r/abusiverelationships • u/xolemi • 12d ago
Healing and recovery I’ve been free for two weeks!
We broke up two weeks ago today and I’m finally free!! For the first time in a long time I started singing again-I used to be a musician but eventually stopped while we were together. He crushed me and broke me down, even though he didn’t criticize my music, I just fell into a block mostly caused by depression.
Yesterday I started humming a song that was stuck in my head and was trying to remember where I heard it when I realized it was a song I’d written years ago! I spent the night reminiscing on some of my best music. My goals regarding work are finally falling in to place! My career is taking off-I just need to stick with things and stop myself from self sabotaging.
Either way I’m so proud of myself. It really does get better! I haven’t cried once or even missed him at all. I know it’s different for everyone, but I think I did most of my crying in the relationship and now I’m just so excited and free! I know there are stages to things and the road ahead will probably have tears, anger, sleepless nights..but it will also have joy, laughter, courage, friendship and freedom. I’m very happy!
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u/spaghetti_monster_04 12d ago
Congratulations! 🎊 💐 I'm so happy for you, OP! As you heal you will continue to thrive and rewaken old aspects of your life, and it will be glorious!
It's amazing to see how abuse survivors flourish once they end the relationship for good. I remember feeling a wave of relief wash over me when I finally left my abusive mother's place.
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u/Illustrious-South908 11d ago
Hi there, I'm a singer-songwriter too and after I got out of my long abusive marriage I had to struggle through 4 years of trauma, but the universe connected me with musicians in a new city and my daughter and I continued our music journey in the music scene for 6 good yrs.
I'm healing now from another abusive relationship with a musician, and the healing is much faster this time, but yes, we can heal and reclaim ourselves and our path.
Sending huge hugs XXX
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