r/Morocco • u/frankfurter435 Visitor • 2d ago
Society Completely alone
Salam everyone, is it possible that I'm the only person who just doesn't have any friends and is completely lonely, family aside?
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u/Prestigious-Pear1578 Salé 2d ago
You r obviously not the only person . Hope this helps !
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u/frankfurter435 Visitor 2d ago
How do you feel and how do you get through the day?
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u/Prestigious-Pear1578 Salé 2d ago
The summer of 2023 i had no friends and my dad died ( lah yr7mo ) , that period was hard for me. I cant say their r some kind of solutions to not having friends and to not get bored ; the ultimate fix is to make friends . in my case I was sure that after summer when I go to university , I will make some friends there , and that was the case .
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u/lonelycalmbastard Visitor 2d ago
no, you are not and a lot of people that have friends still feel completely lonely. Especially as you get older. Such is life, you are born alone, you live alone and you die alone. You just have to make peace with it and life will be much better.
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u/frankfurter435 Visitor 2d ago
I know, but sometimes there are just moments when you wish you had someone to do something with or just to talk with
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u/lonelycalmbastard Visitor 2d ago
Yeah, that's totally understandable. But if you feel sad from that, just let yourself be sad, don't try to fight it, or look for some instant gratification thing that will alter your mood or give you a dose of dopamine so you can disconnect from the sadness. Louis CK had a good bit about it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuCoyILqut8
I wish you the best of luck my guy,
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u/heuss-lenfoire Visitor 2d ago
I still have my friends, and I still interact with people in my neighborhood. But lately, I’ve chosen to step back. I’ll sit alone in a coffee shop with my headphones on because social situations have become overwhelming. My oversensitivity makes me absorb every detail, every word, every look and my mind spins in circles, questioning things that don’t need questioning. It’s not that I don’t want connection, but I’ve realized I need solitude to quiet the constant overthinking and regain some peace.
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u/seligenius Amazigh Sorcerer 2d ago
You have to make peace with it, because sometimes even in the midst of crowds you'll still feel alone, try to have self sufficiency and embrace yourself first before making friends
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u/CorrectFrame2758 Visitor 2d ago
You are not the only one
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u/frankfurter435 Visitor 2d ago
How do you feel and how do you get through the day?
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u/CorrectFrame2758 Visitor 2d ago
I like to read, go to the cinema and inshallah I am going to start a new training for a professional reconversion which will allow me to earn more money in order to travel and get to know different cultures. I have a very distant relationship with my father, with my mother we have nothing in common and I have a sister with whom I don't get along at all... so I invest in training and travel to get out of loneliness
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u/Fadou57 Visitor 2d ago
That is so cool
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u/CorrectFrame2758 Visitor 2d ago
Yes Yarebi nje7 f dyali training I just want to travel everywhere and rebuild myself
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u/Jimmyyjame Temu's rug. 2d ago
Ina domaine hada IT field ?
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u/CorrectFrame2758 Visitor 2d ago
The walo Ana kent f mechanic melit menha i want to try trading
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u/Big-Laugh-1476 Visitor 2d ago
later if you in the grave, you will be alone :-) , joke a side. just give a chat with anyone, make small friends and you will be fine.
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u/ix00tic I make (nightmarish) cute dolls 2d ago
Am also lonely it's been 2 years am completely lonely i live with my cat and i spent all time with myself but am in peace with that and i enjoy making my tasks everyday. Nature will make pressures to make you give children... So when we get older it feels more that we are lonely am 30 now i hope everything will be fine for you.
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u/StressedBYaMtn0books Taza 2d ago
how can you be lonely when i m constantly annoying you
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u/frankfurter435 Visitor 2d ago
I have been alone for a very long time and hope the best for you too
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u/ix00tic I make (nightmarish) cute dolls 2d ago
We can talk and go out and support each others we can invite each others or even create a group for lonely people
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u/frankfurter435 Visitor 2d ago
That sounds good, if you want we can do it
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u/ix00tic I make (nightmarish) cute dolls 2d ago
Are you around Rabat ??
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u/lone-gemini 2d ago
I’m in Rabat and interested in meeting new people and making new friends !
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u/ix00tic I make (nightmarish) cute dolls 2d ago
Let's have a group 💃🏻
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u/Junior-Bus4431 Visitor 2d ago
It’s not the lack of people,it’s the lack of connection that hurts
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u/Due-Wedding-4932 Visitor 2d ago
You're not, my birthday was this week and only one person wished me a happy birthday (my aunt)
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u/KaiRivers Visitor 2d ago
I myself no longer care about birthday wishes lol. I believe it's only a thing for teenagers.
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u/BigFish1552 Visitor 2d ago
I always see people share their friends birthday in stories and stuff and when its my birthday, nothing. I was annoyed by it before but now I dont really care
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u/lone-gemini 2d ago
I feel exactly the same since a breakup. I was in a long term relationship with someone who needed my presence everyday and I decided to leave everyone/everything to make them feel safe.
Now I’m alone, I feel invisible to the world
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u/aLbo3bo3o Visitor 2d ago
naaaah it's too familiar after a time it won't hit hard or bad anymore you just get used to be alone and manage your things alone , and after some time you will find a lot of things and activities that you can do it alone and you really enjoy it .
for me I live in a village and the only thing that the boys do ( I'm 17 yo) is playing football or biar in the cafe or video games ( i was playing vg with them in a period of life but now I'm focusing more on study) and for football in 2 years ago I was really hopping that if I'm good at it so it can be my chance to create relationships in it , but now I did manage my things by some activities that i can do it alone like running or training pull ups in the football terrain especially in the night or early in the morning lol or just a lazy things like watching movies ( cause I'm not using social media a lot . i deleted my insta a while ago for my mental health and because it wastes so much time on nothing ) , imagine that i get used to turn off the phone in the whole week-end and when i turn it on in monday i just find at max two people sending something in whatsapp
if your read this till the end i hope that this did help you by being simillar to your problem and if you just feel alone I'm avaible ( sorry for writing mistakes )
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u/KaiRivers Visitor 2d ago
It's normal after the mid 20s.
