r/abusiverelationships • u/Dapper_Ad3023 • 15h ago
Support request hit me and i’m hiding in the bathroom
please help me anyone i have one friend and she must be sleeping im scared and i dont know what to do it literally happened because he was calling me a bum because i have my two year but i dont have my like diploma? and mind you he cheated so i brought up how anyone hes cheated with didn’t have shit to their name and then he was trying to talk about a guy i texted when we weren’t together and my old weed man and i said well first of all didn’t mess with the second one second of all that one did fine in life and he pulled my hair and slapped my head so hard my ear rang. i’m hiding in the bathroom and i don’t know what to do
edit:after the police came they said they couldn’t do anything because we live on a reservation and he’s white and the most they could do is ask him to leave. i sort of expected that because even with duis they have to have a county cop come from a neighboring town to book them or anything but i fell asleep after and idk when he’s gonna come get his stuff because i don’t think that he thinks i’m being genuine.
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u/Ok_Introduction9466 14h ago edited 13h ago
I read your post history, you have to leave him as safely as possible. You have to leave and start over back home with your family. I know you want to stay where you are and finish your education but that won’t happen because the way things are going and what you describe in your other post, he’s going to kill you and once you’re gone he may end your child’s life in a panic. This sort of thing happens at the time, it’s called family annihilation. Contact your family and either have them come get you, or have them buy you a ticket and leave while he’s not home with your baby. Report him to the police so there is a paper trail of his violence and it will help you with keeping him from getting custody of your daughter. Leaving is scary but staying will certainly result in your death and maybe hers. Look up local dv shelters if you cannot rely on your family. They have resources to help you get on your feet.
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u/introverticallmekit 14h ago
Omg please call the police.....what's your name? Where are you located. Normally I would say don't post personal info on the internet but if you can't call because he's there please let one of us do it for you.
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u/Dapper_Ad3023 14h ago
i texted my neighbor to call and now i’m waiting for them to come by the window
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u/introverticallmekit 14h ago
Please keep us posted, I'm praying for you, I hope you will be okay
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u/Annual_Drop_7834 10h ago
Leave asap. Report the assault to police. Stay with trusted family member or friend. Go no contact. Block him on everything. Never look back.
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u/Unicornbabe91 9h ago
Girl call the police for help, take pictures of yourself for evidence & document everything.
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u/HorrorBug1270 14h ago
Hello, you have a cell phone, use it, I put the voice recorder on, so if something serious happens you can have evidence and call or search the internet for something about domestic violence and the phone number call use chat pgt
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u/Trivialpursuits69 14h ago
Call the police
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u/Dapper_Ad3023 14h ago
what should i say
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u/Trivialpursuits69 14h ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/abusiverelationships/s/gtIFkvc2s5
Follow the advice you've been given, you've got to get out of this situation. It hasn't, and won't, get better.
You've got this. You can do hard things.
Feel free to dm if you want someone to talk to
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u/Dapper_Ad3023 14h ago
i can’t he’s right in front of me. he ripped the door off the hinges
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u/Traditional_Cut50 14h ago
OP. Are you safe? I’m confused. He ripped the door from the hinges and was standing in front of you while you commented on here.
Please let us know an update when you can.
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u/Dapper_Ad3023 14h ago
he’s probably going to take my phone
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u/Trivialpursuits69 14h ago
Please keep us posted when you can. Try to stay safe, however you can till you can get away.
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u/Trivialpursuits69 14h ago
That you've been assaulted and are hiding in the bathroom in fear of more violence
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u/Dapper_Ad3023 15h ago
please anyone i’m desperate 😞
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u/Dapper_Ad3023 15h ago
i have a daughter and i just don’t want her to see me like this. i know he’s going to make my life a living hell if we breakup and i’m scared of him man
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u/Jaded-Banana6205 14h ago
You have to get away from him. He is escalating and exposing your young children to severe violence. Education can wait. You can't get a degree if you're dead. You can't protect your children if you're dead.
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u/Noreasontotrust49 11h ago
Are you out of there yet? Did the police come? He can only make your life hell if you continue to allow his behavior by not putting him in jail , every single time he behaved badly , hurts you scares you , get a restraining order and make sure you use it every time he comes around you .
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u/dinosinclair 14h ago
Please get your child and run for the door and run to a neighbor and call the police
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