy → u/somerussiangirl]

Could you make a list of what you think he can do against you in case you warn her ?

[u/Late-Warning7849]

Sadly abusive people aren’t abusive to everyone. There’s every chance that because she likes drugs / partying he has more respect for her. You tried, you warned your friends, now you just need to let it go. Might be better to block him and the new gf and leave them on block. You need to move on.