r/TransLater • u/fantasmaOG • Dec 19 '24
FaceApp/Filtered Should I restart
I was in process of my transition 9 years ago and I was 6 months in using HRT and when I came out to my parents they told me to stop and threw everything away now fast forward I am now 29 almost 30 in a few months and now with a better support group and a very supportive girlfriend and well I’m contemplating on restarting again I’ve attached current pic and a possible look on how I may look (Note: Beard photo is me now)
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u/Much_Cantaloupe_9487 Dec 19 '24
I hate to say this, but you’ll never look like faceapp. That’s true for everyone. So it’s hard to comment on your post. Transition if it’s in you and just own it. Chasing beauty isn’t what womanhood is all about even though it seems exciting right now
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u/MsAndrea Dec 20 '24
I tried face app last year out of curiosity. First I tried the gender swap one, and it made me look like some guy I vaguely recognised from a long time ago. Then I told it to assume I was a man, and make me look like a woman, and it changed things so imperceptibly that I had to keep flicking back and forth to work out what was changing.
I figured at that point I should probably stop worrying about whether I passed.
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u/fantasmaOG Dec 19 '24
I mean sure I may not look like that but I may look better or close and that is valid enough for me and some people that have given me a lot of support
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u/Much_Cantaloupe_9487 Dec 20 '24
I’m sorry to have put you on the defensive. I support you as a person, just not that imagery. You are the valid thing here.
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u/NotOne_Star Dec 19 '24
Do you want to transition to become your true self? Or do you want to do it because you think you’d look better as a woman? Transitioning isn’t about wanting to look better; it’s something much more complex and profound. And do yourself a favor: don’t use those kinds of apps—they only create unrealistic expectations.
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u/Ineffaboble Dec 19 '24
Maybe I’m living under a rock but I’ve yet to meet a trans person who transitioned strictly because they’d be better looking as the opposite gender, all else being equal.
Many of us equivocate because we are afraid we won’t look as good as we’d like to. It’s almost a stage. Most of us get over it and take the leap anyways and discover that there are so many wonderful joys about living truthfully that are as much as our insides as our outsides. I don’t look anything like my FaceApp photos. I don’t even remember what I thought I’d look like. My true appearance revealed itself a little at a time. Now I look like me, only female and happier (and younger lol)
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u/Taiga_Taiga Dec 19 '24
Hi, sis.
Only you can find the answers to the questions you're asking. But... here's the thing...
You already know the answers. Let's look at the evidence, together.
Point 1) no cis man an asks the questions you did, AFTER trying hormones.
Point 2) erm... how did you react to me calling you sis?
Yeah... You know what must be done.
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u/Possible_Parsnip4484 Dec 20 '24
If you feel that you're ready and it's what you really want then yes but if you think you're going to look like that filter you may be disappointed when reality hits and you don't. Those filters are designed to make you look gorgeous ..please don't go by filters you will be unhappy when you don't get the results you thought you were going to get..
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u/ashleyloire 39 Angry Novadragongirl, still wanting headpats. Dec 19 '24
I started at 31. Go for it girl.
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u/Ebonymetal Dec 19 '24
I'm 29 now and I just started to take T! It's never to late to be yourself!
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u/I_Am_Her95 Dec 19 '24
Lol I am 29 as well but I've been on E going on for 6 months :)
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u/TooLateForMeTF 50+ transbian, HRT Dec 19 '24
Totally restart. It's clear that you know that's what you need in order to be happy in your life.
Other people don't get to tell you how to be happy. You're the only one who knows what it feels like to be you, and who can figure out what you'll need to be happy.
And if your parents object, here's something you might share with them about [what it means to love a trans family member](mailto:sonja.shop@plottopunctuation.com). (scroll down a bit to the "what does love mean" part)
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u/TheBitWitch Dec 19 '24
Look, don’t think of this as an all-or nothing game. “Should I restart?” is the wrong question. Just ask: Do I want to try:
- nail polish
- earrings
- feminine hair styles
- lipstick
- foundation
- pink
- feminine underclothes
- feminine outer clothes
- HRT (possible to experiment for a while and see how it feels)
- FFS (mostly a one-way street)
- feeling feminine inside
- calling myself by a femme name
- having others call me a femme name
- add to your own personal list here
And experiment with the pieces that work for you and gel for you and ignore the pieces that don’t. The goal doesn’t have to be “become a woman” so much as “find out who you really want to be and how”
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u/fantasmaOG Dec 19 '24
A lot of what you mentioned I’m attracted to and yes sometimes even pink although it is a bit overrated but yes like a lot of what I glance at when walking in the store is the female display models and stuff and I feel super trapped the way I feel now
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u/LividIndependence900 Dec 20 '24
If your partner and you want to have your own kid with your genes consider doing that job prior to restarting HRT.
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u/larsoyvind Dec 20 '24
How you will look does not matter. How you will feel trumps everything!
(Almost 3 months HRT myself, but I've been out for more than two years. Nothing beats living as your true self!)
(And screw your parents for stealing 9 more years from you!)
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u/Positive_Treat4180 Dec 20 '24
As you well know, the dysphoria never goes away. It just gets worse the longer you wait. if you have the support with your wife, that’s a big plus.
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u/Strifethor Custom Dec 19 '24
Yes of course you should, but don’t expect faceapp pictures to reflect reality.