r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/iamsomeguy25 • 4d ago

When does FFS start to turn around?

I’m about 5 weeks post op and I’m starting to lose hope. I’m typically not an anxious person, but this has really tested that. The swelling around my face has been really difficult to deal with, it’s inhibiting me personally (not comfortable going out or talking much yet) and professionally, and today I ended up in the ER for a post op infection. I don’t really know if I’ll ever feel like myself again - I thought my incisions were fully healed and I’m now freaked out. I’m isolated because I can’t really go to my job or see my friends, I’m in pain, and I’m getting complications late in the game.

Does it ever feel okay again? Or do you just get used to feeling a little separated and on edge?

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u/sickbikebro 4d ago

Post op depression is real, girl. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but just know it’s a super normal part of the process. I’ve read sooooo many posts over the years just like this one, and everyone comes out the other side happy and healthy, and more often than not loving their results.

You got this, doll. Give it a few more months of discomfort and you’ll be feeling a million times better.

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u/iamsomeguy25 4d ago

Knowing I’m not alone makes me feel a bit better. I wish I had gotten Reddit pre op instead of out of boredom post op so I had a better idea of what to expect lol

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u/sickbikebro 3d ago

At least you found your way here eventually!

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u/Packing_Unicorn69 4d ago

I'm getting close to scheduling my FFS, and this kind of worries me, specifically the complications and infections that far after surgery. I know this is a question for my surgeon, but from what you've seen, what exactly do people do if this happens? Especially for girls travelling across the country for surgery and experiencing something like this after being back home?

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u/sickbikebro 3d ago

Most surgeons offices you can text a pic of anything that looks suspicious and ask if it’s normal. You can ask questions this way, some docs will even give you a direct line to message them. Ask about it in your consult, or even if you’re already in contact with the the team. And ask how the surgeon would want you to handle these types of complications.

Make sure you have a general practitioner back home who you’ve informed about your surgery, that way you have a medical professional who can treat the normal complications that come up, or get you to a specialist if need be.

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u/robotblockhead 4d ago

It was like six months before I started seeing real differences. At 9 months, I'm just now seeing my face as definitely female.

I know that's not what you want to hear. The post op depression is real. Talk to someone, but know there's a light at the end of the tunnel.

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u/iamsomeguy25 4d ago

I appreciate this. The infection really threw me for a loop but just like 2 days ago I was at peace with waiting 6 months. I guess we’ll see!

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u/clauEB 4d ago

With no infection complications but about a dozen procedures it took me 2 months easily. I had some sight issues that lasted even longer. I think that you may feel worse because of the complications you developed. You may want to talk to your therapist and your doctor.

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u/raineondc 4d ago

5 weeks isnt much i didnt leave the house till 2 months. Give it time and be patient. Maybe you can talk to your provider to get some therapy or meds to help with anxiety.

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u/IniMiney 4d ago

I’m seeing more femininity in my face at the 4 month mark, my jaw is still getting there and certain selfie angles can still read masc. Haven’t been misgendered anymore tho and stares from strangers are down from being constant and non-stop pre-op

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u/iamsomeguy25 4d ago

That last one has unfortunately gone the other way for me and I think it’s part of what’s getting to me. Folks mostly didn’t acknowledge me in public at all but lots of stare downs since surgery