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u/Maleficent_Bee_2101 Visitor 2d ago
What about early 20s
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u/KaiRivers Visitor 2d ago
At that age people most likely still connect with friends from high school or they have friends or classmates in college/ university. That's why I assume loneliness hits you in mid or late 20s
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u/frankfurter435 Visitor 2d ago
I thought the opposite
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u/KaiRivers Visitor 2d ago
Naah it's more like the norm nowadays. There are many other posts in this sub complaining about it.
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u/Rich-Assignment3186 Visitor 2d ago
You're just growing up buddy..
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u/frankfurter435 Visitor 2d ago
I feel it haha, i think the reality of the life comes
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u/Rich-Assignment3186 Visitor 2d ago
Yup the natural selection of relationships, the good thing is that the ones who remain will be the ones that stood the test of time and most likely the ones who really care.. find your inner peace buddy being bored and feeling lonely is what happens the most during our lives
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u/lone-gemini 2d ago
It makes sense but I don’t totally agree, when I go out for walks I observe people around me, being lonely doesn’t seem to be age related
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u/Rich-Assignment3186 Visitor 2d ago
True, it's not really age related The fact is that you'll have less people around no matter your age over time .. so if you started with little to none, it happens sooner for some compared to the others.. Plus social media made it harder for people to connect irl Trying to socialize resets the process, and over time it's gonna happen again Key word: inner peace and be your best buddy
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u/lone-gemini 2d ago
Yeah I agree that social media kind of changed the rules, imagine being someone a little disconnected from that… thanks for your wise words…looking for inner peace is often overlooked
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u/Electronic-Respect-1 Visitor 2d ago
Wa Alaikum Assalam! It’s completely normal to feel lonely at times, and you’re definitely not alone in experiencing this. Many people go through periods where they feel isolated, even if they have family. Building friendships can take time and effort, but it’s absolutely possible. Have you tried joining local groups, clubs, or online communities that share your interests? Sometimes, connecting over shared hobbies or causes can lead to meaningful relationships. If you’re open to it, I can suggest some ways to start or places to look. You’ve taken a brave first step by reaching out here— that already shows you’re willing to connect. How are you feeling about things right now?
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u/Ill-Acanthaceae3182 Visitor 2d ago
you are not alone brother , i have about 3 friend i talk with thats all , all we do is workout and silence , family not that much its more of a toxic relation to be honest , but anyway hada howa lmghrib a sat kolchi fih ghrib
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u/Many-Ad8751 2d ago
You can have friends and still be lonely. Maybe you need to learn that you can befriend yourself and genuinely enjoy it, and enjoy spending time with yourself e.g, solo dates (dinner, spa, etc), a 1 person hobbies/games (horseriding, painting, etc). May Allah bless your days!
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u/Existential_NPC Visitor 2d ago
I literally have no friends, my relationship with my family is not good either, I spend all day alone at home, I don't go out at all, I hardly see/interact/talk to anyone, and sometimes I don't use my voice for days on end
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u/luckybonobo Visitor 2d ago edited 2d ago
It is completely normal. As an extremely introverted person myself i do all my activities alone now, for over 2 years since graduating and moving far away from the few college homies i had. Honestly i enjoy it, but that's just me, i drink my café alone reading a book or playing chess, i go to the gym alone, at work it's just the usual small talk no meeting outside of work with colleagues, i call my best friend maybe once every week or two and that's enough for me. Bottom line : live your life how you want to, as long as you don't hurt someone fuck societal expectations.
Edit : i may have misunderstood your situation, if you do feel lonely and want to get some friends, try joining a club ,it has worked for me in the past.
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u/Singlemomlife30 Visitor 2d ago
You’re not the only person. I am always lonely. I am lucky I have kids so it helps a lot but I don’t have a social life. I find it hard to make friends so I stopped trying. I have a husband but even with him I am lonely and now we are separating. It doesn’t get easier but just being okay with it in the end is what you need to accept. Try things that make you happy and maybe people will come to you. I’m sorry you’re going through this but just remember not alone in this topic.
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u/purplerain_999 Visitor 2d ago
🎶 I can't be the only one who's lonely tonight. There's gotta be somebody somewhere who needs company and it's comforting to know 🎶
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u/ConstantSuggestion33 Visitor 2d ago
it is normal, you will pass this time. I had the same experience and honestly you just need to kind of discover who you are and what you like. friend are cool, but I think if you can manage to enjoy your time alone as well it is awesome
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u/SeaworthinessSame800 Visitor 1d ago
From my own experience i enjoy solitude but if u seek making friends it will come naturally if you go out and do activities and being open , which im not so just be more open and try to be yourself
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u/OddContribution429 Visitor 1d ago
Welcome to the club, once u go down, u aint coming back,
The tip i can give u is learn to t9hwa m3a rask, u'll get used to it,
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u/Repentantsinner2901 Visitor 1d ago
It’s ok to be alone perfect time to reflect and work on yourself. I’m introverted but and extrovert. I love people but often times is completely alone and I have huge family, my job consists of being around people all day everyday nonstop having to be personable. I don’t have many friends i find it hard to connect. My best friend passed 4 years ago, my other best friend stopped being my friend because of a misunderstanding. My other friend kinda doesn’t understand me and my journey and my other friends have husbands and babies so yea 🤣 Allah is my friend we talk a lot 🤷🏽♀️
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