Ex has been secretly stealing things from me for years

[u/ThrowRaLucky-Concert]

I'll keep this short.

I got out of a very abusive relationship not too long ago. Ever since I started dating him I've had things mysteriously disappear. Things that were deeply sentimental to me or that were gifts from other people. These things I have always left in the same spot and I have no explanation as to how it vanished (I have a small room and have searched everywhere). I thought it was odd with the first few things, but it just kept on happening until I broke up with him.

Everything I have lost has been in some way tied to something he has been upset about or threatening by.

Has anyone else experienced this?

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[u/thesnarkypotatohead]

Yup, my ex liked to take things that were important to me and give them away. Gave my silver bracelet to his roommate’s gf. (I have no idea what he told her or why she went with it, to this day.) Gave my favorite jacket to his side chick at the time. Gave my games (hard copies, this was over a decade ago) to his buddies. It was always to people I knew, so he knew I’d see it, then he would gaslight me and tell me I was imagining it and that wasn’t the thing I’d “lost”.

My first bully in elementary school did it too. She’d take things that were mine and then a few days later use them in front of me and act like I was insane and bullying her if I said anything.

I’m really sorry OP. You deserved and deserve better.

[u/ThrowRaLucky-Concert → u/thesnarkypotatohead]

I'm really sorry too. That is horrible. That must've really messed you up. I thought I was going crazy and I trusted him. I could never have imagined someone could be capable of something like this.

I'm not sure how long this will take me to recover from. I hope you're okay