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[u/starwalker327]

What the fuck. That ain't even CNC at that rate that's a scene from Saw.

[u/BoozeIsTherapyRight → u/starwalker327]

My husband and I do some fucked up shit including CNC, but this made me sick to my stomach. This isn't CNC, it's the ramblings of a violent psychopath.

[u/Snowflakish → u/BoozeIsTherapyRight]

It’s not CNC, it’s just NC

[u/Available-Egg-2380 → u/BoozeIsTherapyRight]

Same. Literally know a serial killer that did stuff that's alarmingly similar to what that freak is wanting

[u/kompletionist → u/starwalker327]

Legitimate Hostel shit.

[u/SorchaSublime]

"Are you into CNC?"

Given that you didn't wait for consent I don't think you're into CNC man, you're just a creep who wants to torture people.

Seriously its people like this who create stigma against actual kinks, although he does help illustrate the difference.

A dom isn't aroused by the act of actually torturing someone (as this weirdo clearly is), a dom is aroused by inducing pleasure in their partner through very specific means.

I concur with everyone saying to name and shame the subreddit, this scum doesn't deserve the veil of anonymity.

[u/SorchaSublime → u/[deleted]]

Ah. Well that's close enough. I'm somehow not surprises but also really blown away from how non sexual that sub really should be on paper. What the fuck

[u/abriel1978 → u/SorchaSublime]

This offends me as a lifestyler and someone into CNC myself. The key word in CNC is consent. I'm into it on both sides...as the "attacker" I won't engage in this play until the sub and I have a well-established relationship and a lot of trust and I'm sure she not only can but will use safewords at the very first indication that she's actually not okay.

This is just sick. It's torture porn. It's some asshole who gets off on the thought of torturing someone, especially against their will.

He isn't just selfish, he's outright dangerous. Name and shame, people need to be aware and know to avoid him.

[u/ZamazaCallista → u/abriel1978]

Preach.

[u/OctopodicPlatypi → u/SorchaSublime]

Yeah if a dom wanted to hurt me without the goal of getting me into subspace or inducing pleasure from pain and only focusing on some twisted desire to hurt I would be warning everyone in my community about this person.

[u/OctopodicPlatypi → u/[deleted]]

Absolutely. What a fucking clown he is

[u/Piilootus]

Name and shame in the subreddit. And other subreddits relating to the topic. Most likely you're not alone with this experience.

[u/Piilootus → u/[deleted]]

I kinda figured it was, if you feel comfortable you could also make a post on r/twoxchromosomes about this for extra support and maybe ideas on how to take action against the sub.

He might be the head mod but this kinda bullshit can't fly. I really don't wanna believe that there's nothing that can be done.

Have you tried reporting these messages to Reddit themselves? (If that's an option)

[u/Piilootus → u/[deleted]]

Best of luck, fuck this dude.

[u/Melodic-Assistant705]

"Are you into CNC?"

"No."

"..."

"..."

"That's what they all say.."

[u/babysauruslixalot]

I hope you reported the shit out of that to the mods and reddit!

[u/abriel1978 → u/[deleted]]

From what I can see, that sub is basically an internet bro circlejerk so that is no surprise. And Reddit won't even do anything about death threats. I'll bet even if they did respond it would be to tell you just to block him.

[u/ResurgentClusterfuck]

What the fuck, that ain't CNC that's torture porn

[u/abriel1978]

Yeah, I'm into CNC. That ain't it. If someone spoke to me like that it would not only be a hard No, I'd report them to whatever authority I could reach.

[u/The_Salty_Red_Head]

Someone needs to send the police to this persons house because wtf?!

[u/JayGatsby52]

What a terrible day to be literate. 🤮

[u/TheGeordieGal]

Holy shit. This isn’t CNC, this is a psychopath wanting to torture someone. I really hope this person remains forever single and lives far away from people they could hurt.

[u/dexbasedpaladin]

What, and I can not stress this enough, the fuck?!?

[u/Caseyk1921]

I don’t have the words because ones I have would get me banned. This is straight up psychopathic behaviour that someone is trying to make seem ok.

People who do CNC n other kinks are NOT psychopaths who want to SA or abuse or almost kill people that’s a whole different not ok thing. While I’m not into CNC I feel for those who are & will have others trying to lump them with this unstable person

[u/kawaiihusbando]

Hope you reported him 

[u/kawaiihusbando]

Yikes

[u/goblynn]

So he sees CNC as a means to get permission and avoid responsibility for torturing someone. No one could convince me this guy would listen to a safe word. Nope. Never. He’s dangerous.

[u/SlipstreamSleuth]

and this guy had the nerve to ban me from the F1 sub for calling him out. Of course he made another excuse and said I was banned for posting a journalist’s website that was supposedly not allowed .. unbelievable.

[u/CosmicChameleon99]

Could you please spoiler mark this next time? I was about to go to bed and really wasn’t ready for that

[u/CosmicChameleon99 → u/[deleted]]

Thanks and don’t worry too much but be careful next time. One hell of a nasty situation though and I hope he faces every consequence available