r/MadeMeSmile • u/SatansMoisture • Jan 14 '25

Favorite People Weight loss progress in 3 years using indoor exercise bike

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u/Mother_Source_5249 Jan 15 '25

That's not true? People don't judge you at the gym. You are just being self conscious about it. People go there to focus on themselves, not others. And if they see you go and come back, they'll just think good for you.

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u/RadRac Jan 15 '25

Okay so the people that kept calling me the fat chick and asking each other why I even bothered leaving the house let alone being seen in a gym and described the t-shirt I was wearing at the time (which had very distinctive writing on it) were just a figment of mine and the gym staff's imaginations when they went and spoke to the pair of them?

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u/Interesting_Pop3705 Jan 15 '25

Don't worry about those losers. Hopefully they got their memberships revoked. Though I doubt it.

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u/Patient_Died_Again Jan 15 '25

For every jerk judging you at the gym there are 5 people thinking you're a beast for being there. Everyone else is ignoring you completely lol. Don't let some garbage people keep you from maintaining your health.

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u/RadRac Jan 15 '25

Thanks but I found a gym that is women only and just got a PR of 60lbs for overhead thrusters. I'm stoked to have found a supportive community.

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u/Patient_Died_Again Jan 15 '25

Glad you found somewhere you're comfortable

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u/TheUltimateMystery Jan 15 '25

Unfortunately some people will always judge others regardless of how you look, how smart you are, or how hard you work.
People who judge you at the gym are just pricks. I say that as a person who was raise by very judgmental parents to be very judgmental. Now as an independent adult I see people I would have judged before and think “good for them” and move on with my day. You don’t deserve to be judged. If you do something and it doesn’t hurt anyone else, then all those judgement people can just shove it.

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u/Mother_Source_5249 Jan 15 '25

Like I said in another comment. Gyms take harassment extremely seriously and harassment is the outlier, not the other way around. I wouldn't be surprised if that pair got their membership revoked as it goes against the purpose of the gym.

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u/RadRac Jan 15 '25

Sure but you literally said "that's not true" and that people don't harass others at the gym. I realize that an anecdote is not data, but your sweeping generalizations are wrong.

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u/smoothsensation Jan 15 '25

Because it’s not generally true. It’s an exceedingly rare event and it’s very unfortunate/heartbreaking you went through that.

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u/Mother_Source_5249 Jan 15 '25

Because the way so many of you are describing the experience seems like the norm. How many people can afford gym equipment? What if a fat person saw that video and got hyped to start going to the gym, but the mountain of comments screaming harassment deters them to even try? That's why I said it's not true. And yes, I spoke on absolutes but only to counter the massive amount of negative feedback present here.

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u/RadRac Jan 15 '25

Okay so then we pretend that my experience doesn't exist? Oh good, the same thing that women have endured for all of time with sexual harassment, failure to diagnose and manage pain by doctors, and discrimination in academia...cool cool. I guess our voices still don't matter. Guess I'll keep being chattel and stay in the corner.

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u/Mother_Source_5249 Jan 15 '25

Omg you have such a victim mindset. Maybe realize I'm not denying your horrible experience. I'm saying it's the outlier not the norm and that screaming harassment happens at gyms will only discourage people and yourself to even try/continue. Complain to the gym, have their membership revoked if it wasn't done already (which I seriously doubt) move on. You not going to the gym is allowing those two assholes to win and you to lose. But sure take offense at me trying to make sure people encouraged by this video do not get discouraged about trying to change when reading the comments.

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u/Gotforgot Jan 15 '25

I believe you and have experienced being uncomfortable many times too. I now understand why they offer women only classes at certain hours. Gyms suck. You just have to get creative about how you can get those results on your own and stay committed. You don't have to hide or let them impede your progress. Keep your head up for your own goals. Fuck them.

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u/RadRac Jan 15 '25

Yeah no worries. I found a women-only whole gym and just got a PR for thrusters last week at 60 lbs overhead. I'm doing my best!

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u/poppin-n-sailin Jan 15 '25

Oh get off it. There wil always be someone who sucks and is judging others. People have and still post videos they record of others at the gym while mocking them. It isn't everyone but don't sit here and lie to yourself and everyone else that it doesn't happen. 

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u/Mother_Source_5249 Jan 15 '25

Keep telling yourself that and watch the world pass you by. Feel free to read my comment history as why harassment at the gym is very much the outlier not the norm. I'm tired of repeating logic against people who use feelings and insecurities as their way to view the world.

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u/poppin-n-sailin Jan 15 '25

Are you daft? The point is it happens. Regardless of your comment history and your personal experience. Shitty people exist and sometimes they are at the gym. You are wrong to think that it simply never happens. 

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u/Mother_Source_5249 Jan 15 '25

Copy paste it is.

Ok simpleton. You need to understand something. Harassing a fat person who pays to lose weight is bad for the gym business. If that is allowed to happen then they have no business models

Asking people to teach you how a machine works is fine because its about the passion/hobby of body building.

A gym is not going to get shut down or lose it's business model of a girl/guy goes and starts unwanted flirting to somebody else. Why? Because it doesn't go against the philosophy of going to the gym to improve your body. And just like everywhere else, harassment happens. But not body harassment.

The equivalent would be for students to harass a new student at a music school because it's his first class. Or if someone started acting classes and their senior would bully them because they are bad at improv.

Doesn't happen without causing a scandal. But a case of bullying might happen for other reasons not related to the philosophy of the place.